about colleagues always going on about me getting pregnant ….. at age 48?

[headache]

Every bloody week there’s some comment about me getting pregnant or being pregnant. This week it was about DH and I going away on holiday by ourselves for the first time in 20 years “oh I bet you come back pregnant!” said a colleague. To which I replied very very unlikely at my age (almost 49). “Oh you never know”.

Last week I said I had a dodgy stomach, apparently that was me being pregnant too FFS. I’m peri menopausal and having a bloody hard time over it, I’ve had 4 DC the youngest of which is 14, I have shown no interest in having a baby (DH had a vasectomy after no4 was born) despite all this I keep getting told I’m flaming pregnant. Do you think they will stop when I’m 55?

Surely this is just a running joke because you've got so many children? Hence it doesn't have anything to do with plausibility, they might still say it if you were off on a solo holiday to a silent retreat in a nunnery.

I mean it's not very funny (unless you were off to an all women retreat in a nunnery) and runs the risk of being hurtful when said to or in front of the wrong woman, so it's not great. But the implausibility isn't relevant. They're playing on team stereotyping. Jen's always baking, she's probably got an oven in her locker, Sally's super sporty, she's probably going to jog and swim to get to her holiday in Dubai, Headache's always having babies so she's going to come back pregnant from a trip to the dentist.

How very strange ....

My sister is 37. No one ever asks her if she wants kids. It's pretty obvious by now.

Does this really happen?

Is this going ti be of those threads where your 48.but everybody is astounded at your age because they all think your 23 ?

I'd say publicly something about this marvellous new invention called contraception. Then in private I'd speak to each one about how insensitive it is particularly given the lady with the failed IVF.

Oh I didn't know you had kids already that's even stranger. Who would start again when their kids are teens?

I’ve got a couple of friends like this.

I am 44 with three children. My last pregnancy at 40 and no desire for anymore but they keep going on about me having more, my eldest is 22 soon.

One keeps winking at me as she says it, everytime we met up and I am honestly one wink away from asking if she has a tic.

They are a decade younger than me though, so maybe that’s why.

I had this all the way through my forties and I don’t mind so much if it’s doctors but also my colleague who’d had her 5th child at 37 was adamant that was the cut off age for getting pregnant (she’d had a miscarriage after that). I was dating a man where it could’ve been marriage and kids and was just 40 (I didn’t really want kids though) and then another ex colleague got pregnant and had a baby at 40 which I thought was great.

But it happens. I’ve known single women in their 30s, they then meet someone and have kids.

I didn’t get any comments today but I did make a few comments about being menopausal and feeling very tired and crabby.

I definitely don’t look 23 😀

I have recently remarried and people have made comments about us having a baby. My children are all late teens.

I find replying “I’drather trap my nipple in the door” with a smile usually shuts them up.

Are your colleagues all about 16? Do they understand human biology? Or tact?