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Easter lunch disaster

58 replies

Daisylookslost · 31/03/2024 14:27

AIBU to be a bit annoyed by DH attitude to Easter lunch?

He gets the meat out the packet and says ‘it stinks!’ But it seems fine so I say ‘well what do you expect it to smell like?’

He asks me to get carrots and potatoes ready. He’s bought chantaney carrots that are as small as thimbles with ingrained dirt. It takes ages to prepare them. He starts moaning I’m taking too long, standing there once I’m onto the potatoes waiting to be handed each potato once peeled so he can chop it. While telling me how he just chucked the same carrots in the pan last week and I liked them.

He moans there are too many potatoes they won’t fit (properly) on the cooking dish. Nevertheless they go in the oven on that dish, with the leg of lamb. The carrots get left on the side in their own dish because ‘there’s no point look at them it’s not enough even for one person’ he says. I put them in oven and say ‘we’ve done them now may as well have them.’

dinner is now in the oven, and I appreciate you may wish to vacate this sorry thread now but if not…

He has previously said no to peas but now says he wants mashed swede and asks can I go and look for frozen mashed swede at the co op. I say I’m not getting frozen veg now (12 noon today) but I’ll go look at shop to see what’s there. He’s also asked for red bull. I come back with said red bull among other things. And have managed to pick up some mashed root veg.

when I get back he’s straight on the red bull but whinging about the root veg asking to know the exact contents (he has no allergies). I tell him it’s 60% swede.

anyway… cut to the actual dinner.
he's making the gravy just beforehand and professes how much he hates making gravy. I say I could have done it.
He says the dinner looks bland and I say ‘well that’s because there’s no greens, you turned down peas.’
He starts saying the potatoes are under done. They weren’t.
Then he starts to say he thinks the lamb is off. I’m not a huge meat eater and fussy about meat, he knows this, so I say ‘well if it was don’t you think I’d notice?!’ (Seemed fine to me). I said to leave it if he thinks it’s off. He said it might be this particular bit as some bits on his plate seem fine. He actually got up from the table and started rummaging about over the other side of kitchen and when I asked what he was doing, he was taking the lamb package out of the bin to check the date to see if it was out of date. As if I’d feed my family out of date meat 🙄 he was the one who unpacked it in the first place so could have run his eye over the date then instead of going bin-diving mid meal! 🤦‍♀️
Anyway he eats the lot of meat on his plate while going on about how he knows it’s not off so he doesn’t know why it tastes off.

he finishes much sooner than myself and our child so he then gets up and starts noisily banging plates and cutlery, loading dishwasher

I actually said during dinner that he can buy his own meat from now on (I personally buy the large majority of our food which includes meats to satisfy him). And he replied that he’d be getting lots of takeaways then 🤔

Thanks for reading sorry lack of punctuation

AIBU to be a bit annoyed at him (and never ever wanting to do Easter dinner again)?

OP posts:
DarkForces · 31/03/2024 14:31

I think I'd have walked off and told him to get on with it after a couple of comments. I'd definitely only cook stuff that you enjoy from now on and am not sure I'd bother with a portion for him. He seems to have way too much say and then moan so why bother?

BlazesBoylansHat · 31/03/2024 14:33

Sounds miserable OP. What's your relationship like normally?
Can you take your dc out for a bit to get some head space? I'd be so incredibly pissed off at my dh if he carried on like that.
If this is a regular occurrence I'd be looking at whether I wish to spend my life like that.
Or is there something up with him that he's not coping well with? Either way it's not OK for him to behave like that.

Boombatty · 31/03/2024 14:35

He sounds awful.

Off topic but why the red bull? Its SO bad for you. Friend of mine had a heart attack after drinking two cans. In his 20s.

StormingNorman · 31/03/2024 14:37

sounds like he was being an absolute cock on purpose. Was he in a bad mood before dinner?

nocoolnamesleft · 31/03/2024 14:40

The only time I got full on food poisoning was from lamb which I wasn't sure if it smelled a bit odd, but was well within its date. Fingers crossed for you.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 31/03/2024 14:46

Lordy what a whinger you married eh?

Make sure any takeaway he buys comes from his own account not a joint account.

That lunch sounded so tedious

PonyPatter44 · 31/03/2024 14:47

Oh god, I'd just kill him and get it over with. What a massive BABY.

Mummame2222 · 31/03/2024 14:48

This can’t be real.

I think I would have lost it with him.

DrJoanAllenby · 31/03/2024 14:49

Boombatty · 31/03/2024 14:35

He sounds awful.

Off topic but why the red bull? Its SO bad for you. Friend of mine had a heart attack after drinking two cans. In his 20s.

Years ago I once drank two cans during the course of a day and in the evening my heart was racing! It was a horrible feeling and one never to be repeated again!

DrJoanAllenby · 31/03/2024 14:51

He sounds very contrary, silky and miserable.

Can't you dump this old goat and find someone joyful to be around?

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 31/03/2024 14:54

Sorry, I dropped off

BCBird · 31/03/2024 14:55

Sounds like a prick

Aquamarine1029 · 31/03/2024 14:57

Why did you stay there and listen to all that moaning? He sounds insufferable.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 31/03/2024 15:01

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 31/03/2024 14:54

Sorry, I dropped off

😂 me too. Never been so happy to be sat here alone with a glass of wine watching crap tv.

magicstar1 · 31/03/2024 15:04

You should have shoved him in the oven with the carrots instead of the lamb.

I can’t understand why he was standing watching you clean and peel so he could chop potatoes? He sounds ridiculous.

savethatkitty · 31/03/2024 15:09

Jesus wept. What a whiney man child. From now on, leave him to do food shopping, meal preparation & cooking. He can do it exactly as he likes then. Sit back with a glass of wine & critique it all.

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 31/03/2024 15:12

He would drain every last drop of energy out of me.

cheddercherry · 31/03/2024 15:14

Was this a special performance by him for Easter or is he this charming everyday?

You have the patience of a saint.

Thedogscollar · 31/03/2024 15:18

It would be a case of either he gets out the kitchen or me.
This man sounds like a total pain the arse.

ImWatching · 31/03/2024 15:19

He sounds grouchy.
Was he hungover or something, or is he always like that?

Shoxfordian · 31/03/2024 15:20

Is he usually such a knob?

MarshmallowsOnToast · 31/03/2024 15:23

What was stopping him from going to Co-Op??

IdaGlossop · 31/03/2024 15:25

It may be time for you to become less patient! And, if DH doesn't buck up, your DC is going to learn some terribile table manners.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/03/2024 15:25

He sounds a right pita

FineWordsButterNoParsnips · 31/03/2024 15:28

Sounds incredibly boring. Does the man enhance your life and make it fun? That's the entire point of a relationship. If not, consider what on earth you're doing.

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