To ask to stop your children ‘play’ screaming?

[JediKnightingale]

I live in a cul de sac where we have around six families with small children (weirdly, all girls - not relevant I know) that range from ages 2 - 7. They all walk to school together with parents and at home time they congregate in the middle of the close. Mums chatting and the entire gaggle of tiny noise machines run around screaming for absolutely no reason for about 30/45 mins depending on the weather. During the holidays or at weekends they can be out there for hours at a time.

I and quite a few others work from home in our road - my home office is in the front part of my house and I literally cannot take or make phone calls due to the racket. Normal play noise is absolutely fine but WHY do parents put up with this stupid screaming? When my 3 were small I would never have allowed it but it doesn’t seem to even register with these parents.

Do you let your children play scream and if so would you be put out if you were asked (nicely) if they could play WITHOUT THE SCREAMS?

There is just no need for kids to scream at the top of their lungs, especially near houses

I hate hearing kids (girls) scream like that.

I had sons, so they didn't do it, but I've got granddaughters and they weren't allowed to scream for no bloody reason.

Cannot stand children screaming just for the sake of it. I've four kids of my own and no way were they allowed scream whilst playing. But then I respect my neighbours and other people in general.

Sadly parents that have no consideration for others are raising children who have no consideration of others. And then inevitably whinge that people are becoming less tolerant of their children because they are too stupid to see that their parenting is the reason 🙄

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Ear defenders, kindly meant.

I would never have let my daughter run around screaming like the OP has described. It's incredibly annoying and completely unnecessary - surely children can enjoy playing without screaming loudly?

You have screamers haven’t you?

I am with you OP. Screaming is annoying, unsociable and thoughtless.

Some parents just don’t seem to care who their kids behave or have any regard for others. Play noises are 100% okay but that screaming gives me a headache.

And to the poster who said it’s harmless - no it isn’t. It’s a public nuisance. Stop being so selfish and remember that you live in society where you should think about others.

Or a gag for the screamers, kindly meant.

Why should people have to pay for soundproofing and ear defenders because some people cannot parent their children?

Not surprised by those comments though as these days there are a lot of people that don’t parent and just blame everyone else for their failures.

Every day!! Sometimes for hours in holidays or summer. That’s not on.

Can someone explain to my 6 year old in away that he will understand screaming is not acceptable and it hurts peoples ears.
He's non verbal with little understanding but I would like him to know screaming is not acceptable I've tried lots of ways to stop him screaming but I've failed every time.
Any advice on how I can get him to understand?

Get one of those antisocial behaviour whistle thingies by your house they will move away fast one of the school mums who lives by the school wasso pissed at people stopping by her house for a chat a scream a run around her garden she got one they soon stopped pretty sure it was due to the time someone demanded use of her toilet because their child was "bursting" fucking go home then its my garden not a park!

YANBU. I absolutely hate it. It’s completely unnecessary and just wasn’t a thing when I was a child.
My DD is autistic and finds high-pitched noises unbearable. The number of children who scream in public places makes a lot of attractions she’d otherwise really enjoy inaccessible.

Yes, this high pitched shrieking seems to a new norm. Completely different to the sounds of children playing.

I remember years ago when I was a teenager, I heard a child shrieking and went to investigate - it was so rare to hear it at the time. The child who screamed did indeed need rescuing.

I just realised that I'd never investigate screaming now, because I'm so used to it. Which is awful, because what if a child really is in distress?

The trouble is that these days, if a child screams, no one comes to help. A good scream can save a life but only if everyone understands how important it is to use a scream properly

I don’t. I have a situationally mute son

There's a world of difference between happy playing sounds and high pitched squealing. Next doors kids play loudly in the garden, singing and shouting and it's not a problem at all. The girl on their other side joins them and omg the screeching... Dh has asd and tinnitus and he genuinely finds it painful and upsetting. We went round and asked for the squealing to stop, saying we were fine with other noise, and the dad said that the kids had been trapped inside due to covid for so long that they should be allowed to make whatever noise they want. So I think yanbu but people are entitled and won't compromise and you'll have to find a way of dealing with it unfortunately.

No it's not their fault that she WFH and people should go to an office to work. BUT kids are noisier today and screaming or just being very loud is common place. I dread going into cafes with groups of mums chatting away and kids running around screaming. The parents seem immune to their offsprings unruly behaviour.
There is a general lack of desire to tell children to behave or to give any structure or discipline to how they behave.
Annoying little fuckers

@ScierraDoll there's a difference between kids in cafes snd kids at home having fun.

If the screamers are back this summer I may just find myself listening to Napalm Death for 30 minutes at 1am EVERY morning. Loudly! If I get any complaints I'll say, it's only 30 minutes, what's your problem?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RCKYm2Gw8JA

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

No, not really. Unless their home is in a middle of a massive field miles from anyone

Yes Loud adult parties and if I want to be dressed in my own garden or not is my business right. Even if your little screamer is looking out their window… don’t look 😂

I don’t allow my DD to make that screaming noise, because I don’t like it. But I wouldn’t be making any special arrangements or changing her behaviour because a neighbour had chosen to work from home. My home/street is not your office. If you need office levels of noise, go to an office. Get a set of headphones, whatever.