Would appreciate advice- and aware I’m probably just annoyed! I buy my ML and FL presents for their birthdays, Christmas, mother’s Day and Father’s Day. They never ever say thank you! They seem expectant of them. I put time and thought into getting them nice things- they also like stuff as they are hoarders! I don’t like stuff so would prefer wine or chocolates but they love stuff!
Examples are- I gave the ML her birthday present a few weeks early as we weren’t seeing her on her birthday. We then ended up staying at their house on her birthday - went downstairs and assumed we’d open up her presents and cards with her. Husband asked her later in the day if she was going to open them and she said yes she already had first thing in the morning - she never even acknowledged or said thanks! It was so odd. This happens all the time. We posted her Mother’s Day present this year and Absolutely nothing! We knew she received it as it was a tracked parcel. This happens all the time- Christmas , we tend to go a few days after and even say we’ll do present opening with the them explicitly . We send things down early in December as we can’t fit everything in the car so do a few runs- anyway we get there on the 27th ready for our Christmas Day with them and they’ve opened them 🤣 again no acknowledgment or thanks.
I see it as rude and would just stop but they transfer money for our kids and to us for our Christmas/ birthdays. I always say thanks . I’m wondering if I just start transferring for theirs and say buy what you want but don’t want to appear passive aggressive and We can’t afford lots so it would show that they transfer more to us.
Anyway rant over but I think I find it rude and need to change my present giving as this isn’t working. My DH thinks it’s so rude but they don’t have that type of relationship where he could ask if they don’t want us to buy them presents.