Would you find this strange - holidays

[Wearenottheonlyones]

This is a bit of a strange question but I would like to know what's normal for most people.

Can you remember the places you've been on holiday as an adult? So for example if you've been to a certain resort in Corfu, can you at least remember that you've been to Corfu, a little.bit about the holiday such as whether the hotel was nice, the beach, few things you did there, and know that Corfu is a Greek Island.

Or does it just completely fall out of your brain once you're home?

I have a really poor memory due to PTSD/ bereavement.

For years after the trauma my memory is a blank - I see photos of me and have no memory of being in the place in the picture. It's uncomfortable!

Has your DH had a trauma that might explain it?

Yes I can remember them all. I could probably find at least 95% of the buildings I’ve stayed in abroad since 1985 (since I was 19) on a map (maybe more - I haven’t actually tried yet). I might not remember the hotel/complex name but I’ll find it on clues like proximity to the beach, restaurants etc. I have a visual memory of all the apartments, villas, camp sites and tents, and can remember a few of the things we did and places we visited.

im not gonna lie.. we holiday about 3 times a year, and have a couple of city breaks in the middle... i can remember roughly where we have been and after a bit of prompting i could recall the hotel/accomodation etc...

I remember random bits ‘ that villla in Lefkas with poor shower pressure where we saw cows on the beach and you had that lemon dessert that was too sweet’ type of thing

I was going to ask if you do all the arranging as I suspected that might be the case.

I think you as the arranger and planner find out a lot about the holiday, the geography and invest a lot in it. If he just shows up, gets on the plane, off the plane and goes along with what you have planned he isn't that invested - although he might enjoy himself very much.

I know this may not be affordable or practical but assuming there is anything he would really like to do for example see the grand canyon and go to Vegas or go to Iceland and sit in a hot spring, or whatever got him fired up - I expect if he planned it and took ownership he would never forget he had been. If he just tags along he might enjoy himself but one beach/pool/town/cocktail will be much like another.

@Wearenottheonlyones my memory is pretty good with all other things just not travel unfortunately. I do travel a lot so that probably has some bearing on it and I am the organiser of our holidays, I think I'm so busy a lot of the time I don't focus on where I'm going until I get there and I'm sorting and organising so once there my brain probably switches off.

I enjoy myself when away, but once home its forgotten about as I'm back to rushing about again.

I keep a list of our holidays year by year and often refer to it. I also keep a list of the all the NT/EH places we have been to. And the shows I’ve seen and the books I’ve read ……

I always thought I remember everything but around 15 years ago when everyone was on Facebook my friends (different groups of them) started putting pictures up of trips and holidays we'd done and I was in those pictures but couldn't remember all of them. Some of them, but not all. So, I definitely have been to places I don't remember. And now all those years after the Facebook pictures, I don't remember them all over again.

I’ve got a great visual memory - I can even recognise villages I’ve only passed through and fairly accurately plot them on a map. A small town in wales which I visited maybe 30+ years ago came on tv the other day and I correctly identified it before they even named it.
Same with places abroad, I know every place I’ve been and can navigate round a place I’d I visit again, even if it is years later.

We go away a lot & always have done + I travel relatively frequently with work & I remember all the places & what they were like. I can also remember elements of childhood holidays though not necessarily the names of the hotels although I can picture them. Holidays were far less frequent then though. I'm 54 .

I can't imagine forgetting that I've been on holidays somewhere. However having said that we've never done the beach / pool / resort complex type holidays so they might all start to blend a bit if we had as they're all reasonably simular.

But not remembering you've been to a country before?

We go away a lot & always have done + I travel relatively frequently with work & I remember all the places & what they were like. I can also remember elements of childhood holidays though not necessarily the names of the hotels although I can picture them. Holidays were far less frequent then though. I'm 54 .

I can't imagine forgetting that I've been on holidays somewhere. However having said that we've never done the beach / pool / resort complex type holidays so they might all start to blend a bit if we had as they're all reasonably simular.

But not remembering you've been to a country before?

But not remembering you've been to a country before?

European countries are really small! If you're on a roadtrip/rail trip type of holiday with your pals it's easy to lose track. I'm still not sure if I've been to Liechtenstein. I think I've been to Switzerland but it was probably just Austria.

I have.l no idea which towns I have stayed in for a lot of my holidays and certainly not the hotel names but we did go on holiday a fair bit so I guess if you travelled less frequently the memories would be clearer

Don't be daft - he just doesn't have a memory for that sort of thing.

I'm a bit like the OP's dh.
If someone mentions a hotel, or beach, or certain holiday, I am the one who will say "Is that the one with ......?" or I might ask "Which holiday was it when we did .....?"

We went on a 'once in a lifetime' holiday a couple of years ago and saw so much and had the most wonderful time, but when we've met people going to the same place, my dh can name towns, or regions, or give directions how to get to places, etc. I do not have a clue. I remember the experience when dh says "That's the one where we had that xxx to eat" or "That's the one where we got up at 4.30am to climb up to xxx" but if he says "Nice Town" I have no clue. Nor can I remember any pace names when people say "Where would you recommend going?"

In the UK when we go back to a particular beach or mountain or forest or City, I rarely have any recollection of being there before either.

I’ve been on at least 2 holidays as an adult that I don’t remember at all (nor does my DH). I only know I’ve been because we found a few photos.

Hi. Yes, I can remember most things, but probably not the hotel names. They all blend into one after a while.

I remember them all but have more vivid memories of the best and worst ones.

I’ve stayed in flea ridden hovels and hotels costing £300per night for work.

Some of the best memories are from the cheap places.

My sister booked a holiday the other year, for she and her husband and their two children.
When they got to the hotel, my brother-in-law said 'hang on, this seems really familiar'.
Turns out she had booked the same place twice! B-I-L could remember where everything was located. Sister was clueless