To want to tell the group of men ‘helping’ me reverse my car..

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..to just f**k off?

Took my car to the car wash. It is located off a main road and you have to reverse and turn the car completely round in order to exit. I watched several male drivers get their car washed and exit without any of the car wash employees commenting.

When it was my turn to leave, 4 employees (all men) surrounded my car and proceeded to instruct me on how to reverse and exit. This included banging on the roof of the car and barking at me to turn the wheel more this or that way, now straighten etc. I turned of my engine and politely said I’ve been driving for over 20 years, am perfectly capable of reversing the car and their shouting and banging on my car was unnecessary. Inside I wanted to scream at them to get to fuck.

Why do men feel the need to do this? And no they were not just being helpful. It’s sexist BS because none of them would have dared to behave this way to a male driver.

I hate this shit too. Was about to reverse park outside my house just as a Deliveroo cyclist was coming up the road. I stopped to let him by but he wouldn’t move. Turned out he was waiting to ‘help’ me. It was extremely distracting having him waving around in the way of me trying to park. He looked a bit surprised that I didn’t thank him. I was fuming.

Highly unlikely. "Go and help that woman Cedric, the one who's getting on with a simple job, doesn't look like she needs help and hasn't asked for help".

Predictably, I saw a comments page in a newspaper blaming women for this! Apparently we drive so slowly, hesitantly and generally badly that male drivers get frustrated, so they get angry, so they have accidents 🤷
Women are to blame for everything, always.

I've had to train my bf out of this. I've explained that if I ever need help (not inconceivable to be fair) I will ask.

I get confused when they do it anyway, random arm gestures,reversed in the mirrors, stupid instructions ("right have down, right hand down, RIGHT HAND DOWN!) and then hovering around the edges of the car are all very difficult to follow. So I just put the car in neutral, put the handbrake on, put my hands on my lap and tell them to leave me alone.

My ex used to come running out of the house to help me reverse onto our driveway, I don't know what he thought I did when he wasn't there (though to be fair, I did once run over the food caddy, but it was in the middle of the drive where it shouldn't have been and wasn't visible to me at all).

Yep, I too have been a victim of unwanted man help. It's bloody annoying to be patronised when you've been driving for decades. I've a had a helpful man showing me how to use gym equipment even though I was a regular at the gym. My male lodger giving me advice on keeping chickens when I've had them for years...🙄

I had this once or twice, I ignored them but if it happened now I’d maybe tell them that if I crash my car due to their hand waving, I’ll sue them. Probably not though.

I have asked someone to help though. I drove DH’s massive car for the first time (as opposed to my tiny run around) and parked on a steepish hill.

When I was going home, I was convinced if I tried to move off that the car would roll down the hill, (as it had a hand brake button not stick) so I asked an Asian man to get me to the flat road.

He just nodded and did it without a word, no comments or looks. I think he saved me from a crash that day.

so I asked an Asian man to get me to the flat road.

^

You asked a man?

I'm not the most PC person but why on earth is it relevant if he's Asian??!?