Not coping with these kids

[endofmytether88]

Half term. 7 year old and 2 year old. Partner away for most of it due to funerals down south.
I'm pretty sure I have adhd or something along those lines, I don't cope well with mess noise, I'm terrible at timekeeping and organisation.

These kids are driving me insane, constant noise shouting at each other, hurting each other. House is a mess. Emptied bin and entire contents spilled out of the ripped liner.

Youngest won't eat what she does she covers herself in. I've not had time to shower or brush my hair or teeth yet today. Every 5 seconds it's mummy mummy mummy. I want to break down and cry. I can't cope with this level of noise and mess in this tiny house.

I have 3dcs and when I feel like this my first instinct is get out of the house, the kids are going crazy because they’re bored, go to the park,a walk, soft play , anything to get out of the house, feed the ducks anything just get out reset your mind. It’s not good for anyone stuck inside all day

Doorstep wine and ciggy time.

At least now you know 2 kids is the limit.

@Pinkbonbon this may be the best advice I've seen on Mumsnet
No seriously though, give yourself a minute. Then get yourselves sorted and let them wear themselves out at the park.

@Pinkbonbon 🤣

@Pinkbonbon genuinely you win, I don't think there will actually be more sound advice!! 😂 I've got a vape in a handbag somewhere I'll dig out haha! 2 definitely is my limit!!

It's chucking it down here which makes its worse, I think tomorrow we'll have to do soft play or something as I can't have another day like today. It's the constant I cannot hear myself fucking think mummy mummy all the time. At one point I think I said pretend I'm not here and sort yourselves out..I feel like I've been to war.

Firstly don’t feel bad. 2 small kids + small house + shit weather is a recipe for disaster. Some ideas to entertain them when you can’t get out/if money is tight:

• Dance freeze song on alexa and tell them they’re out if you see them wobble during freeze
• Kids yoga on YouTube- Andy the dinosaur guy does some good ‘work outs’ too
• Rainbow game- pick a colour and they each have to bring you 1/3/10 things that colour
• Make a den it trashed the house but I find mine play for ages in it when I’ve made it
• hide and seek- hide v well so you get a minute 😂

It's probably not considered good parenting these days but I will sometimes resort to telling mine to go and find something to do when I'm in the middle of cooking or cleaning up. Maybe not the 2 year old but older children need to learn ways to entertain themselves for short periods at least.

I always think, kids disco, couple of balloons and disco lights (Amazon) great for endless rainy days. And wine obviously…..definitely a trip to soft play or similar tomorrow if you can. So much better when the weather isn’t awful.

God I feel your posts deep in my soul! I have a 5yo and a 2yo, but it's still term time here. Even some of our weekend days are like this tbh.

I would say though that my two have recently gotten soo much better at playing together well over the past two months or so. I mean, the noise and mess is still awful but at least they're fighting less and entertaining each other more. Is your 2 just two? If so you might find it improves somewhat in a few months when they're a little older and 'play' better with the older one.

I agree going out is best but then like you we've just had 12 months worth of heavy constant rain. I don't drive either and don't have the money to be doing soft play and cafes every bloody day anyway. Do they have any friends or family who could come over or you could visit them to help keep them entertained?

Mine both have ADHD and we could never stay in unless it was a heatwave. Had to go out every morning and every afternoon (live in a flat). I too can't stand noise and mess but the only way to avoid is to go out.

I found puddle hopping followed by a warm bath and snuggles in front of the tv worked wonders in wet, cold weather.

Finally some real advice on one of these threads 😂😂😂😂

Half term? Was this problem back in February?

Or do you mean Easter Holidays and it's now?

When you have a moment, look up Clutterbug (she has ADHD), and A Slob comes clean (think she also has ADHD). Plus any minimalist youtuber (i like Joshua becker and the minimal mom).

Discovering minimalism literally saved my sanity and I wish Id found it earlier. A decluttered home is way easier to manage and clean. Decluttering was great but the real solution for me came from vastly reducing what came into the house and embracing minimalism. I wish Id done it whilst the DC were younger and seriously limited the number of toys they had.

Do any of your eldest child’s friends go to a holiday club? I’d book your seven year old into one for some sanity for both of you.

Picnic on a blanket on the floor(no plates). Build a tent out of a duvet cover over chairs.
Disco music on. Treat for the best dance pose. A game of turn-all-your-clothes-inside-out. Show them how to forward roll or hand stand. Scariest face competition. Throw a soft toy in the basket.
And breathe, it is all a phase, it will pass. Just get through today.
Just get through today my love.
xx

Half term is the school holiday which splits a whole term into two. This is the Easter holiday.

Really? This is the second comment like this on this thread.

Slow clap

I used to do lots of day time bubble baths with lots of their plastic toys in to kill an hour with mine!

Competitions- art competitions, Lego competitions, or whoever finds x gets whatever, build a fort in the sitting room and put all their teddies in.

Surely people don’t do this in conversation in real life, right?

“Send help, I’m trapped in an elevator”
”Sorry, I’m not American, I don’t understand what an elevator is. Might you be trapped in a lift perchance?”

The 7 year old should be capable of amusing him/herself. The two year old is likely to be more demanding.

Try and find something to amuse the 2 year old for a while, and take 5 minutes. It’s quite normal and passes.🙂

I find them both separately to be fine (when eldest at school, or youngest out with dad etc) but together oh my god, it's chaos. They can't leave each other alone and eldest is always mummy she's doing this, or then she's crying as he's kicked her away, or he's crying cos she's not whacked him with a toy.

Yes I meant Easter holidays, I call every holiday other than summer half term for some reason!

Thank you so much all for the suggestions and I'll look up clutter bug! I don't think it helps my brain being how it is as my mind is always "noisy" anyway and then I struggle even more with the kids!

My dad has taken the eldest for tea and my youngest is ready for bed so I can finally hear myself think, trying to prepare myself for another day at war tomorrow!

It isn't to early to tell them Santa is watching them @endofmytether88!
Oh, and do give over @DragonGypsyDoris and @penjil, you know what op means.

Yes I have a 3 year old a 2 year old. Eldest usually does 4 hours a day in a playgroup but without that today has been hard. Rubbish weather today here too. Went to the park they got so muddy so just washing everything now. I don't drive either, I'm learning. Feel like my life will be so much easier when I can drive them to a group or activity or a soft play or something. I feel exhausted and it's only day one of the holidays!