To want my neighbour to leave me alone

[Blink1985]

a bit upset .. I rent and let slip to my neighbour that my landlord was probably going to sell and now my neighbour is just waiting and waiting for my inevitable eviction to buy my house , she has recently sold her own and has a sweet deal,with her current landlord who allows her to,stay indefinitely. I feel like I tell people too much, too trusting and feel,like every time I see her she reminds me of my predicament. It’s stressful enough the thought of hubby and I being made homeless without her waiting in the wings with glee at my misery and her expected gain. She keeps finding sneaking ways of coming up to me to hint at when I might be leaving. Has anyone else had similar ?

Next time she asks just say “I don’t think we are leaving now, and walk off”. She doesn’t need to know anything.

I’d just tell her landlord has changed his mind, especially if he hasn’t actually decided he is going to sell.
“He’s not selling now so me and DH are going to continue living here”.

I told her the landlord is old etc I really did tell her too much , she even pointed at me asked if it was for sale and to let her know and I might get more time …how cheeky is that.

I voted YABU, because you don't have to listen to her. Next time she says anything just say....oh, change of plans. That's not happening now.

Thanks you are right my hubby says so what, if it isn’t us that doesn’t get the house what does it matter, I just feel like an idiot for adding extra pressure of her wanting us out too.

Agreed that's probably the best response. If she asks why just say there's nothing left to discuss, or words to that effect.

The next time she brings it up, you could say, “Yes, the landlord has given me first refusal, and he’s going to give us 5% below market value since we’ve been such great tenants over the years. I can’t wait to buy it!”

I rent and let slip to my neighbour that my landlord was probably going to sell

Probably going to sell, is it imminent, did he mention this to you or is it something you said during a conversation with her as he's getting on in years but you don't know for sure that's what he's going to do.

She can 'want you out' all she likes, but if your landlord isn't selling right now, he isn't selling.

Stop engaging with her and don't worry about being abrupt, some great suggestions upthread.

Lesson learned there about keeping your mouth shut and generally limiting exchanges with neighbours to polite small talk

I’m really glad I asked here as I was feeling so down and upset about it , thanks for all your great advice 😃lesson definitely learned about over sharing. My hubby says it to me all the time that there’s no need to,say anything more than hi and goodbye to her.

So new owner/s definitely won't be continuing to rent it out.

Can you afford to buy it.
Have you been offered first refusal?

Excuse the quote, not related to.my post...fat fingers here.

I would love to buy it , I need a lottery win LOL! It’s been our home and we are happy here. I’m praying all the time to find a way to keep it!

What does she gain and why does she want you out?

She wants to buy our house , with us out that means the property goes for sale and bingo she swoops in . She obviously wants an ETA or something to that effect 😭

Could you move into the place she is renting?

Ah right, nosey sod, just smile and wave and walk past.

she has recently sold her own and has a sweet deal,with her current landlord who allows her to,stay indefinitely.

Turn it back on her. Find out who the LL is or look out for them and ask them if they will be looking for a new tenant soon as neighbour is looking to buy the house you're in.

They are friends 😒

Why would that mean you couldn’t rent it?

The friend isn’t going to be renting it out , never told me what they intend for it , think they just have some arrangement

“Stop asking me Doris. I don’t have any control over when the LL sells the house, and I’m upset at having to lose it so please just stop reminding me”.

Next time she says anything, tell her you're glad you won't be there much longer, what with the dry rot you've discovered and the mice that keep getting in. And the dodgy guys that keep knocking on the door at all hours looking for someone called Nikolai who owes them a lot of money, and they just won't listen when you say you've never heard of him.

Love this 🤩

Thanks you are right it really is upsetting me and making me anxious