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China and our children. AIBU to be deeply concerned?

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 07:39

I read this article and am so concerned. So many of our kids are on TT.

https://nypost.com/2023/02/25/china-is-hurting-us-kids-with-tiktok-but-protecting-its-own/amp/

Basically, TT and other SM have the same effect on our brain as addictive substances such as heroine. Developers know this and create highly addictive (make use of our knowledge of the reward centre in our brain), apps/platforms/games that leave us with dopamine crashes when we can’t have it. So that tantrum or meltdown when we say ‘turn screens off now’ is partly, if not mostly, to do with that, is one example.

The article above says that China use different algorithms there for TT so it is helpful for children’s development. They are peddling addictive, concentration lowering crap to children around the world, but protecting their own children.

Why are we allowing this? Why are we not protecting our children too? The science is there.

And AIBU to think that we are at risk, as a country, of raising a generation that will be less well adapted and more vulnerable in the future to a hostile take over?

China is hurting our kids with TikTok but protecting its own youth with Douyin

TikTok is burrowing into the devices — and the brains — of teens and tweens around the world. But, as the app’s Beijing-based parent company Bytedance is aggressively exporting the social media equ…

https://nypost.com/2023/02/25/china-is-hurting-us-kids-with-tiktok-but-protecting-its-own/amp/

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Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:02

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 14:33

Well that’s the other side of the coin of course and it has to be a balance. But we legislate around alcohol, smoking and gambling.

Not in the way China does.

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:03

EarringsandLipstick · 02/04/2024 14:00

I teach undergrad medics about it. Is that expert enough?

Not really! 😀 I'm not sure what you teach exactly, but I teach on information literacy / misinformation, all the way to PhD level and I don't think I'm an 'expert' on anything in this area.

I've informed views, that's all.

I never said I was an expert. But I have expertise through education (doctorate level) and application, in child development and teach on brain development.

I understand the different phases of brain development, the critical periods, the processes of over proliferation and pruning. How the different parts of the brain develop at different rates and how they link up over time and how this is largely influenced by experience.

It’s a massively complex area and is moving at a very rapid rate now we have MRI technology so I’m not an ‘expert’ per se, and can’t possibly know it all, but I do have a lot more expertise that your average Joe.

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Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:03

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 14:36

30 years of working with kids and families has taught me that parents do their best but there are massive differences in terms of education, parenting ability, resources and investment in children. We legislate around other potentially harmful and addictive things to protect children so why not this?

We legislate around health. Things where there is a direct link between toxin and health. Where’s the line? Forced exercise? Limits on all screen time? Etc.

there is a line and China crosses it.

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:07

EarringsandLipstick · 02/04/2024 14:10

No TT allowed in our house at all. I just worry for the kids with parents that don’t see the risks

And what about the benefits? In my earlier post I set them out. TT is not some universal evil.

For example, I and my team in work create TT content daily as part of our university teaching. It's a point of access.

'No TT in my house' is ridiculous. Will you say that right up till they're 18? Are you not interested in raising critical thinkers?

Yes. That’s true. There’s lots of great content but the concern is the addictive nature of it and similar and the unregulated exposure to potentially harmful material (to them and society in the long run). There is emerging evidence of a negative impact on concentration.

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:07

Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:03

We legislate around health. Things where there is a direct link between toxin and health. Where’s the line? Forced exercise? Limits on all screen time? Etc.

there is a line and China crosses it.

Gambling?

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GoodnightAdeline · 02/04/2024 15:07

I don’t think we can legislate against it. I mean what would that legislation even look like? How would it be enforced? What are the consequences?

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:08

Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:02

Not in the way China does.

No but we do. I’m just suggesting it is on a par with gambling and we don’t allow teens unfettered gambling opportunities.

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Saschka · 02/04/2024 15:09

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 14:45

Nope. It’s not that I don’t like China. I don’t like its abuses of human rights and I’m fearful about its flexing in military terms. I suspect it’s intervening re SM is strategic and not child centred.

Not a fan of authoritarianism. I am a fan of science led, compassionate governance though.

And the state over-ruling parents to dictate what their children can eat, drink, and spend their spare time doing. That is more authoritarian than Stalin.

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:10

GoodnightAdeline · 02/04/2024 15:07

I don’t think we can legislate against it. I mean what would that legislation even look like? How would it be enforced? What are the consequences?

Legislate for the companies to take more responsibility for the well-being of the consumer. So a different app for kids that turns off at night and has better firewalls for potentially harmful material for one.

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Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:11

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:07

Gambling?

Involves contract and exchange of money.

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:11

Saschka · 02/04/2024 15:09

And the state over-ruling parents to dictate what their children can eat, drink, and spend their spare time doing. That is more authoritarian than Stalin.

Legislate businesses to keep health and well-being in mind. Not just profit. We now have legislation that means cigarettes can’t be marketed in a visible and colourful way. So stripping tobacco companies if their ability to market to us for example.

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:11

Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:11

Involves contract and exchange of money.

So?

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:14

EarringsandLipstick · 02/04/2024 14:36

OP, you keep saying that we legislate for use of drugs, alcohol, gambling, why not more restrictions around (say) TT or other social media?

The reason is very simple.

There is no demonstrable benefit to consuming alcohol or drugs, or gambling, at a young age. The most that some could argue (that I wouldn't agree with) is that it does no harm.

However, it is clear that there's potential harm, physically, and by connection, other ways, by any of these substances / activities.

Inappropriate use of SM / tech will certainly cause harm. But there's certainly benefits & positive outputs.

Governments need to push tech companies to manage / prevent the harmful content (as they are aiming to do) but not respond by excessively limiting individuals. (There are already requirements around age limits).

When I talk about legislation I mean of companies. Legislation that forced them to put user health and well-being first and profit second. And more education and limited marketing to children.

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:18

CroftonWillow · 02/04/2024 14:19

You're getting a lot of pushback OP, I'd imagine by those who are either young themselves or habitual tiktok users or both. You are absolutely correct regarding your concerns for childrens development and the behaviour of the Chinese Government. Our government and the US government overwhelmingly agrees with you.

Thanks. I’m pretty clear on it to be honest. It’s interesting to see the pushback though. That’s almost as worrying!! But then I get it too. DH is more concerned than me and wants us to limit our screen time as a whole family and I feel like pushing back too! 😂 I know he’s right but then I can’t go posting things on MN and doing this to kill time on my long journey!

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Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:20

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:11

So?

You cannot enter into a contract under 18.

Hoppitybobbins · 02/04/2024 15:21

I have always thought/known this.

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:31

LinLui · 02/04/2024 14:37

I'm 66, have never been on Tik Toc, don't have a Facebook account, and I wouldn't believe anything that our or the US government had to say on pretty much any subject under the sun. The UK and US governments have their own agendas, and are hardly sterling examples of truth, honesty or decency.

Every generation has its "scary" thing that is responsible for warping the young and undermining the bastions of civilisation (usually referred to as "us"). Once it was rock n' roll. The young will survive Tik Toc. I wish I was sure they will survive the lack of a decent education, a lack of a health service, a lack of decent jobs, wages and standards of living. Perhaps if the government wanted to do something about all those things, people wouldn't want to escape their reality.

Well that’s all true and those are all concerns of mine too. I guess it’s about the addictive nature and ease of access to harmful content even if not actively sought. I hope I’m wrong to be concerned but at the age I am, I’m not naive.

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:34

Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:20

You cannot enter into a contract under 18.

Ok. But having a SM account involves a contract too. I don’t see your point.

“The third licensing objective in the Gambling Act 2005 specifically singles out children as a vulnerable group who should be protected from being harmed or exploited by gambling.”

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Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:37

Well, thank you to every single poster. It’s been a thoroughly interesting debate. I do not feel reassured. If anything I feel more concerned that we are asleep at wheel but I won’t lose sleep. Hopefully it’s created a debate that will continue in a small way.

I am nearing the end of this interminable journey so will wave you all tata and put my bloody phone down.

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Otherstories2002 · 02/04/2024 15:39

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:34

Ok. But having a SM account involves a contract too. I don’t see your point.

“The third licensing objective in the Gambling Act 2005 specifically singles out children as a vulnerable group who should be protected from being harmed or exploited by gambling.”

No it doesn’t. A social media account doesn’t involve something in exchange for something. There is no contract. Your education clearly hasn’t expanded to contract law.

There also are regulations around social media - account age restrictions - which minors get around because (full circle) bad parents.

EarringsandLipstick · 02/04/2024 15:53

You are clearly on it and doing a terrific job

I wouldn't say this! On it-ish, definitely haven't got all the answers. And that's partially as I don't think there are defined answers. You can only keep engaging & adapting, whatever the challenge is.

StaunchMomma · 02/04/2024 15:56

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 14:07

Yes. No TT allowed in our house at all. I just worry for the kids with parents that don’t see the risks v

There will always be those parents. There were when I was a kid - parents who would allow their kids to take a couple of their fags or buy them alcohol or let them have sex at home. Nowadays it's just moved on to vaping and dodgy apps, I guess.

The government could do a better job of highlighting risks to parents, BUT these things are covered in the National Curriculum and there are more and more apps in development that allow parents to monitor phones for safety reasons.

As ever, it's up to parents to make informed choices for their kids and not all will do a great job. I would wager there are many parents who are really uncomfortable about eg Tiktok but allow it because their kids were being left out or bullied for not having them, as is the case with gaming (eg many kids under 12 being on Fortnite etc).

EarringsandLipstick · 02/04/2024 15:58

When I talk about legislation I mean of companies. Legislation that forced them to put user health and well-being first and profit second. And more education and limited marketing to children.

Ah ok.

Well that's different to how we legislate for alcohol, smoking, gambling, drugs, all of which are targeted at the user and the direct provider of the product (not the indirect provider).

And it's not what you keep saying with respect to China which is limiting individual choice / behaviour.

And finally, there's plenty of activity in this area. More needs to be done but the dialogue around this at EU & state level (I'm in Ireland) is definitely underway.

I'm all for this.

But you started out with the premise that TT should be banned, like China does! That's a totally different proposition to what you are now saying.

LinLui · 02/04/2024 15:59

Concerningalgorithms · 02/04/2024 15:14

When I talk about legislation I mean of companies. Legislation that forced them to put user health and well-being first and profit second. And more education and limited marketing to children.

Good luck legislating international capitalism....

Dabralor · 02/04/2024 16:17

It's not China's fault so many of us give our children this shitty tech.
They're just harnessing an opportunity to make money off our permissiveness and fomo.