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Don’t get a dog

456 replies

Manyandyoucanwalkover · 28/03/2024 23:30

Dogs are really hard work. They don’t come house trained, so expect to have wee and poo all over your floors. They will eat stuff they shouldn’t and then they vomit. They can be very noisy, they bark and they whine. Some keep you awake half the night. The vet’s bills are horrendous. £75 for a consultation, then medication on top of that. They need regular medication for worms, ticks and fleas. Many dogs need trips to the dog groomer, factor in about £50 every six weeks. This is for 10 years or more. Then they break your heart. 🐾💔

Please don’t get a dog, unless you have thought about all the above.

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FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 05:34

gillefc82 · 29/03/2024 05:12

@marmaduke12 here’s Stanley, my Kangal. He’s 2 so just about finished growing. In the first picture, I’m actually sat behind him 😂 Plus a puppy picture from when we got him at 10 weeks - when I was able to pick him up without giving myself a hernia!!

Gorgeous dog and your other dogs too. 😍

Lovely photo of your arm, very nice of Stanley to let you get a limb in the photo I think. 🤣

marmaduke12 · 29/03/2024 05:44

gillefc82 · 29/03/2024 05:12

@marmaduke12 here’s Stanley, my Kangal. He’s 2 so just about finished growing. In the first picture, I’m actually sat behind him 😂 Plus a puppy picture from when we got him at 10 weeks - when I was able to pick him up without giving myself a hernia!!

Oh he's a dear! I am such a big dog person! I think people are either big dog or little dog people. And that's all good. Little one's are sure a lot easier to walk, cheaper to feed etc. And they can truly sit on your lap. Not like big dogs that try but fail miserably!

marmaduke12 · 29/03/2024 05:53

grinandslothit · 29/03/2024 05:02

I really miss having a dog.

I've been thinking for the last month whether I should get another one or not but I'm not quite sure how that would work when I live in a high-rise.

It just seemed easier when I lived in a house with a big garden to train a puppy.

Lots of people in my building have dogs, and the breed I'm interested in is a toy breed.

So it is possible to do. I guess I just don't know how to do it. I also worry about if I'm sick and I can't take the dog out. Who would take it out?

So sorry I can't help out, but I definitely know it's possible. There's a dog topic here on mumsnet "the doghouse". Somebody there will know about toy breeds. I've just never had one so would hate to give you the wrong advice. Good luck and enjoy! Dogs are the best ( apologies to the cat people)

Geekylover · 29/03/2024 06:00

If you don’t want a dog don’t get one quite simple. Advising others not to get one is a bit strange. I mean I don’t like strawberry ice cream but I wouldn’t start a thread ‘ don’t buy strawberrry ice cream’
btw I have two dogs and love them and they are worth every penny.

grumpypedestrian · 29/03/2024 06:01

We have a household budget spreadsheet and added potential costs to it of having a dog, so knew what we were getting into.

It is expensive and time consuming, but saying ‘I have money so poor people don’t deserve a dog’ is quite harsh. The love and joy we get from ours is amazing.

But I agree about some people not considering every day costs, especially when they get unhealthy breeds that need surgery later in life then can’t afford the vet bills.

Anyotherdude · 29/03/2024 06:07

There’s pros and cons though…
Cons:
They need to be looked after like a toddler
They take up your time
They’re a big responsibility
Vets bills can be high

Pros:
They’re just like a toddler, totally reliant on you, they repay you with so much affection
They make your life better; by training them, you are gaining a skill
They are so adorable and loving that you’d do anything for them
Unless they have underlying health problems, if you care for them well, there is a lot you can do yourself to keep them healthy

Save for vets bills (we put aside the insurance premium cost we were quoted plus a bit each month, and didn’t bother with insurance)
Enjoy them - they won’t be with you forever!

FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 06:08

Geekylover · 29/03/2024 06:00

If you don’t want a dog don’t get one quite simple. Advising others not to get one is a bit strange. I mean I don’t like strawberry ice cream but I wouldn’t start a thread ‘ don’t buy strawberrry ice cream’
btw I have two dogs and love them and they are worth every penny.

If you read to the end, it’s don’t get a dog UNLESS you’ve thought it through thoroughly. It’s sound advice, a bit of a shame people don’t use their common sense and need to be told, but they definitely need to be told!

Too many dogs are given up and a lot of those could have been avoided if the person had actually thought about it properly in the first place.

Dogs are living creatures, they’re not like strawberry ice cream.

Geekylover · 29/03/2024 06:10

FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 06:08

If you read to the end, it’s don’t get a dog UNLESS you’ve thought it through thoroughly. It’s sound advice, a bit of a shame people don’t use their common sense and need to be told, but they definitely need to be told!

Too many dogs are given up and a lot of those could have been avoided if the person had actually thought about it properly in the first place.

Dogs are living creatures, they’re not like strawberry ice cream.

Yes I agree with you. People don’t think and people don’t respect living creatures all the time. I feel for the dogs given up so easily.

PupInAPram · 29/03/2024 06:10

Geekylover · 29/03/2024 06:00

If you don’t want a dog don’t get one quite simple. Advising others not to get one is a bit strange. I mean I don’t like strawberry ice cream but I wouldn’t start a thread ‘ don’t buy strawberrry ice cream’
btw I have two dogs and love them and they are worth every penny.

OP is sensibly trying to save the poor dogs taken on by folk who have a romanticised idea of dog ownership, then dumped in a dog rescue. This is a good thread.

DrJoanAllenby · 29/03/2024 06:10

We have six and often I have nine here.

They are wonderful.

blackberryhill · 29/03/2024 06:12

It's the long term that's the thing that always stops me. At the moment we're in a good place to get a dog (young child so rarely out at weekends or evenings, holidays are limited, one of us is always WFH), but I know that won't last for the next 10 - 15 years and that's what you've got to consider when getting a dog. I know so many people who get dogs because it works right now and then end up either restricting themselves long term or, worse, neglecting their pets because they no longer work with their life. Post COVID return to the office was a classic one.

FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 06:12

It is expensive and time consuming, but saying ‘I have money so poor people don’t deserve a dog’ is quite harsh. The love and joy we get from ours is amazing.

Did someone actually says that? I haven’t read the whole thread.

It’s not a case of not ‘deserving’ a dog, but you have to be realistic about whether you can afford one. Some people can’t. The dog doesn’t deserve an owner who can’t provide properly for them. Good potential owners prioritise their potential dogs needs over their own desire to have a dog.

letstrythatagain · 29/03/2024 06:18

FindingMeno · 29/03/2024 05:27

Dogs roll in fox shit.
That's all you need to know 🤢

Yep this was my dog last week. Nightmare to clean off!

OP you are so right though. We got our Weimaraner 1.5 years ago, my partners 3rd of the breed. He is amazing with dogs and took complete control of the puppy stage but it was still so so hard. I had no idea.

Wouldn't be without her now mind 🐾

Terraria · 29/03/2024 06:23

YANBU

We love our dog, had him since he was a puppy, we love him very much, brought a lot of joy to the family, he is 13 now, it will be so heart broken for all of us at some point.

We spend about £160 for his insurance, food, dog park monthly on top of occasional vet bills. This goes up every year.

I don't think we could do it again unless we can retire comfortably (doubtful). We would also put money aside every month instead of getting insurance.

Terraria · 29/03/2024 06:30

Terraria · 29/03/2024 06:23

YANBU

We love our dog, had him since he was a puppy, we love him very much, brought a lot of joy to the family, he is 13 now, it will be so heart broken for all of us at some point.

We spend about £160 for his insurance, food, dog park monthly on top of occasional vet bills. This goes up every year.

I don't think we could do it again unless we can retire comfortably (doubtful). We would also put money aside every month instead of getting insurance.

I also not been on abroad for 13 years (our choice)

marmaduke12 · 29/03/2024 06:31

This might be a breed specific thing. None of mine have rolled in foxshit! And we are pretty rural, and there are definitely foxes about! Mind you my old neighbours jack russels ate our cats poop so much she came and complained. Aked me to change what I fed them!😆

tara66 · 29/03/2024 06:33

My son got a cockerpoo - she will be 3 in June. She is totally loved - BUT she makes poos in hidden places when they visit me even when she has only been inside for 20 mins. and she does not asked to go out. She has a dog walker who charges about £30 an hour when there is no one at home - who she also adores.
If they are both out at work she goes to him - he picks her up with key to house in morning and drops her of in afternoon. She gets very long walks/ runs in nearby park evenings and weekends at least 3 times a week with one of family for 1-2 hours as they like to stay fit but she enjoys water and mud and they have to bath her after every walk! She also has garden of course. THEN - vet's bills - she has no great health problems (yet) but sees vet quite often. She is groomed for hair cut every 6 weeks because her curly coat ( which is going grey now) is so fast growing and because she loves mud so much. Food - only a certain brand - I don;t know the cost. She is NOT a hearty eater but enjoys any bic pen that has fallen on floor!

Mischance · 29/03/2024 06:38

Dogs are animals and keeping them in a human environment and asking them to abide by human rules is unfair on them. And, as the OP has so well outlined, trying to do so is a total pain.

Devilshands · 29/03/2024 06:45

Nice post OP but let’s be honest…the sort of twats who get a dog who shouldn’t have one or won’t be able to cope, won’t read this post and think ‘ah yes, OP is right, I shouldn’t get a dog.’

They’ll get one anyway as they’re selfish arseholes.

43ontherocksporfavor · 29/03/2024 06:52

We rescued our first ever dog. She came aged 2 so skipped the puppy stage. Never chewed or whined. She’s an absolute delight and we love our walks. Have spent £50 at the vets in 7 years but as she’s now 9 that will probably change. She’s cheap to feed but gets groomed every 8 weeks for £40. She looks fancy but paid the shelter £130! 🥰

PersephonePomegranate23 · 29/03/2024 06:58

Exactly why I don't, and will never, have one!

I love dogs but they're babies that never grow up. They have their own perdonalities and you never know what you're going to get. Some are nervous and don't like being left or don't get on at kennels, so holidays become difficult or out of the question. That would be too limiting fo me.

Definitely a lifestyle choice!

GenderBlender · 29/03/2024 07:10

We just got our first pup, after much deliberation and research. Turns out I am a massive softie and have fallen hard. We have been lucky, she sleeps through the night and is happy being left for an hour or so already. Puppy classes starting imminently.

One thing, I really wanted to get a rescue, but every single dog was either no young kids in the house and/or needed to be with another dog. We waited over a year for a suitable dog, but zilch. We ended up getting a puppy from a family we know.

BombBiggleton · 29/03/2024 07:12

I would say the 'hidden' issue of dogs are ..

  1. There's so many around due to 'lock down puppies' that there's a bit of a backlash against them. Much more dog poo on pavements, very few cafes , pubs or even restaurants that are dog free.
  1. They are so incredibly tying. I am so very frustrated on the things we have missed out on due to the dog.If you haven't got incredibly reliable dog care you can use at the drop of a hat, then be prepared to miss out on loads of things.
  1. Dog boarders are very scarce. If you think when you get one 'oh I'll just use a dog sitter/boarder/kennels/ walker , then be prepared for a shock. We have to book ours a year in advance..literally plan our years holidays around when we can book him in. Dog walkers are popping up all over the place with no real reputation or background, but desperation means people are prepared to give there house keys to strangers.

I would never, ever have a dog again. As lovelans loyal as they are, the hassle, commitment and cost far exceeds the good points.

Notgivingup54 · 29/03/2024 07:25

Sound advice! Our dog is ten years old and still exhausting. I love her to bits but would never get another dog, this was our first. Add to that, trying to go out for a long day or go on a dog free holiday is a nightmare.

broccolienthusiast · 29/03/2024 07:28

I spent over £1,500 on my cats' treatments last month, I'm still waiting for them to chip in 🙄

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