Do I call DH’s work?

[clashreyne]

My husband is working night shifts the next few nights, and he finishes at 6am. I usually always hear from him if he is gonna be later but he’s just done a 12 hour night shift, it’s 10.30 and still isn’t back… I’ve checked trains and there isn’t a delay or any issues so I know he’s not stuck and if he didn’t get train he could get bus and no crashes on the roads. He would say if he’s staying longer.

He’s not replied to me from his work email and his phone is off.

I’m a bit worried as this is very unlike him. If he was going to be late he would always message. He works in the emergency services, but he still always has access to message me even if there’s an incident to tell if he’s gonna be late or something has happened and he has to stay.

would I look like a weirdo if I phone his work or do I leave it a while longer?

I would

Why would you look like a weirdo? Perfectly reasonable to phone up and ask if he is still working, if he left on time or whatever if you are worried.

So would I.

Yes, I would. You won't look weird.

Could it be that he's been kept on and it's just that his phone has died?

I’d definitely call and have done in similar circumstances

If anything had happened to him at work, OP, then you would have been told. Given his shift has ended, you can rest assured on that.

What time would he normally be home?

I would call his work in that situation. He usually keeps in touch and was expected home hours ago. It’s returning from work, not a night out where you can lose track of time with alcohol. It’ll probably be nothing serious, but I’d check.

I would definitely give them a call to see if all is well.

He’s normally home 7ish, latest 8ish if issues with public transport. Because it’s night shift he rarely stays on after it’s normally if he’s doing a day or evening shift then there is the tendency to stay later because something happens but then he always lets me know

I would call...hopefully he's worked later or held up somewhere.

If the situation was reversed, you'd probably get a welfare call so not odd at all.

I would too.

Have you called?

I'm sure nobody would think you were a weirdo for calling under these circumstances. The chances are that he's been kept on to deal with something but his phone's out of charge or has got broken or something, but I'm sure his employer would completely understand why you'd want to call just to put your mind at rest. It's not like he's only five minutes late and as you say, you'd usually hear from him if he was delayed.

I definitely would have called by now, you must be really worried. I hope you hear from him soon 💐

Please let us know when you hear from him, OP. Hope all is well and he's just being a bit inconsiderate.

No definitely call. I was starting to worry about dh after a night shift once. He had got talking to a colleague who had just returned after sickness absence and totally forgot to let me know. With the tiredness after a shift he normally lets me know if he will be later as its so easy to worry.

It's more than likely his phone battery has died, he can't remember your number and he's really busy after something that happened just before his shift ended.

Definitely call. I’d be really worried too

Yes call- likely as not you will be able to stop worrying right away then x

I would probably call his work, I reckon he’s had to stay a bit later as something happened but he hasn’t had chance to call you.

I called, he’s still at work! They said he’s staying until lunchtime, I’m a bit surprised as that means he’s worked over 18 hours…
I don’t know how he’ll manage night shift with barely any rest. Thanks everyone.

Great news, I’m glad he’s ok. Sounds exhausting for him though.

Thanks for letting us know, OP. He should have called you!