Would you move if you fell out with your neighbour?

[Wedonttalkaboutprunesno]

good friends once upon a time, won’t go into the specifics but they fell out with us and then proceeded to salt the earth and started a campaign of hatred, rumours, anonymous calls about our kids to the authorities that was clearly them, plus watching us from their window. This is the biggest thing, the watching, every time we leave, the curtains twitch.

wound you move?

or is that letting them win?

they’ve not committed a crime, but it’s weird and awkward. Especially considering as we didn’t really ‘do’ anything, the extent to which I wasn’t even aware that a fall out had taken place. They’ve also fallen out with 2 other neighbours and show no signs of moving themselves

Yeah we did, our neighbour was unbelievably nosey - to the point he got a ladder up to look through our daughters bedroom window when he thought we were away (actually we were away but I happened to drive past and see him)

We sold at time of really high house prices and made almost 300k in 3 years - this infuriated our neighbour. Haven't looked back (we upgraded from detached to no neighbours in sight)

Did you report that to the police? He sounds like an actual danger

It was a big factor in my wanting to move house. I rented a room in a shared house next door to a friend who also lived in a shared house. Over time, we both got into serious relationships, our other halves moved in , and the shared houses became family homes. We had only children born 7 months apart. We were (and still are) part of a wider friendship group, and we all used to go camping together with the children etc. Sometimes we'd go away with the neighbours on our own.

Things began to get complicated when my friend and I started to fall out. It was very complicated and the wider friendship group all responded in different ways.

The hardest part was when my friend and another friend would stand talking in very loud voices underneath my bedroom window (terraced house), causing me a lot of pain. We had got to the stage where we were civil to one another, but to rub in my face that I was no longer a part of that group was horrendous. There is a lot more to this tale.

Our DHs and children remained friends throughout this horrible period, and as time passed, the relationship healed, with forgiveness on both sides, although we never were as close again as we once were.

I never felt the same about living next door and we moved 5 years ago to a house we now own. There were other issues with the old house too, sobit wasn't solely about that, but making a fresh start with neighbours that are kind, but only aquaintances, was a huge relief.

Never mind letting them 'win' leave the competition, and be happier. That way you win anyway.

You will have to move. I remember years ago, one of my brothers (who is a barrister) says that once neighbours have a serious dispute and/or where there is bad blood, the only resolution is for one party to move. If you're not overly attached to your home and life is so intolerable that they are mischief making and spying on you then there is no question you need to go. I'm sorry you are going through this, it sounds horrendous.

This is why I just nod politely at neighbours or say the occasional ‘Hello’ when needed, maybe a quick wave from behind the wheel. I never make friends with any of them.

It’s the cost and the overall inconvenience. I keep praying that they move but so far doesn’t seem likely

Yes, I did.

I simply couldn't stay living next door to someone who had treated me as my neighbour did ( a very nasty boundary dispute, we had lived there for 20 years the boundary hadn't changed) I got close to a breakdown, it was awful.

Now I'm so glad we moved and our neighbour was the catalyst we needed. We totally changed our lives, jobs everything and it's the best thing I could have done.

I’m going through this at the moment and wondering if we should move. Completely batshit neighbor, he’s not next door thankfully, he’s opposite and down the road a bit. He hates seeing our ds playing in the street, he says children should not be outdoors! He phoned the police because he said it’s a criminal offence for a kid to play in the street 🤦‍♀️ All ds does is do keepie uppies with his ball outside our house!

We are difficult and noisey neighbours was also over a boundary. We unfortunately can't afford to move try to ignore them best I can but feel like I am always being watched soon as I go outside there window opens every time.

Should of said we have not we are

I had a nightmare neighbour and it just made life awful. She would shout and swear at my kids, stand at her door and watch us come and go, call the police about my boys playing football. I did think about moving. One night, she knocked about 8pm because the kids had some friends over & they were planning to camp in the garden. I'm not proud of it, but I absolutely lost my shit on her. I said some nasty things and told her never to come to my door again. That same week, their house went on the market. My new neighbour's seem very nice. They've been here maybe 4 years we smile and say hello and that's it. Perfect