To be gutted I’ve come on

[Geojoo]

Full disclosure I realise that it’s not a major issue, I mean it’s a period after all, and I’m not upset that I’ve got my period for the reason that I’m ttc so I know I shouldn’t moan but I can’t help feel super frustrated. To put it plainly it’s severely interfered with my sex life (or lack of it) lol. Me and dh have a night away tonight and we had planned all sorts of fun but that is now out of the window because of my stupid body. I know this happens sometimes but it’s the fact that I only had my period two weeks ago (I came off last week) and now I have another one and I feel exhausted and achy. Also, we have three dc (2 adults 1 teen) and as there is always one of them at home dotting around the house at all hours etc so having fun, spontaneous and dare I say it loud sex where all your inhibitions go out of the window is impossible. I know I’m just feeling sorry for myself but I was so excited for tonight. It also doesn’t help that my dh (accidentally or in a jokey way) implied that it’s ok we can still have fun eg I can still rock his world. Yeah well that’s great when I feel like a big bloated hormonal tired mess I’m really in the mood to do that. AIBU to feel upset?

Ok maybe not childish. I suppose he's entitled not to be keen on it.

What is a menstrual disc?

I applaud you for having an exciting sex life when you have been together long enough to have adult kids!
I don't understand the gripes about period sex but I hope you find something else fun to do.
(I've been on the mini pill for years. Don't have periods any more).

So HE won't have sex while you're on a period? And HE won't use a condom?

Mmm... Seems like your sex life is all very much on HIS terms.

I can kind of understand the condom part as he had a vasectomy so that he didn’t have to use them and so that I didn’t have to go back in the pill which played havoc with my hormones.

So he's not really Mr Considerate, then, is he? What about the fact that you don't feel like it? Did you tell him about that? Or have you only talked about how he can get what he wants?

He sounds a bit of a twat.

You don't have a poorly timed period problem, you have an inconsiderate husband problem.

Fair enough he doesn't enjoy period sex, but sounds like he's being a child about it- he could be using this time to make you feel better when you're run down and bloated, not acting like periods are gross and suggesting that he can still get off so that's okay. Is he 16?

He's entitled not to want period sex. No one should be having any sort of sex that they're not fully into.

You don't have a poorly timed period problem, you have an inconsiderate husband problem.

This! 👏👏

@MimiGC like a menstrual cup but sooo much more comfortable and you can have sex with it in.

100% this!

This is why I take the pill back to back, no periods for years!
I got my period on honeymoon and I was devastated, it affected everything we did (or in this case didn't) do!!
If you can find a form of contraception that suits you and either stops them or regulates when you have them I would highly recommend it, my quality of life is so much better now.

Reverse this: I don’t want to have sex with my husband on our night away and he’s really upset about it.

Mumsnet: You should have sex with him anyway. You’re so inconsiderate. Your husband has a wife problem. You sound a bit of a twat. It sounds like your sex life is all on your terms (this is a bad thing).

That's not actually the case though. He doesn't want to do anything for her, but he wants her to 'rock his world'. So it's not the same as your imaginary scenario is it?

Of course it is totally his choice when he wants to have sex, although I do think that not wanting to have PIV because you are on your period (but no doubt would eagerly accept a blow job) seems pretty immature. Would he still find a way to ensure that you had a good time too (assuming you're feeling up for it)?

One off bad joke aside, this man is getting flamed because he doesn’t want to have period sex. So yes, it is the same as my scenario.

if my fella tried to engage with me sexually as long as i didn’t make him ‘dirty’ with period blood it would upset me.

its absolutely understandable that not all guys are okay with period sex but to tell you you're basically ‘allowed’ to pleasure him in other ways just strikes me as wrong.

Some men are so immature, honestly. Like we're expected to tolerate their bodily fluids but they can't cope with a bit of blood. As for thinking you can still please him - urgh, he can jog on.

Sex workers have this stuff sorted. Get a menstrual disc or a sea sponge.

That's not the same situation at all.

YANBU. I'd hate getting my period on holiday, I'd be annoyed at the universe too. Your DH was a bit insensitive there, I'd tell him that upset you and then move on. You can still have a nice time, it's really not the end of the world.

Book another weekend away in a few months. You put too much pressure on ONE night.

Seconding menstrual discs

have you tried the implant? Not bled for about 7 yrs... no pain, no cramps, no moods. nothing...

Norethisterone?