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FKN HOBBIES “ifs outing”

63 replies

Toothbrushh · 27/03/2024 22:08

For God sake, say what the fucking hobby is, or I will go mental

OP posts:
AutumnCrow · 28/03/2024 03:17

@SisterAgatha I’m imagining Steam Punk metal corsetry making

ImpendingDoom1 · 28/03/2024 03:32

Well I’m really proud of my DP and his commitment and achievements in naked volleyball.

BusterGonad · 28/03/2024 03:48

SisterAgatha · 27/03/2024 22:28

Sometimes they actually are outing. I went to a nightclub 300 miles from my home, in a piece of jewellery / kit made by my partner within his hobby. Someone recognised it on me and FaceTimed my partner saying we have your missus here and we will look after her for you mate.

I’d never met these people (but they were lovely!)

Did you actually need liking after? That would really annoy me.

PomPomtheGreat · 28/03/2024 04:05

Also worrying if he was abusive and she wasn't "supposed" to be there.

justtidying · 28/03/2024 04:13

AutumnCrow · 28/03/2024 03:17

@SisterAgatha I’m imagining Steam Punk metal corsetry making

That's a hobby I would love to do!!!

BakedBeanAddict · 28/03/2024 04:31

Cottoncandyflavaflav · 27/03/2024 22:43

I think hobbies are outing. Maybe not by themselves but if you have said you are a nurse, have 2 boys who are be 7 and 8, live in Liverpool, have a German shepherd and your DH is into Dungeons and Dragons or being the dame in pantomimes it may be the last piece of the jigsaw that makes someone suspect and search your posts to see if it is you.

I just assume everyone makes a small change in their posts. Eg. Say they have boys instead of girls, add a few numbers to their age, live in the Wirral instead of Liverpool etc.

SharkAttack200 · 28/03/2024 04:48

DP blogs which is not outing. What he blogs about would be crazy outing because I think there's only maybe 3 or 4 'known' blogs on his topic.

waftabout · 28/03/2024 04:52

Also, if you start a thread about a name then it should be compulsory to say the bloody name otherwise the thread is pointless.

'I can't say, too outing'. Oh piss off. 😄

AutumnCrow · 28/03/2024 05:12

SharkAttack200 · 28/03/2024 04:48

DP blogs which is not outing. What he blogs about would be crazy outing because I think there's only maybe 3 or 4 'known' blogs on his topic.

Is it Steam Punk metal corsetry making?

Bananalanacake · 28/03/2024 05:27

Mine is Playmobil, collecting it, arranging it into little scenes, taking photos..it's how I met DH so it's obviously popular.

vanillawaffle · 28/03/2024 05:35

There was one where it was actually really really niche like playing in a medieval quartet but there were 5 members

SilverTay · 28/03/2024 05:58

vanillawaffle · 28/03/2024 05:35

There was one where it was actually really really niche like playing in a medieval quartet but there were 5 members

Yeah that's what I was going to post!! It was a really outing hobby. There was new male member who tried to take over and couldn't even play properly.

Was a great thread. Wonder if he got kicked out?

Baneofmyexistence · 28/03/2024 06:07

Whenever someone moans on here about their DH being gone at the weekend for long periods doing their hobby I always assume it’s cycling! I dated someone for 18 months who was a cyclist and it took over his whole life, I was a complete after thought. I can’t imagine why someone would marry one! I’ve said too much now, maybe I’ve outed myself? 😂

vanillawaffle · 28/03/2024 06:38

SilverTay · 28/03/2024 05:58

Yeah that's what I was going to post!! It was a really outing hobby. There was new male member who tried to take over and couldn't even play properly.

Was a great thread. Wonder if he got kicked out?

Yes! That was it. It was so niche!

winsmurf · 28/03/2024 06:39

Windsurfing is one example of a tiny sport where everyone knows or knows of everyone and would easily lead to spousal complaint (lots of big pricy kit, time consuming even before you add travel, plans change with the weather). Completely incompatible with parenthood if you also have to work for a living.

MinnieMountain · 28/03/2024 06:43

Fencing is outing. Someone proved that to me on here.

Hockey, which is my DH’s hobby, isn’t.

FreebieWallopFridge · 28/03/2024 07:21

Unless it’s something like cataloguing Neolithic hazelnut shells or similar, I really can’t understand why people insist a hobby is ‘outing’

Feedtheworld1982 · 28/03/2024 07:31

My hobby there is only about 100 people on the country that do it and we all know each other! We know there are not more of us because it’s only possible in a certain type of space and needs specialised equipment! I could easily be outed if DH came on here and started ranting about my hobby!

SisterAgatha · 28/03/2024 07:31

BusterGonad · 28/03/2024 03:48

Did you actually need liking after? That would really annoy me.

I didn’t need looking after - i was with a group of muggle friends but I did get free drinks passed my way so for this one time only, the hobby paid off 🤣

imagine if I’d been up to something though. It was a bit disconcerting. We’d travelled a long way!

Westfacing · 28/03/2024 07:40

The hubby with the outing hobby often has a very niche job, which also can't be named!

Trixiefirecracker · 28/03/2024 08:04

Is windsurfing really that niche? Where I live there are loads of people who do it.

MinnieMountain · 28/03/2024 08:12

@Westfacing my DH’s actually is. I can say he’s an actuarial contractor but his specialism is niche.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 28/03/2024 08:17

Whenever someone moans on here about their DH being gone at the weekend for long periods doing their hobby I always assume it’s cycling

Nah it's fishing. The most pointless hobby in the world- and not outing!

Baneofmyexistence · 28/03/2024 09:13

@DancefloorAcrobatics I hadn’t considered fishing! But yes it could be! My only other thought was golf, also not outing 😂

CurlewKate · 28/03/2024 10:25

I actually do have a niche and potentially outing hobby! If anyone wants to guess, I promise to say if you get it right! And I'll answer questions.

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