Would you come visit you family with an ill child?

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I think it’s ok if my family comes over during Easter holidays despite us having a poorly toddler. The said toddler has been coughing and vomiting yesterday (today only coughing and temp). My sister is coming to visit with her 2 children. My DH thinks they should wait and that we need to tell them that DD is a little poorly. They are driving down from Scotland so it’s not that easy and I think life just happens.

No, it wouldn’t be fair on the poorly child or the family you’re visiting. I would travel with a snotty child unwell child but not an ill child.

You absolutely should tell them and let them decide if they want to come. Also think about your poorly child not having the peace to get better.

Tell your sister that you have an unwell child and let her decide whether she visits.

No not if they are vomiting. A cold yes. Vomiting bug no.

I this day and age I would prefer to be warned and have the choice to avoid.
It may depend how I'll the child was and also what other plans we have.
If we had something important within 10days I wouldn't want to risk having to miss it if we got sick.

Having just been ill for over a week I have been careful not to passing on to others wherever possible.

OMG no of course not😂😂😂😂 What are you actually thinking? Would you want someone in your home if you were vomiting?? Not to mention the risk to Dsis kids she has no idea about. Honestly 🤦‍♀️

Or let the poorly child get better in peace? The way we would want/need as adults.

sorry meant to quote @snoopyfanaccountant

I would visit, but we always let relatives know first if they’re ill. you need to tell them and let them make their own choice.

If the toddler's already improving, I'd have thought they'd have bounced back by Saturday.

Cancelling visitors from Scotland at Easter is a big deal, and sods law the toddler will be bouncing around by tomorrow.

Definitely not ok especially when there's been vomiting! The visit should really be postponed.

Let them know the symptoms and they can decide whether to come over. Personally, I’d be fine with a cold (unless someone was clinically vulnerable), but not vomiting.

Imagine them driving back to Scotland having caught the virus…it would be a hellish journey. 🤢

She's not vomiting now. She's past that.

In that situation I'd probably tell them that she was unwell yesterday, but improving now.

Toddlers are constantly picking up stuff. When a trip is hard to arrange, you could be constantly cancelling. You certainly don't decide to cancel for them so your DH is unreasonable

This reminds me of a friend’s story of spending Christmas Day with family members who casually announced that they’d just got over a virus. The germs were obviously still on the household surfaces as she went down with it before New Year’s.

Just let them know - and clean everywhere!

She’s still ill, coughing with a temp. Some adults forget children are actual people. We don’t want others in our home when ill.

Have you warned them? I think it’s fine if they don’t mind but then I’d never see anyone if no one came over when my DC are ill

Vomit?
I would cancel.

Of course you need to tell them!

Absolutely not. I wouldn't put my vomiting child in the car, that wouldn't be pleasant for them (or me!). And it wouldn't be fair on the people I was visiting.

And I'd be so annoyed if someone turned up with an vomiting child without having told me in advance (so that I could tell them not to come).

Oh I misread and thought the poorly child was the one travelling.

Still no though. I wouldn't take my children to a house with a vomiting bug.

I'd warn them plans may need to be changed depending on how child was, I'd understand if they don't want to come, but I wouldn't cancel

Just tell them and let them decide. I'd be pretty annoyed if I arrived, with my kids, only for the host to then mention their child had been vomiting.

tell them and let them make up their own minds. Cold - fine, vomiting, no I wouldn't be happy.

We once travelled 8 hours to stay with my sister. She failed to tell me that one of her kids had been sick 2 days before. We all went down with it so spent our 3 day trip ill. And then had the stress of how we were going to travel home. Luckily I had stopped vomitting by then so could drive but felt horrendous.

Tell them and let them decide. I'd not be happy travelling all the way and finding out too late potentially travelling home with sick children. Don't be selfish

I love my sisters but wouldn't want to visit them if they had an unwell child so I would want to be told and I would probably decide not to come.