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Caught on camera, who pays

81 replies

GoldHold · 25/03/2024 09:45

Person A asked person B for a lift to the station after work. Person B drove through a restricted zone at the station, was caught on camera and has been issued a fine. Person B wants person A to pay. Person A has refused. Who is BU?

OP posts:
OneTC · 25/03/2024 12:46

Person B is a cheeky bastard

taxguru · 25/03/2024 12:47

Morally I think it should be 50:50. Yes, the driver is clearly at fault for ignoring the signage, but s/he wouldn't have been there anyway if they weren't being kind to give a lift.

Trophyfoot · 25/03/2024 12:48

It's the driver's responsibility but as the passenger I think I'd at least offer half.

Hankunamatata · 25/03/2024 12:48

I would split it. Mistakes happen and driver was doing other person a favour

TinkerTiger · 25/03/2024 12:50

On the face of it it's on the driver, however depending on circumstances (dark, bad weather, unfamiliar) as the passenger I'd offer to go halves at the very least (I'd probably offer to pay it whole if I felt really bad and that it was out of their control).

BobbyBiscuits · 25/03/2024 12:51

The person who was driving should have gone a different way.
Unless the passenger insisted on going down the restricted road and reassured them it was fine, then it's not passenger's fault.
Just don't get lifts with them again. Surely the route to the station must be one they've done at least a few times before?

Trophyfoot · 25/03/2024 12:52

BobbyBiscuits · 25/03/2024 12:51

The person who was driving should have gone a different way.
Unless the passenger insisted on going down the restricted road and reassured them it was fine, then it's not passenger's fault.
Just don't get lifts with them again. Surely the route to the station must be one they've done at least a few times before?

Surely the passenger is likely to be more familiar with the station layout than a regular driver?

taylou278 · 25/03/2024 12:53

Person B is the driver therefore they pay

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 25/03/2024 12:54

If person B can't read signage/work out restrictions when driving then I'm sure this isn't going to be the first time they will get a fine.

ErrolTheDragon · 25/03/2024 12:54

Surely the route to the station must be one they've done at least a few times before?

Not necessarily, surely a person without a car is likely to go to a station more often than someone who has one?

Throwyourkeysup · 25/03/2024 12:55

Person B is the “captain” of the vehicle and as such takes responsibility.

GasPanic · 25/03/2024 12:57

Well my guess is Person A stumps up at least something. Otherwise they can kiss goodbye to any future lifts.

If I were person A I would also be thinking about how great work is going to be with Person B pissed off with them for probably the next 6 months. If person B is the boss then I can see it getting awkward.

BobbyBiscuits · 25/03/2024 13:07

@Trophyfoot yeah I guess. But they would not know how to navigate roads legally necessarily in a car. If the person is struggling hard then I guess the decent thing might be to pay a contribution towards the fine. It all seems awfully awkward. I bet they wish they just walked.
Maybe the important point is, did the passenger request the lift, or did the driver offer it unprompted? If the latter as passenger id feel even less responsibility.

BoogieBoogieWoogie · 25/03/2024 13:07

If I were person A I would offer to pay the fine. If it wasnt for person A then there would be no fine

Trophyfoot · 25/03/2024 13:08

BobbyBiscuits · 25/03/2024 13:07

@Trophyfoot yeah I guess. But they would not know how to navigate roads legally necessarily in a car. If the person is struggling hard then I guess the decent thing might be to pay a contribution towards the fine. It all seems awfully awkward. I bet they wish they just walked.
Maybe the important point is, did the passenger request the lift, or did the driver offer it unprompted? If the latter as passenger id feel even less responsibility.

I bet the driver wishes they'd never done the favour either. OP says the driver was asked for the lift.

lurchersforever · 25/03/2024 13:08

Any half decent person would offer at least a contribution in A's position. It would cause so much ill-feeling otherwise - doing someone a favour after work and then being fined for it? I'd be so pissed off and remember it every time I saw them.

B was the driver, but restricted areas can be very tricky and it can be easy to get caught out. I've been driving 20 years and commute plus drive a lot for holidays etc and I have got one such fine - bus lane infringement in an unfamiliar city. It doesn't make someone a shit driver as a very occasional mistake and if someone does that when doing you a favour and you don't think to at least offer something, well, it's not great, is it?

saraclara · 25/03/2024 13:13

If I asked for the lift rather that it being offered, I'd definitely offer to pay at least half.

OneTC · 25/03/2024 13:14

I've actually been in this exact position. A friend asked for a lift to a station I don't normally go to and I made a right turn that you used to be able to make. I got fined.

I didn't even mention it to my friend because it's my responsibility to drive properly.

If you were being given a lift and they stacked their car into a wall because they weren't alert enough to not go round it you'd not be offering to pay half the excess would you? Because it's entirely on the competence of the licensed driver.

Same applies for drivers that blindly listen to their non driving passengers. Non drivers don't know shit, if you choose to follow their directions then you're an idiot

Marblessolveeverything · 25/03/2024 13:17

@ErrolTheDragon I don't agree. Drivers are responsible for driving according to laws, restrictions etc. I assume there was a way to make the journey without triggering a fine.

UltramarineViolet · 25/03/2024 13:22

Person B should pay

Person A has no obligation to pay anything but if I was Person A then I would probably offer to pay half expecially if the journey to the station was in an area the driver wasn't familiar with or the signposting was poor, or if indeed I had suggested "yes drive don't there I'm sure it will be fine" or similar (I would probably offer to pay the full fine in those circumstances!)

WaltzingWaters · 25/03/2024 13:23

p1ppyL0ngstocking · 25/03/2024 09:52

It's for the driver to pay, although if I was A I'd be offering half minimum.

Equally as B, I would brush off every future request for a lift from A with a "no thanks, last time I gave you a lift it cost me £50".

A can't expect to be driven round by other for free, it takes time, energy and a lot of money to run a car. A should be prepared to get a taxi in future.

i agree with this. b’s responsibility to pay attention to road signs and therefore their responsibility to pay. But would be nice for A to offer to contribute towards it. And if they didn’t I’d be saying this at any future lift requests.

TinkerTiger · 25/03/2024 13:23

OneTC · 25/03/2024 13:14

I've actually been in this exact position. A friend asked for a lift to a station I don't normally go to and I made a right turn that you used to be able to make. I got fined.

I didn't even mention it to my friend because it's my responsibility to drive properly.

If you were being given a lift and they stacked their car into a wall because they weren't alert enough to not go round it you'd not be offering to pay half the excess would you? Because it's entirely on the competence of the licensed driver.

Same applies for drivers that blindly listen to their non driving passengers. Non drivers don't know shit, if you choose to follow their directions then you're an idiot

Edited

I'm like you. If I was the driver I wouldn't say a thing and if I was the passenger and it was mentioned I'd want to pay so it's lose-lose for me 😂

trumancummings · 25/03/2024 13:26

If I was B and A didn't offer to pay the full fine (assuming I'd made a special trip out to give the lift and wasn't out and about anyway) then I'd pay it (obviously) but they'd get no more lifts. If they offered to pay the full fine I'd go halves. If they offered half I'd accept and probably wouldn't offer another lift. I'm guessing no petrol money was offered beforehand?

hopscotcher · 25/03/2024 13:40

B is responsible for the fine. Why would they think it was A?

Cottoncandyflavaflav · 25/03/2024 13:45

If I was the driver I would pay and not mention it to the passenger.

If I was the passenger I would pay.

If there is an argument over who pays they should both be arguing they will.