Everyone in the house can f*ck off!

[TurnedInTunedoutAndFckedOff]

Relentless last couple of days with the kids.
AIBU to

1. feel like my body is not a climbing frame
2. feel like I've run out of answers to the relentless questions
3. sick of separating fights
4. tired of reasoning, negotiating
5. bored of keeping positive
6. sick of hearing myself talk
7. cba with the constant drudgery
8. feel like I just wanna time alone in a dark, quiet room

43, mum of 3 under 5s, perimenopausal and sipping the vino by 430 😬

Blimey, three under 5 in my 20s was hard work. (Had another one too so ended up with 4 with very close age gaps) I'd find it knackering in my 40s and I'm fit.

You haven't mentioned how cute and funny they are. I bet however much they drive you crazy that they make you laugh and feel loved every single day. Fair play to anyone who chooses not to have kids but I the fact that they are amazing is often overlooked.

My kids are in their late 20s and 30s now and I still think they are great and they still make me laugh all the time.

My tips for when they are little are to make life easy for yourself and don't feel pressurised into doing zillions of activities. Also get in help,if you can afford it. I also treated it like a job and tried to really think about how I was raising them so I concentrated of being consistent even if it would have been easier to chuck them in front of the tv.

I’m in the exact same boat I could of written this 😩😩😩 I have 3 under 5 disabled more like 3 under 3 tbh one’s capacity is 2 one’s capacity is 9-12 months then 8 month baby so even a shopping trip is pure hell I can’t do anything with them dh runs our own company so it’s constantly working it’s just constantly cleaning up stopping fights and relentless!!! I hear ya op I’m definitely enjoying my wine and chocolate this half term I know it’s going to hinder my weight loss but I’m doing whatever I want to get by right now 😅 It will get easier!

Ignore this advice. It does help.

OP has already clarified that it was a one off, however there is a whole 'wine mom' culture where alcohol is specifically marketed to women as a release from responsibility, see countless 'wine o'clock' t-shirts, posters, etc. It is an industry within an industry, and there is a lot of research around it.

https://www.houseofwellness.com.au/wellbeing/advice/wine-oclock

Oh my God. Bore off you sanctimonious, rude person.

Hit a nerve, did I? If it doesn't apply to you, it doesn't. However, I found that if did help me a lot. I wasn't talking to you but to the OP, in the attempt to offer help.Who made you the police of this thread?!

I feel you OP. My 3YO is hard work at the moment, testing boundaries and pushing me past my limit. To top it off I'm on my own with him and my 3MO who doesn't sleep, and 3YO got up at 5.55 today so I'm operating with about 4 hours sleep (max!)

Can't wait for my glass of wine tonight 🙃

My doctor told me to switch to gin!!! Less calories and sugar than wine 😂😂

Anyway op, I feel your pain!
I have teens and didn’t think it could get any worse but it does!
Teens squabbling all day about chargers, noise levels, music tastes and what to eat which is 247 and I am really not kidding. My kitchen looks like a nuclear war has already kicked off. There is egg on my ceiling don’t ask me how! Elderly dog is urinating everywhere. Six loads of washing per day - that everyone is too busy revising to help with. They are currently not talking to me because I have insisted they eat something other than pasta for every meal…. 🙄🤐

I wake up at 5.30am just to be able to hear my own thoughts! Paid Work is now a relief these days!

The years go by quickly, one day your future will be peaceful, hang in there.

Just wanted to reaffirm that wine is absolutely the answer, as there seems to be so confusion.

I treated myself to a shower that included a full hair wash and blow dry. By morning I had porridge in it. 👍🏻

😂😂😂

This was me 🤣🫶🏽 Wine definitely is the answer I hid with a bottle of Chardonnay last night and put the dominoes on the table leaving them to fend for themselves dh was present I sprinted upstairs byeeeeee everyone 🤣

I took a leaf out of Blueys book (or Chilli from Bluey anyway!) where we now have a rule that when I am touched out, overwhelmed, exhausted with constant demands for attention then I tell DC I need 20 mins where no one touches me. Take myself off to have a coffee in the kitchen and they entertain themselves for 20mins. It helps, I felt really really guilty the first time but it let me go back to the kids feeling a lot calmer and more capable of dealing with the relentlessness so now it’s an as and when needed thing and I feel no guilt.

Right, hate me, but that's one of the reasons why
I don't have any kids.
Also peri at 43? I might be missing something
at 45.

I remember having 3 under 3

It's a bloody wonder I'm still sane (that may be stretching it a bit)

Sending wine

I had 5 consecutive miscarriages prior to my first successful pregnancy. Number 3 was a happy accident. Not how we planned it. Life just happened.

I am so tired of these unhelpful comments for mums who are simply venting. I could go on the MNers without DC , where there are tons of posts about women feeling lonely and disconnected, and say smugly "Well, that's why I had DC" but I don't.

By all means have DC or don't, but kicking a busy mum is not a good look. Those of us who have grown DC know this is a short lived phase and OP's life will improve very shortly. The occasional wine won't hurt. Venting loudly won't hurt.

All sorts of emotions fly about during our school holidays so I feel you OP.

Mine are 6&9 and comes with it's own challenges, is a great phase for me compared to when they were little though. When I ask them to just play in the playroom for a bit, they do. However, my youngest went on an artistic spree and used every single acrylic paint in the set and created multiple masterpieces across 10 pieces of paper. I have closed the door on the playroom and am taking us out for a welly walk this afternoon 😆

I have a picture where one child has foot in my face, the other is licking my cheek and playing with my hair.

It reminds me of this thread. If it weren’t identifying I would post it.

No boundaries, no filter.

100% genuine question, not attacking, but what to do you do to relieve stress when you have had an epically awful day eg massive fight with someone you love, then washing machine floods, then car gets scratched in car park, then phone gets stolen. When all you want to do is cry/scream, what do you do? Related question-what should OP have done instead of having that tasty glass of wine (bearing in mind she is stuck at home with her kids at this exact moment so pretty restricted physically and probably about ready to walk out of the door and not come back). It’s much more helpful to offer an alternative so we mums are all ears!

If you want a bit of peace and quiet my top-tip is to tell your DCs that they only have x amount of words to last their entire life and if they carry on chatting they'll have none left by the time they reach the age of 9 (or whatever age you choose). Worked a treat on my DD when she was being a bit too much at times.

I thought it was just me. In my 20s I craved nights out and the company of my best friends, now (43) I just want to lie in a darkened room (whilst surfing vinted).

Menopause is usually between 45-55, perimenopause can last for several years, so 43 is not exactly an outlier.

Oh I feel your pain, I had three under five ten years ago and it was hard. There were times I thought I'd scream if one of them touched me again... Thankfully now they're mostly all sullen teenagers who don't talk to me. Definitely preferable 😂