To want to pay the full ticket price?

[CharlotteBog]

Relative has booked tickets for the cinema. She's over 60 and has membership for the cinema (so additional discount). It therefore made sense for her to book and me to reimburse her.

She has booked me as a student, telling me that I can tell them I am in the last year of my PhD.
I don't want to do this.

She is a complicated woman - very low self esteem and I know her response will be something like "oh stupid me, fucked up again, I can't get anything right". For this reason, I often drop issues that I might want to talk about, or hold back in giving my POV. I can't drop this one though; I mean it's me that's going to get chucked out or humiliated - and quite rightly too.

I’m with you, I don’t like lying and I’d feel awkward pretending to be a student if I’m not.

It was obvious op, no need to apologise.

No, she didn’t need to, it was obvious from the OP she isn‘t a student. Why else would OP write

I mean it's me that's going to get chucked out or humiliated - and quite rightly too.

People really need to engage common sense instead of blaming OP.

Fine to not pick up detail, not fine to blame OP for you not picking it up.

People really need to engage common sense instead of blaming OP.

It wasn't about blame anymore than it is about me lacking common sense.

She kind of did when she said it was inappropriate of her aunt to buy her the concessionary one.

Ok can we all stop now? I don't need several posters pointing out the same thing.

I don't need people repeatedly saying it was obvious, that won't make the fact that it was not obvious to me any less true.

But I would prefer if the thread could move forward for OP

I assumed that technically phd people are not students -they are more like lecturers.

Hence not qualifying for a student discount.

Rather it being totally random! Least she didn't claim an oap discount for you!

She has booked me as a student, telling me that I can tell them I am in the last year of my PhD.
I don't want to do this.

I took this to mean that you could confirm to them that this is the case but that you didn’t want to do this because either the student discount is for undergraduates, or that your PhD is salaried / you are comfortable for money so didn’t want a discount.

Not that your relative was suggesting a completely fictional scenario.

She isn’t doing a PhD. The relative said she could say she’s doing a PhD.

@TempleOfBloom

She's not doing a PhD
She's not a student
Are you on crack?

If she was doing a PhD she would have a student card and would just take it. This wouldn't be an issue and there would be no thread.

It was clear to me from the OP that she isn’t doing a PHD.

I’m not sure why some posters think that people doing phds aren’t students? I’ve just finished one and of course I had a student card.

Having said that, I rarely claimed student discounts for anything because I felt it wouldn’t be fair. That’s the issue with this situation. It’s fairness.

I don’t get why so many people are saying OP won’t get in big trouble. Obviously, she won’t get into big trouble and of course she can just say she’ll pay the difference if she is challenged. But that’s not the problem. OP feels uncomfortable about lying about something unnecessarily, because lying is wrong being able to get away with it is irrelevant.

Does anyone remember those dated concepts of truth and lies?

But you are a student? I work at a university and I have a student card, I always use it for cinema

You’re getting several responses because of your own several snippy posts to OP/others.

It was perfectly obvious. Other posters need to work on their reading comprehension.

I'm with you OP @CharlotteBog . I think this is one of those things where different people's opinions will never reconcile: I wouldn't, and don't, try to do things like this, simply because I'M not a liar or a cheat or a thief. It's nothing to do with the cinema, or how much profit they make, or how likely I am to get caught - it's about my own moral code. (And also the albeit small risk of getting caught isn't worth the small saving anyway.) And the people who use those reasons to justify it to themselves will never agree with me.

I find that people such as your relative tend to do things like this just for the sport of it, of getting away with something. They're never that desperate that the extra £3 or whatever would actually make a difference.

It was perfectly obvious. Other posters need to work on their reading comprehension.

And a pp wonders why I was 'snippy'

It's not my reading comprehension, it's my ability that prevents me from reading things that are not there is black and white.

I would like to say though, I am not the only poster who misread this so it's not as obvious as some seem to think

They don’t ask to check student ID

You are over thinking
If you get asked for id offer to pay full amount or tell them you are not a student

Tell her you find it stressful and would rather pay full price

No one working there will give two shits and will not give you any thoughts whatsoever

What has age got do with it? Students are any age but you are being difficult just to be annoying so she sounds the sensible one really

Haha this makes sense now seeing this 🤣🤣

@WandaWonder you think it's "sensible" to lie and take perks that are not applicable to you?

In that case the OP should park in disabled spaces, demand a blue light discount wherever she goes. If she's cohabiting she should also tell the council she's single, 25% off her council tax bill.

Wahey, why not? After all, that's what sensible people do. Fuck me 🤣

@pimplebum but OP (and others) don’t want to do it because it’s wrong not because of the fear of getting caught