We’re both new but she started around a month before me. We’re the only ones in the team apart from our manager.
Sometimes I’ve felt like the office is a bit unfriendly and I casually mentioned this to colleague (said hello to two people and then looked at me and ignored it) when we went to get coffee together at lunch. And she said well I’ve arranged a dinner with x, y and z from the office and they are really looking forward to it.
Now 100% she didn’t have to invite me to it, it’s really not that. It just seemed a bit harsh to just say it? … If my colleague said I find it a bit unfriendly and I’m struggling to make friends I wouldn’t say well I don’t and I’m having a dinner with colleagues (and basically you’re not invited)
Then today in a team meeting she mentioned the dinner to me again. Saying “oh because you know I’m going out for dinner tonight with x,y and z”
I don’t really get it? My reaction had been to smile and say “that’s nice” and “have a good time”