DH and ironing issue

[Mummyof287]

4th day of DH and I being off together and as usual when we spend too much time around each other we have been bickering and arguing abit.

This morning he is doing the ironing.He independently decided to get on with it, which is great compared to some blokes, yes, but don't think he deserves brownie points for that really as it should be the case anyway.

I went upstairs to get something and he walked through with one of DD's dresses, which was still full of creases, so mentioned to him that I noticed it still had creases in it.
He was slightly defensive but went to iron it again, and said the iron hadn't been hot enough the first time- fine.
When he told me that, I then responded that 'hopefully everything else already ironed doesn't have creases in it then' (as the iron was on too low before) he then gets all stroppy saying I can do it all myself if I'm going to say funny comments and he is not good enough, then slams the door crossly.

He is now up there, still getting on with it, clearly in a mood.

I think he is being over-sensitive and told him so, but AIBU?

Well all have different standards and by the time it’s hung up and she’d put it on I doubt it would be an issue

personally I’d down the iron and tell u to crack on nothing worse than having your work audited

I'd never touch an iron again if you spoke to me like that

You are both being unreasonable for owning an iron. Take it to the dump.

Hang clothes (with a good shake out) straight from the machine immediately after it finishes. When they are dry then hang them straight away or fold them and put them away.

Ironing is pointless shit for people who want to make work for themselves.

Way back when, before going out on a trip, my wife ironed some clothes while I bathed my daughter. I then got her dressed and found that her dress had some creases. I had the choice of raising it, ironing them out myself, or not giving a shit - either about my wife missing them or the creases existing. I chose option 3 due to a) loving my wife and b) life being too short.

Who the fuck irons kids clothes? Does he also do lots of other things to a lower standard than you'd like @Mummyof287 . Cause being nitpicked like that would wind me right up too.

Or a useful practice for those who don't wear joggers or polyester every day and want to look presentable.
It's not the ironing. It's the relationship.

Maybe go for more relationship counselling?
It's really not a good atmosphere for children to grow up in, as @MonsteraMama said upthread.
It's unsettling for them, so do something about it.

You don't have to re-do it. "Properly" is objective - what his standard of properly is is different to yours. If you want ironing done to your standard, do it yourself.

Not ironed in years pointless task. I just get rid of clothes than don’t cope with a normal wash and dry without being annoying and now they’re all fine. Same with dishwasher proof stuff, it all goes in anything breaks it goes in the bin!!

Yabu unless dd was planning on wearing dress straight away.

Just hang up in wardrobe, then the creases will either fall out or you will need to iron again anyway before being worn anyway. How old is dd? Why isn't she doing her own ironing?

This. It sounds like weaponised incompetence to me. He was probably hoping you'd take over and he could pretend that he'd tried his best as the great martyr.

If my DH made a snippy comment about how something wasn't done to his exacting standards, then it certainly wouldn't be done again. At all.

You pointed out that the dress was still creased. Depending on how old the DC and what kind of dress it was, I'll let that comment pass but for you to then remark how you hoped the rest of the ironing was done properly - just wrong.

If you're constantly nitpicking and criticising then no wonder he bites back. I'm sure it's 50-50 but come on, do you genuinely not see what you did wrong here?

I think you're overthinking it - just let it go. It's not important in my view. I only iron a couple of my work shirts every months, nothing else. DH only wears polo shirts and jeans, 2 DS only wear t shirts and jeans. If there is something I don't want to crease I don't spin on >600 rpm, then I hang it up immediately to dry whilst still wet. I used to do the same with school shirts too (because no way would I iron 10 shirts a week!)

lol she didn’t ask him to iron he done it off his own back.

OP your comment would have pissed me off too.

She is two!
Unfortunately it is one of those cotton dresses which looks crinkled all over if not ironed.

I'm one of the non ironing heathens!

Last time I ironed was over 10yr ago when DH was interviewing for a CEO job.

I do not iron as a rule. Creasy things get hung up from the washing machine into the airing cupboard so they're hanging to dry.