@RedToothBrush - Thank you for that fantastic post. I'm a woman 35 years in Scotland who has experience of how poorly written & 'woolly' SNP law can go wrong (I was threatened by our local HT with the Named Person's Act when I asked for an assessment for my son, later fully diagnosed in another area).
I've been speaking to my two teens about this. One has moved from ' but isn't JKR just 'anti-trans?' to 'ok, she is really trying to uphold women's rights'.
My other child (15, ASD, selectively mute, who has come home from her school with trans badges, provided by school, pinned all over her a number of times) is very confused. A lot of her friends are ND. They are absolute sitting ducks & think 'JKR hates trans'.
We had dinner with visiting friends last night, one of whom, X, was female but currently uses an andrygenous name & dresses in a very masculine way & is partnered with a lad who refers to her as 'he'). A really lovely person. After, my Dd said: 'did you like X, even though they are 'trans'? I thought you didn't like trans people because you like JKR?' I said I made no assumptions about X's private life (they hadn't stated they were trans, that was Dds assumption), but I did notice how kind & open they were & how respectful to the 2 Mums present (bringing a dish, helping to clear, unlike one of the lads present who was quite sneery re 'Mums') I took the chance to tell Dd that I thought womens rights were very important too in a general 'live & let live' approach. I have to be more careful what I say to her as Dd is still at a school which accuses parents of being unsupportive of their children if they do not agree to a 'gender change on the register/ exam data' on an absolute whim. I am very grateful to JKR but I'm still cautious.