To wish that my sister's boyfriend didn't stay over all week?

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My sister and I are both in our 20s and still live at home with parents, neither of us are in the financial position to move out. We both pay rent/keep. All 4 of us (5 with the boyfriend included) all share a single bathroom, which means in the morning it's already like a military operation to ensure that there is enough time to get in the bathroom before we all start work. However, with her boyfriend staying it's another person that needs to get in there and he ends up using my 'slot' which means I have to get up earlier at 5:45am.

Her boyfriend stays over every week night as he lives further out from his job, so by staying he shaves off 40 minutes of his commuter.

AIBU to think 5 adults trying to get in the bathroom before 8am is too many?

Exactly! I was waiting for the inevitable response that shows the issue is everyone inconvenienced is wet, so the CFs carry on as pleases them 😌

Ask you parents to please tell sister he can't stay anymore.

Sometimes parents just need a little push.

Wondering this too. I suspect the "slots" are unspoken and he has no idea he's taken anyone else's.

The obvious answer is to SAY SOMETHING and then DRAW UP A PROPER ROTA to make the slots official. This is not hard. Anyone who's lived in a houseshare has managed it. But in cases like these it's like the OP just wants advice on how to telepathically communicate something. And then receives nuclear-option advice like "move out" or "get him to move out".

Agree why is everyone pussy footing around him and her

I think speak to your parents and suggest weekends only for overnight guests. With the agreement applied to all fairly (so if you get a bf/gf next week, you will adhere to the same rule).

A bit weird that your parents would allow a man to sleep with your sister under their roof when they are not married.

What century are you living in?

It's not weird at all.

Blimey, I had to check what year it was then! 👀

OP, I'd make a bathroom rota and see if everyone might stick to it?

My main concern would be my sister had attracted a free loading cock lodger and how to get her out the relationship

My adult dc live at home while saving for their own place, that is fine by me, but I would absolutely draw the line at dps moving in, no way. You need to retain your slot, and ds and her dp need to sort the remaining time out between them.

I would be ready to go and 1 minute before him and your usual slot (when you hear him going for the door) get in there first he will soon learn he has to go in earlier

This right here!

Two things:
*shower in the evening 🤔
*sister and boyfriend jump in together 😉

On a serious note, and as a parent of grown up children, there’s no way he’d be living with us if in a ‘new relationship’, if at all, if we were pushed for space🙂

My main concern would be my sister had attracted a free loading cock lodger and how to get her out the relationship
I'd agree.

It's very convenient to move in with a new girlfriend, who lives with her parents, by stealth.

Oh for goodness sake don’t be such a wet lettuce! He’s not even your guest.
Let him get earlier.

What time do you need to be in the bathroom in order to be ready in time?
Say to everyone we need to talk, this morning system isn’t working I’m not prepared to get up at 5:45 to use the bathroom. This is my home and I need to be in the bathroom at 7am once mum and dad have finished.
Everyone should be taking showers in the evening as well instead of the morning if they aren’t prepared to get up earlier.

Maybe it's time for your sister and bf to move out

What’s the difference in paying rent to your parents to paying rent in a shared house or own flat/house?

If it’s not substantially more I’d be tempted to leave.

Or is there a gym you’re a member of?

Good grief your parents are wetter than the Atlantic

If your parents use the bathroom from 6-7 I’d be waiting outside at 7 to get in. Your sister and her boyfriend can either get up earlier or go in after you.

What was your time slot before BF moved in? You say parents have from 6-7am (1/2hr each...seems a long time to use the bathroom in the morning before work, especially in a household of 4 or 5). Did you and your sister use the bathroom after 7am, but now sister and BF are using it then, so it doesn't leave you enough time so you have to get up over an hour earlier?

Why is everyone tip toeing around this chancer?

Don’t work out a new rota! Back your parents up in telling your sister that it’s not acceptable for this man to stay over all week. I can’t think of any decent man/woman who’d do this.

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Are you serious or joking?

No, my dad would have frozen in hell before he would have allowed a boyfriend to sleep over with me under his roof…obviously it was different once married. I guess times change though. But still seems weird to me and a bit improper.