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To think this is at best bizarre, at worst concerning?

61 replies

Movinghouseatlast · 25/03/2024 10:38

A woman has posted the following question on a public Facebook page of holiday area I visit, so Im a member of the group. Lots of people ask for advice on restaurants etc on there.

'We’re coming down next week and would like to take our daughter shopping for some new lingerie/underwear - is there anywhere within say 30-45 mins we could take her?
Thanks'

Am I wrong to actually find this rather disturbing and strange? It's the use of the word lingerie in relation to the daughter that I find odd. Or maybe I'm wrong and it's quite a normal thing to do. But why post on a public forum?. As lots of people pointed out on her post she could just google!

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WaltzingWaters · 25/03/2024 15:43

Yeah, it’s weird and grim to ask. And especially if they live in a city and are going to a remote area and want to drive ages to somewhere. If you need to buy your kid (no matter their age) undies surely you pop into m&s, supermarket, primark etc in a city. If you’re buying your daughter special underwear/lingerie it’s really disturbing. So yeah, probably some weirdo with a fetish.

Notamum12345577 · 25/03/2024 18:59

Movinghouseatlast · 25/03/2024 14:27

She says underwear/lingerie. Again you can tell on facebook, there is a photo and profile of the person. She's in her 40,s, from the UK.

She talks of 'we're ' taking the daughter. That means mum and dad taking a daughter of whatever age she into an underwear shop and all choosing together That is odd. And yes, there is a dad, he's there in her profile.

Edited

Ok, a person in their 40s can have a daughter who is in their 20s though. ‘We’ could be mum and daughters auntie, mum and daughters also adult sister, etc etc

Ofcourseshecan · 25/03/2024 19:06

Josette77 · 25/03/2024 13:01

What kind of transphobic crap is this?

There is nothing suggesting this woman is trans.

Haven't you read other responses? Plenty of men get off on trying on women's clothes, masturbating on them in the changing rooms in some cases. They chat with each other online about this. There's nothing secret about it.
And how is it 'transphobic' to suggest something that a group of men are open about doing?

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 25/03/2024 19:20

SpringSprungALeak · 25/03/2024 15:35

I don't think child & lingerie belong in the same sentence. If the 'child' is an adult they don't need to use the word 'child'

@Movinghouseatlast presume it's some hairy handed bell end.

But the word child isn't used in the same sentence as lingerie?

Also, lingerie literally is the correct word. George Online has a Lingerie section, under the bras heading is "First Bras" which are obviously intended for younger girls...

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 25/03/2024 19:22

Also, love the fake obviousness to the transphobia in a post saying "woman"

It's quite clear

Gingernaut · 25/03/2024 19:35

KreedKafer · 25/03/2024 10:42

It sounds to me like someone with a fetish trying to get people to indulge their fantasy, rather than a genuine question.

This

There is no family, no daughter, just some fetishist creaming himself with every answer

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 25/03/2024 19:40

AutumnCrow · 25/03/2024 11:15

There's a website where men talk about precisely that, up to and including wanking on M&S 'lingerie' and putting it back on the rails for women to find, for extra fetish thrills. These men get off just thinking about this stuff, or talking about it online. Roping in unsuspecting women and girls to their fetish worlds is hitting the jackpot.

M&S has been been made aware of this website and still won't sort its changing room policy out. I won't buy clothes there.

There is nothing that some men won't do for thrills, and it's not as rare as some people seem to think.

😱

Hoppinggreen · 26/03/2024 08:46

@Josette77 are you suggesting that a bearded weirdo wanking to ladies undies is Trans?
You are the only one making that link as far as I can see. Being a Perv and being Trans are not the same

Josette77 · 26/03/2024 22:18

It's a post about a woman asking.

Not a bearded man. A woman.

Assuming the woman is trans simply because the post sounds pervy is transphobic.

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Hoppinggreen · 27/03/2024 08:42

Josette77 · 26/03/2024 22:18

It's a post about a woman asking.

Not a bearded man. A woman.

Assuming the woman is trans simply because the post sounds pervy is transphobic.

But nobody suggested the person asking about underwear is Trans
They were suggesting that they were pretending to be one thing (a Mum) but were actually something else (a male weirdo). It was only you that made that link

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