Do you have a ‘gut feeling’ about what will end your life?

[Findmebythesea1]

Been inspired by another thread, & whilst it’s not a particularly joyous subject I wonder if other people feel the same?

I feel pretty certain, that I will die of heart complications one day. (Family history + irregular (but apparently harmless) heart beat. Do you feel like you have a ‘weak link’ or a predisposition to a certain illness?

Looking back to my teens/20s I truly believed I’d live to 100! I felt great. But now… I’m not so sure! AIBU and a bit mental?! Or do you feel the same?

I have thought about it, especially as I've grown older (I'm 51) and hearing more and more about the mortality of others.

For years I've had recurring dreams where I accidentally drive my car off a bridge, cliff or some kind of precipice, to my death. Assuming it's not just my brain making nocturnal metaphors for a chaotic working life, maybe that's how I'm going to go.

But if not, I reckon it'll either be a hellish descent into dementia (like my maternal grandmother, my mother and both of her siblings) or a sudden heart issue/aneurism.

Yes a car crash. It freaks me out regularly.

Paternal grandparents, both cancer, maternal both heart. My grandmothers were young by today’s standards, 67 and 71. Grandfathers 81 and 83. Likely one of these will get me I suppose!

My gut tells me I will linger on in old age though, I’m terrified of being incapacitated and helpless in a care home. Dignitas for me in that case if my family are on board.

For those that are religious, how do you square Dignitas?

My mental health is my greatest problem so it may be that which worsens and "gets" me in the end. It got my mother. But that may be preventative in an odd way, because having gone through that grief I will never be able to convince myself that my kids are "better off without me" - at any age. To be fair I am also overweight and increasingly afflicted by aches and pains and strange headaches so diabetes, cancer or heart trouble all likely contenders. Family history tells me that if I do live to a ripe old age I will definitely be demented 😬

I have severe heart failure so it’s probably going to be that I guess.
I’m pretty pragmatic so it doesn’t worry me, it will happen one day.

I lurk on this thread, following all updates. It is a remarkable place.

I never did because my older relatives all went out with no pattern - a grandad who was hit by a car in his 50s, a nan who died on an operating table in her 50s, and two grandparents who died in their 70s/80s from kidney failure and cancer. My Dad and stepdad both died from cirrhosis of the liver in their 50s from alcohol use.
however, I had the big dose of “wtf” last year when I had a pre malignant cyst on my liver discovered and removed. It scared the shit out of me and j am now convinced there will be some sort of weird poetic irony to the sober one in the family also being taken out by her liver. Its given me a nice dose of health anxiety.

I'm so sorry. Life can be too painful, can't it.

I suspect it will be dementia as there's a family history of that. But I'm doing my best to try to keep my brain active to hopefully stave it off a bit. I had an accident (a really stupid and ridiculous one) a few years ago that could easily have seen me off, so another one like that is also a possibility (I'm clumsy...).
Its not really a feeling of knowing how I'll go though, just that both are strong possibilities. And it could even be a mix of both.

It will be my heart. I just hope it's a quick heart attack and not a slow death from it failing.

Cancer probably. Nothing else runs in my family

Dementia here too, my poor Dad went through hell with this, terrified of all sorts of things. My Mum was a hero taking care of him.

Everytime I forget something I wonder if I am on the slippery slope to this hideous condition.

The woman in my family never reach a very old age, they're picked off in their 50s or 60s by various things. My mum died of leukaemia at 67. I think I'll get cancer at some point.

Most likely something I've ignored because I thought it was another depressing new symptom of fibromyalgia. I thought gallstone pain was fibromyalgia and when I did get to see a doctor about that pain I was admitted as an urgent case for gallbladder removal.
I'd like to last till my children are older though.

Being far too fat?

Or being far too preoccupied and walking under a bus

One of those anyways

I'm not sure what specific thing it'll be, but I do think I'm likely to die before old age. Not sure why, just a feeling. Hopefully not till DS is grown up though!

I always had a feeling that I would live a long life. Till my 90s.

I had a really bad childhood

I always had this feeling that I would only really start to get going in my life when i was in my forties

I'm forty now, and I am starting to experience more of life and have more fun now

I feel like I'm going to live until my 80s. We have no family history of heart disease, dementia or cancer, most people just seem to go of natural causes. So I believe that will be my fate. Even my grandfather, a lifelong smoker and clinically obese, is still alive and kicking at 81.

Of course I could get hit by a car tomorrow, who knows.

@XenoBitch - I always like seeing your posts pop up and think you sound like a really kind and thoughtful person. Sending a big hug - hoping that sunnier days are just around the corner for you and all the other people on this thread who are struggling.

Well I just found I have a 2mm aneurysm in my brain, seeing a neurosurgeon next week so currently I'm thinking massive brain haemorrhage!

I always thought I'd never reach old age. However, I also could never imagine myself being a mother, and I now have two grown up DC. I'm 60 now and have some joint related issues. My father died from cancer and he had COPD. Mother is late 80s and nothing major apart from type 2 diabetes. I don't want to live to a very old age, and if I get an illness that will debilitate me then I'll be taking care of my demise myself. My kids are currently watching their dad slowly deteriorate from cancer and me struggle with being his carer. I don't want them having to be my carer when they're starting their own families.

same here with the rubbish childhood and feeling like life will improve soon and I am also 40 years old. We need to leave the past behind and look forward to a good life now

sending hugs 💐

I've known my whole life it will be by my own hand. Even when I'm feeling great I know that it will happen that way. Like it's been pre-written by destiny.