Would you come visit you family with an ill child?

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I think it’s ok if my family comes over during Easter holidays despite us having a poorly toddler. The said toddler has been coughing and vomiting yesterday (today only coughing and temp). My sister is coming to visit with her 2 children. My DH thinks they should wait and that we need to tell them that DD is a little poorly. They are driving down from Scotland so it’s not that easy and I think life just happens.

Definitely let them know, so they can decide whether they're comfortable visiting or not 🙂

I would let them know and they can decide, it could be a 48 hour norovirus, which isn’t nice for anyone to catch.

I'd be annoyed if I traveled and you hadn't told me your child was ill.

A cold wouldn't bother me but a vomiting bug would make me cancel.

When is she coming? Can it be postponed?

At the very least giver her a heads up and let her choose.

There’s a good chance that you will all come down with a vomiting bug. Do you really want to pass that onto your family?
Friends brought their sick child to stay for a weekend “oh we thought it was something she ate” and we all got it 🤢
So selfish

I would warn them so they have the choice to come or not. That's what we always do when my DS is unwell.

Definitely tell them especially re the vomit, they can do whatever they want armed with all the information.

I can remember someone attending my nephew's birthday several years ago neglected to mention a bug. I kid you not all the 20 or so guests were very poorly with d&v by the Monday. I was pregnant at the time and oh boy !

Absolutely not

How miserable everyone will be over the Easter holidays (or whenever) if they all succumb to the toddler's vomiting bug.. 🌹

I'd be fuming turning up somewhere to be told the child had been vomiting recently.

Of course you have to warn her! don't be selfish.

No S&D can be contagious and potentially make the other family members ill. There are two BH weekends in May - hopefully no holidays and child is well.

You can cancel for your own child's sake, or you can give your sister the information and leave the choice to her. You can't unilaterally decide she should still come.

I'd be f*cking furious if I drove hours to spend time with my family, only to be told on arrival that their child had a vomiting bug. You inconsiderate arse. Tell them.

Nope, we wouldn’t come. Can’t think of anything worse than catching a sickness bug not at home

I didn't even turn up to visit my (now deceased) elderly relatives if I had a cold/chest infection as their immune systems were dreadful.

Recommendations say not to go out until no episodes of S&D for a good 48 hours.

Something similar happened last week at my colleague's mum's funeral. A great niece of the deceased took her DD (5 or 6) to the funeral. The night before, the child was being sick. The family were furious as child's father didn't attend as WFH - couldn't get time off for funeral of great aunt in law. Why TF couldn't the child stayed at home?

Coughing I wouldn’t mind so much as coughs can last weeks but vomiting? Is this a reverse?

You 10000000% need to tell her. I would be totally pissed off if I arrived at someone's house after a long drive and they hadn't mentioned their toddler had been throwing up that week. You also need to prepare for the possibility that you will soon be vomiting too!

Toddler still has a temperature though so not on the mend til that passes. Personally I would want to know and then decide whether I wanna risk it with my kids or not. Some parents are very easy going about illness others are the complete opposite. I'm an anxious parent 😂. If I arrived to a sick child with my 2 kids I'd be panicking and my husband would be cross that my sister didn't tell us (he's more anxious than me 🙈). Absolutely no harm letting the parents know so they can decide what they are and aren't comfortable with, whether others view it as over the top or not.

Complete piss take to welcome anyone to a home with a recently vomiting child without warning them. Personally I'd be staying well clear.

Sniffles, go ahead. Vomiting absolutely not.

Probably not but it does depend. Mild cold, and nobody particularly vulnerable in the household? Maybe. Vomiting and temperature absolutely no way under any circumstances. You need to tell your relatives OP, it would be super unfair not to.

You just need to tell your sister so she can decide if she wants to risk it (assuming your own child is at least well enough be pottering about, and isn't confined to her bed needing constant supervision).

Omg!! What a bunch of weaklings. Children get bugs. Spread it around. It makes us a tougher bunch.
let your family know. But honestly if I wanted to visit you, a sick toddler would be the least of my problems. If they didn’t get whatever bug it is from you, they’d be getting it next week from some other child at nursery/school.
with this attitude we’d be locked up in our homes again!!! And who needs that?
all assuming there is no one vulnerable amongst you. Then it’s a completely different convo.

We’ll agree to disagree, @Carolv A cough is no problem, but potentially catching a stomach bug when you’ve got a really long drive home isn’t something I’d want to risk!