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Would you keep someone who doesn't like you on Facebook?

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cutiepatootie23 · 04/04/2024 08:49

I can think of at least two people who are on my socials who I know for a fact don't like me. We were friends at one point but for whatever reason drifted apart and I know one in particular watches all I do and doesn't have a good word to say about me. I would like to delete her but I don't think it would go unnoticed and then it would be even more awkward when I have to see her (think school mum type scenario).

Equally I don't really want her knowing anything about me when she's got such an issue (I don't even know why she dislikes me, she just went totally cold one day). Wwyd?

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SeaMeadow · 04/04/2024 08:50

I'd delete them, you don't have to have anyone you don't want on there.

stonedaisy · 04/04/2024 08:51

Delete and block.. I wouldn't have someone sneering down their nose at my happy moments with my kids. In the bin.

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 04/04/2024 08:52

I'd delete them. They're going to look like a dick if they approach you about it! It happened to me once and I just said that I only have people that interact with me either online or in real life. Delete and forget about it.

Yuop · 04/04/2024 08:54

I’d delete, why would you have someone who doesn’t like you looking at your pics etc.

GRex · 04/04/2024 08:54

Maybe, I've no idea who is on my facebook. I'd have no qualms removing them if their faces pop up and are annoying. Just remove and on the off-chance they actually notice and then are weird enough to say something, say you were clearing up social media to just close friends and family.

EveryoneJapan · 04/04/2024 08:54

Delete and block. Why do you care what she thinks? Life is really too short.

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/04/2024 08:54

Delete them. I don't have anyone I'm not actually friends with.

BloodyAdultDC · 04/04/2024 08:56

Jesus. Just delete them.

It's only social media, why would you let someone you know ACTUALLY DISLIKES YOU into your life so intrusively?

Blackcats7 · 04/04/2024 08:57

You can stay fb friends with someone but limit the audience who can see your posts. I’ve done this with someone who it would be awkward to unfriend but I don’t really want to be involved with. You can unfollow them too so you also don’t see their stuff.

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cutiepatootie23 · 04/04/2024 09:02

BloodyAdultDC · 04/04/2024 08:56

Jesus. Just delete them.

It's only social media, why would you let someone you know ACTUALLY DISLIKES YOU into your life so intrusively?

We were friends once. She used to constantly like and comment on things. Send cards to my kids. Support events I'd planned (I ran a community group for a while and she was great).

She did always use to be a bit bitchy and judgey of others "did you see what x put on Facebook the other day" comments. But I didn't think much of it other than she was a bit bored and spent too much time online!

Anyway she just stopped speaking to me. All the previous support and pleasantries gone. I suspect our kids had a falling out at some point but I don't know if that's the reason and since she blanks me in RL I've never asked. She's still always the first to view a story on Instagram though.

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 04/04/2024 09:04

Of course you delete them.

GreyCarpet · 04/04/2024 09:05

Just remove her.

She won't even notice.

LifeAtForty · 04/04/2024 09:07

Why don't you just keep her on but change your settings so you limit what she can see?

meganorks · 04/04/2024 09:08

You can essentially stop her seeing your post I think without deleting.

StaySpicy · 04/04/2024 09:10

So she blanks you in real life but you feel it would be uncomfortable deleting her? Why?

thatsnotacactus · 04/04/2024 09:11

This is what filters like Close Friends lists are for.

Berlinlover · 04/04/2024 09:12

I deleted and blocked two women I work with. I still saw them every day at work, I couldn’t give a damn.

iloveshetlandponies · 04/04/2024 09:14

I used to allow people to stay on fb who I knew or suspected didn't like me

I used to post stuff knowing it would piss them off ie happy stuff and successes

V V Unhealthy though and they prob were sneering at everything so deleted and blocked

2chocolateoranges · 04/04/2024 09:14

get Rid!

i delete people on Facebook if we haven’t interacted in Real Life or if they haven’t answered a message or liked or commented on posts for a while.

i don’t want nosy people on my Facebook, I want genuine friends /family hence why my friend number is around 50 people on Facebook.

iloveshetlandponies · 04/04/2024 09:14

Blackcats7 · 04/04/2024 08:57

You can stay fb friends with someone but limit the audience who can see your posts. I’ve done this with someone who it would be awkward to unfriend but I don’t really want to be involved with. You can unfollow them too so you also don’t see their stuff.

Yes I do this with work clients

(I'm in beauty / aesthetics so it's normal to have clients add you and it helps with marketing)

Babsexxx · 04/04/2024 09:16

I’ve got the exact same thing going on no I haven’t removed them because I only put positive stuff on FB kids no drama etc but there the first to watch my story etc which I don’t reciprocate but my towns very small so every possibility of running into them face to face I just ignore it! Used to get to me and I’ve asked myself the exact same thing.

GrandHighPoohbah · 04/04/2024 09:18

Definitely delete. If you hardly speak to her these days it's unlikely to come up in conversation. But if it does, just say "Oh, I'm hardly on there now, so I closed things down to just family and close friends".

Waitingforeverandaday · 04/04/2024 09:19

Delete and block. You don't like or trust them so what they have to say about you behind your back is none of your concern.

tetralaw · 04/04/2024 09:20

Block them.
Ignore them.
Done.

LemonySnickets · 04/04/2024 09:22

I did this recently. 2 women who were supposed to be my friends (one more so than the other). They took to ignoring me in work and stopped inviting me on nights out. So I deleted and blocked them both. I don't share my life with people who aren't friends. Feel better for it too! They've nothing to gossip about now!