Is it seen to BU to go to the toilet at work?

[KittySocks]

Posting here for traffic. In the office this morning, there were 2 members of my team having a moan. Essentially, someone had gone to the toilet and had sprayed some of the provided air freshener. Staff member moans that the staff member in question should have waited until they got home before they "stink out the work toilets".

Staff members in question are mid 20s. It started a stupid debate in the office and basically, the older generation see no issue with going to the toilets at work. Younger generation claim they would be mortified and state they would not poop at work!

Is it a generational thing then? I'm of the mindset, if you have to go, you have to go!

YABU - Get a grip - poop away
YANBU - Gross! Hold it in until you get home!

There was one person where I used to work who "started" around 8.30.

Spent about 30 mins faffing making a cup of tea. Then headed for the toilet. A 30 minute dump was followed by another 30 minutes faffing making tea, which took them nicely up to 10.00 for the cigarette break. Back in at 10.30 to actually start doing some stuff.

I try to avoid it but go if I really have to. I don't think anyone really likes having a poo in public so I would think that if they went then they must have needed it.

This is what I thought. And the discussion in the office afterwards could be seen as bullying if it turned out that the ‘perpetrator’ has such a disorder qualifying as a disability under the Equality Act. You never know what hidden disabilities people have and this kind of discussion is really unkind.

This is what I thought. And the discussion in the office afterwards could be seen as bullying if it turned out that the ‘perpetrator’ has such a disorder qualifying as a disability under the Equality Act. You never know what hidden disabilities people have and this kind of discussion is really unkind.

Pregnancy can also interfere with your regularity too. I'd imagine some types of prolapse may make 'holding on' a really bad idea too?

This. Every time. I hated when the toilets stank.

I just don't understand how you avoid it. What if, for instance, you've eaten something that gives you the runs?

And what if I did go at gone before work, but need to go again while I'm at work? Am I expected to hold that in until I get home?

I was assuming people were having a poo in the toilet not exposing their bum to the office floor. So no I can't see the correlation.

It's a normal bodily function. Everyone does it.

It's a bloody toilet for God's sake....that's what it's there for! If you need to go, you need to go! Simple as that. Spray some ViPoo (or whatever it's called) down the loo before you go if you are concerned about the odour, or open a window.
A German friend of mine used to light a match after he'd been to the loo. Apparently it gets rid of the smell but I've never tried it!

I take full dose, full strength cocodamol daily. If my body allows me to poo I do as I am told. It is very rare I'd ever need to go before work.

You can't do it to order! I start work at 5am. No bloody way am I crapping at 4am. I go when I have the urge to.

You shouldn’t though, it’s not good for you to hold in a shite!

Can't believe people admitting to wasting work time going to other parts of the building by more or less circuitous routes to avoid 'embarrassment', or leaving their smells for other teams rather than their own. wtf.

Hey, at least they sprayed some air freshener. I work in a portakabin type building and thought we were having issues with the drains again this morning. Turns out someone had used the singular female loo and ignored the cleaning products provided. Grim.

Your logic is so silly 😆 you don’t pee when you don’t have to, you wait until you do. Same with pooing, you can’t just whack one out if you don’t have to go! That doesn’t make you lazy.

Being paid to do a poo - what's not to like?

Everyone is different, some people are lucky and can be matter of fact about these things, others have issues and can't.

My bowels are pretty well trained to go at home in the morning after coffee, but if the need arises I'll go at work. It's either a quick poo in the toilet, or spend the day farting all round the office and I know which is more acceptable to most people!

Because it's a natural thing to do, rather than something we can pick and choose to do. Why are there so many women who have had periods, have routine cervical checks and give birth, being made to feel shame for having a simple bowel movement?
Please make it make sense 🫣.

How on earth does anyone hold it in? I can’t think of anything more uncomfortable.

Nobody should be shamed or feel embarrassed to have a poo.

If someone told me I should “wait til I get home”
Id genuinely tell them to fuck off. I have a close friends who suffers from Chrons and Colitis and I know they would tell an immature poo-phone more than just “fuck off” if they were shamed for going to the toilet at work.

Me too! I’ve got images of someone with one of those fake plastic dog poos stuffed up her bum, desperately trying to hold it in till home time!

I can't stand prissy types that get all cat-bummed at the thought of someone daring to actually to a shit at work. It's borderline bullying and makes for a literally very uncomfortable workplace.
What if you don't need to get first thing? Do you stay at home slamming espressos hoping things get moving, and make yourself late for work?

I used to work with someone who said she just couldn't go at work. She lived just down the road so she'd go home if she needed to.