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Original poster

tell me i did the 'right thing' , i feel a total shit!!!

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jesuswhatnext · 28/03/2008 16:11

have just rung police, young couple up the road, known drug users, so pissed/stoned sitting on bench near shops, guy has wet himself, she actually can't focus or speak, lo in buggy crying eyes out.

it's wet and raining, cold etc. BUT i couldn't trust them in my home, soooo, instead of inviting them in and seeing to lo, i have called police in hope that social services will become involved etc. am now worried i have put lo in more strife!

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fryalot · 28/03/2008 21:43

You did the right thing.

HereWeGoRoundTheMulberryBag · 28/03/2008 22:14

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HereWeGoRoundTheMulberryBag · 28/03/2008 22:14

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WallOfSilence · 28/03/2008 22:20

Thank goodness for people like you.

You did the right thing.

Am glad little one is in a safe place tonight.

Go hug/kiss your own little ones xx

Triathlete · 28/03/2008 22:36

+1 Well done.

LissyDuffy · 29/03/2008 00:51

You def did the right thing

StarlightMcKenzie · 29/03/2008 01:49

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logan3 · 29/03/2008 02:21

Because of your actions, that poor child is probably going to be taken away from the parents, hopefully for good! Well done. It was the right thing to do, and the BEST thing for the child....

dizzydixies · 29/03/2008 08:42

starlight am appauled by the service you got when phoning the police, its not their job to clean it up but they should have at least tried to get someone to pass by to check the kids weren't still there vandalising it - the IS their job

its true they have to prioritise calls and cannot be everywhere at once but its their duty to at least try and take vandalism seriously - an ongoing vandalism takes high priority in our force

please don't be put off by this once response from them, as babbi says it really is down to the efforts of the public reporting incidents that things get done

currantbunmum · 29/03/2008 09:05

JWN

Well done for helping this little girl, it was really brave of you to do it, please don't feel bad.

She will probably having a lovely Saturday morning, still in her pyjamas, just had breakfast, and feeling that someone cares for her.

You did the right thing.

Lovesdogsandcats · 29/03/2008 13:49

Think this is really sad, especially when you said that this kid had been the making of her

You did the right thing.

HereWeGoRoundTheMulberryBag · 30/03/2008 10:00

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jesuswhatnext · 31/03/2008 10:38

quick update - i spoke to a lady who knows the family, lo is now back living with maternal gm, a nice lady by accounts, at wits end with dd.

mother has small access to see lo, father not at all, gm going to apply for full residence as she is very unhappy with levels of care provided by parents.

apparently lo has been living with gm most of the time, ss are happy with her having full time care.

so, on a selfish note, i at least feel vindicated

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chipmonkey · 31/03/2008 10:44

That's even better, jwn, better with granny who lo knows and loves than with strangers!

Lulumama · 31/03/2008 10:52

glad to hear this story has a happy ending.. you absolutely did the right thing
i doubt you would have slept a wink of sleep if you had not..

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jesuswhatnext · 31/03/2008 10:54

actually lulu, i heard all this in the shop, didn't admit that I was the person who made the call, (what a coward eh!) came home and had a bloody good cry!!

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chinchi · 31/03/2008 11:02

Good on you. You did the right thing and should be pleased with yourself!

You deserve a pat on the back, and at least LO is safe with Gran now.

Lulumama · 31/03/2008 11:33

sometimes, not always good to let everyone know you were the whistleblower, just in case....

CrushWithEyeliner · 31/03/2008 11:38

What a sad situation.
That is a great outcome for the LO - with someone she knows. Brill. From your actions. Well done x

micegg · 31/03/2008 15:08

Definately did the right thing. SS being involved would be the best thing by the sounds of things. You never know this may jolt the couple into realising they need help if they have a drug problem.

FAWKEOFF · 31/03/2008 15:14

you should be very peoud of yourself...you have made sure that the child has gone into a loving, more stable enviroment whe he/she will be taken care of properly. If this young woman really cares for him/her she will ditch the loser boyfriend, get some help and fight like hell to be the mum she should be to her child x

Nannypep · 31/03/2008 20:30

Yes of course you did the right thing. Maybe now they will get some help, and if not, maybe the tot will be fostered where s/he can be cared for properly and safely.

Triathlete · 31/03/2008 21:24

Thanks for letting us know about the (nearly) happy ending. I hope they will now get some help and the child will be cared for.

quarkee · 31/03/2008 21:40

JWN you are so not a coward - well done - your actions may have changed the LO's life for ever and for the best.

hippipotami · 31/03/2008 23:31

Thank you for the update, am pleased about the happy ending

Just think, you have helped turn this LO's life around...

Well done.