Would you move if you fell out with your neighbour?

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good friends once upon a time, won’t go into the specifics but they fell out with us and then proceeded to salt the earth and started a campaign of hatred, rumours, anonymous calls about our kids to the authorities that was clearly them, plus watching us from their window. This is the biggest thing, the watching, every time we leave, the curtains twitch.

wound you move?

or is that letting them win?

they’ve not committed a crime, but it’s weird and awkward. Especially considering as we didn’t really ‘do’ anything, the extent to which I wasn’t even aware that a fall out had taken place. They’ve also fallen out with 2 other neighbours and show no signs of moving themselves

I'd probably consider it. Unless you can't afford to, love your house and don't want to move. I'd just consider it because I can't be arsed with twats like that and I'd want to get away from them. I also don't really love our house (although we do love out neighbours!) So would probably happily move.

I wouldn't move. I'd completely ignore them. We had a horrible neighbour once, he has since passed away, but he took great delight in reporting everyone on the street for various misdemeanours. Everyone blanked him, he was a bitter little man.

If I loved my house / had put a lot of work into it etc then no I wouldn’t consider moving.
If I wasn’t too fussed about my house then I would consider moving. Feeling like you’re being watched would just make me feel so uncomfortable living somewhere. I think I’d want to distance myself from people like that.

So the house is fine, quite like the other neighbours and it works work wise for a reasonable commute. Its the added cost like SD, movers etc and whilst rates are high… and then I want to stay in my eldests school catchment area where it’s not too long a drop off for school, all that stuff.

plus id want a new house or a recently renovated house and there aren’t any.

but equally seeing their twattish faces, really bothers me. I also wonder about safeguarding when my kids get older as the behaviour is quite unhinged

It’s the campaign of hatred too, tried to come after dh professionally too, it was all very weird

In that case no I would stay put. What did you do to fall out with them so badly? If probably stare back if they were curtain twitching at me.

rang their doorbell after a certain time of the day (not nighttime ) to bring around some cake at the request of one my kids and then rather than leave the cake on the ground I took it home. Apparently it caused a huge argument and jeopardised their marriage.

i also was not accountable enough for my mistake and didn’t appreciate the gravity of my error when told

Hahha omg they sound batshit. Let me guess they're definitely older? Bet their life is full of nothingness. I'd just stare back and ignore them too. Live your life and pretend they're not there.

I wouldn’t move but then I’m pretty god damn stubborn.

we had a shitty neighbour once, who caused so much hassle in the street, with police, social services , noise levels whereby anti social behaviour team were involved etc. landlord evicted them 6 months later and she took great delight on moving day shouting to everyone that would listen that it was a shitty wee street, with shitty people in a crap area!

we all waved her off!

No. If it’s just curtain twitching and unfounded gossip. I would just completely ignore them as if they were invisible. The best ‘revenge?’ is just to enjoy you own life and not show their behaviour affects you in the slightest. Laugh at their idiocy.

They’re not old, older than us, child free in their 40s, so not old.

it gets worse apparently there were others micro aggressions we’d done and weren’t accountable for.

mainly when they offered to raise our children if we died, and I politely said we had other arrangements in place

Yeah they're batshit. Just ignore and crack on with your life.

No. Its my house, WTF should I have to move?

We had the neighbours from hell- complained about everything - told us we couldn't put up a perfectly legal fence in our own garden, were racist to my DH, put dog crap on our car, we had to report to the police. Swore at us, played techno music at all hours. It was horrible. Karma took care of them.

They barely worked, having spent most of their life smoking weed and pissing about being rude to everyone. All her son's marriages broke up (quelle surprise) and she ended up having to move into a tiny grotty flat in a horrible dodgy part of town (found this out from another neighbour they had upset) because they could no longer afford to live in the house. The day they moved out I laughed to myself. They absolutely got what they deserved in the end. It was sweet.

We’ve fallen out with two neighbors, we hate them and they hate us, and we aren’t going anywhere. Our response has been to utterly and completely ignore them and never say a bad word. In fact I often throw compliments about them to others, which I’m sure baffles the other neighbors who know about the arguments. My neigbbors across the street love us, and two doors down also hates our mutual neighbour, so it all evens out. I’m sure more people than you know are on your side.

Yeah they are they fell out with the neighbour behind them because the neighbours child when jumping on their trampoline was looking into their house apparently. They wanted to trampoline to be gotten rid of, the parent said no, the child was 6

No stay and ignore them. You win by not caring

Yes, I'd move. It's awful having batshit neighbours.

But make sure there are no official complaints outstanding as you will have to reveal it to a buyer.

I would want to move.

But it's pot luck with neighbours.

Better the devil you know?

You gave the right answer. You don't want them to take action to try and get your kids!

You mean like murdering us?

honeslty the whole conversation was very bizarre. They’d come up with an actual plan and discussed it between them prior to bringing it to us, it had been heavily discussed.

we’d never ever mentioned that this was something we’d like to explore or consider

We moved because of a batshit aggressive neighbour. Best thing we ever did.

TBF we were planning to move in the next few years. We just brought it forward.

It was one of the drivers for us moving.

DH used to phone me before he came home so he was prepared for what our crazy neighbour had done next. All low level stuff like cutting out plants and chucking our furniture into the lane behind the garden. But the cumulative effect was ton much.

Wasn't good for our mental health so we moved.

If they were making my life difficult or I felt I had to avoid my own garden, maybe. If they’ve left you alone for a while then I’d just get on with life and ignore them. You never know what you’d be moving into. There are batshit awful people everywhere. I imagine the other neighbours know what they’re like and take what they say with a pinch of salt.

They literally sound insane. I've changed my mind I think you should move. Are they quite solitary in general? Much family visiting etc or friends?

Very very solitary to the extent it’s concerning (or would be if I cared for their welfare, barely leave the house. We actually thought they’d gone on holiday not so long ago due to the lack of movement and then was surprised to see someone at the window (again). They wfh