To be gutted I’ve come on

[Geojoo]

Full disclosure I realise that it’s not a major issue, I mean it’s a period after all, and I’m not upset that I’ve got my period for the reason that I’m ttc so I know I shouldn’t moan but I can’t help feel super frustrated. To put it plainly it’s severely interfered with my sex life (or lack of it) lol. Me and dh have a night away tonight and we had planned all sorts of fun but that is now out of the window because of my stupid body. I know this happens sometimes but it’s the fact that I only had my period two weeks ago (I came off last week) and now I have another one and I feel exhausted and achy. Also, we have three dc (2 adults 1 teen) and as there is always one of them at home dotting around the house at all hours etc so having fun, spontaneous and dare I say it loud sex where all your inhibitions go out of the window is impossible. I know I’m just feeling sorry for myself but I was so excited for tonight. It also doesn’t help that my dh (accidentally or in a jokey way) implied that it’s ok we can still have fun eg I can still rock his world. Yeah well that’s great when I feel like a big bloated hormonal tired mess I’m really in the mood to do that. AIBU to feel upset?

It also doesn’t help that my dh (accidentally or in a jokey way) implied that it’s ok we can still have fun eg I can still rock his world that's so cringey I'd be put right off.

It also doesn’t help that my dh (accidentally or in a jokey way) implied that it’s ok we can still have fun eg I can still rock his world

Is he generally understanding? This level of pissed off-ness sounds like it might be served on a bed of dh's ongoing selfishness/lack of consideration for your needs/feelings?

I might be miles off the mark, I know.

Jump in the shower and do it anyway, or take some towels!

I use a menstrual disc so no mess. You could try and pick one up en route.

Yeah usually he’s very understanding and isn’t a dick at all. Maybe it was and I just took it the wrong way.

Oh and having PIV sex isn’t an option as dh doesn’t like it and obviously I just have to accept that.

You mean PIV sex whilst on your period or just PIV sex generally?!

He's being childish - worst case scenario, grab condoms and put a towel down.

Oh sorry I meant PIV sex isn’t an option when I am on my period.

I get it OP, it's tough trying to have a sex life when there is never an empty house and kids at an age where you need to be way to aware of possible noise. I recently was trying to work around booking away with my husband so I wouldn't have a period so we could make the most if it and a friend couldn't believe I would book a weekend based on that lol. Either do it in the shower or tell your husband he's sorting himself

Yeah I’ve suggested condoms in the past but he refuses to entertain the idea.

Well he's going without then

Have you told him you're upset?

Does the place not have a bath/shower. No mess at all.

He doesn't want to have period sex. That's fine. If the shoe was on the other foot people wouldn't say op was being unreasonable. But you don't need to "rock his world" either!

The minute I see a hotel my period appears so I feel your pain.

Yes I’ve told him I’m upset. Nearly just cried which I know is ridiculous (I don’t cry often) as in that frustrated in more ways than one. He said if we use condoms (haven’t done in years since dh had the snip) then “it” will still go everywhere. So yeah that made me feel great.

Any chance you can rearrange your night away?

Or rearrange your dh attitude?

I agree.

Neither are wrong. Personally I don't want sex on my period. And I would be gutted if we had booked some time away and my period reappeared only a week after the last one finished.

But wouldn't be "rocking his world" while going without either.

Oh I get it. My period is all over the place too so can’t ever predict when it’ll be and I’ve had this problem many times.

Really? Childish?

Would you say the same if a women didnt want do the same because she was on her period?

Obviously he already knows you're on your period now but honestly with the menstrual disc he wouldn't even know.

I got mirena in because my periods went haywire at 42. Popped up all all the place. 6 months and no periods once had it inserted - bliss

Ah ok! I had an ex who wasn't keen either on 'claret sex' (wine, like period) as he so charmingly put it!

@TraitorsGate OP has also said she feels achy tired and bloated, so would probably enjoy the night away more at a later date. Nothing to do with the husband