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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Do you have a ‘gut feeling’ about what will end your life?

152 replies

Findmebythesea1 · 23/03/2024 22:19

Been inspired by another thread, & whilst it’s not a particularly joyous subject I wonder if other people feel the same?

I feel pretty certain, that I will die of heart complications one day. (Family history + irregular (but apparently harmless) heart beat. Do you feel like you have a ‘weak link’ or a predisposition to a certain illness?

Looking back to my teens/20s I truly believed I’d live to 100! I felt great. But now… I’m not so sure! AIBU and a bit mental?! Or do you feel the same?

OP posts:
brytersky · 24/03/2024 00:23

Cardiovascular I reckon. I get palpitations and a tight chest sometimes.

I have the older onset Alzheimer's gene so I need to be outta here before that kicks in.

Pussygaloregalapagos · 24/03/2024 00:28

BobbyBiscuits · 23/03/2024 22:55

I hope I do go from heart attack really quickly but that's only because I fear dementia or serious debilitating pain more than death.
My dad died from a heart attack suddenly aged 55, grandad same at 50, uncle and grandad on other side 55 and 60.
I don't have any heart issues though. I fear it will be my liver as that's the least healthy part of me I think. That's horrible so I'm scared but would end it myself if had that much illness or pain.
I have healthy women in my family in their 80s and some lived to over 100 so there's some hope I guess.

You won’t though because they keep putting those pesky defibrillators every where. Helpful to shock elderlies back to health so they can languish in hospital for months on end then get tipped into a care home as families to busy.

I wish they had turned the phone boxes into karaoke boxes instead of death defying contraptions.

rainbowlou · 24/03/2024 00:33

When I had my son at 32 I said to my husband I have a hugely strong instinct I’m not going to ever know what he will do for a career as I won’t live beyond my 40’s.
I haven’t ever been able to shake that feeling and I’m about to turn 48.
Theres a hell of a lot of cancer in my family so maybe that’s planted that seed.

Wacadu · 24/03/2024 00:35

I have a recurring dream about my funeral and my mum is always there. I'm 51 and she is 74.

Sometimes I feel my body is 'out to get me'. I've had to have tonsils, appendix, gallbladder removed. My eyesight is shit (had a detached retina too) and I can't hear very well. I have problems with all of my joints and I'm diabetic. But for some reason I've always thought it would be cancer that gets me.

catscalledbeanz · 24/03/2024 00:50

Pussygalore- I hope so and more, I hope I can afford it.

echt · 24/03/2024 01:03

Two of my three siblings have heart issues, as do I, though no-one has died of it yet.

No dementia in the family, so fingers crossed for the heart.

LastnightIDreamedofManderley · 24/03/2024 01:12

Yes!! Almost glad someone has started a thread as I've always thought I was so odd for feeling this. Since I was very young, (and I'm now mid 20s) I always 'knew' I would die in a car accident. I also drive. It does worry me to be honest.

anonymous98 · 24/03/2024 01:13

I don't know. I did have a terrible feeling of dread that I'd die at 16, and again at 24.

RubyWinehouse · 24/03/2024 01:15

Not sure what will end me, but I don't think I'll live to a good old age.

Pireck · 24/03/2024 01:15

I've always thought I'd die youngish. I'm quite healthy but I'm just unlucky in general, so it seems likely to me. Most likely cancer or some sort of accident.
It's funny how you have these ideas that you carry around with you, but you'll more than likely be wrong whatever you think.

HollyKnight · 24/03/2024 01:19

Like you, I think my heart will get me. I have constant PVCs - averaging about 15 per minute - which no one seems in a hurry to look at. Been waiting 3 years so far to see cardiology about it. Just keep being told it's probably harmless...despite my own mum dying suddenly at 48-years-old while waiting for a pacemaker because her irregular heart rhythm wouldn't respond to meds.

So, every night when I get into bed, and feel the thumping, I get a sense of impending doom.

Wordsmithery · 24/03/2024 01:20

Sending a hug from a stranger

Olivegardenishome · 24/03/2024 01:49

I’m not sure if this is how I will go - obviously. Since I was about 8, I have had a dream (kind of reoccurring but only about once every 6 years or so), where I’m in my 40’s. I get murdered in an underground car park. Each time the floor of the car park is very smooth and dark grey and my head is tipped to my left side and I see the blood puddle slowly grow, then that’s that.

When I was shopping a few weeks before Christmas, I left a multi-storey car park in south Brisbane. That same morning, not long after I left, a poor lady was stabbed for her car, and unfortunately passed away. Just made me immediately think of the dream and recognise our vulnerability.

decionsdecisions62 · 24/03/2024 02:44

@Kathy34 I've been plucking up some courage to investigate mine.

Seeleyboo · 24/03/2024 02:45

My dad went at 33. Brother at 28 and sister 30 I think. I am 51 Grin

Kathy34 · 24/03/2024 02:47

Totally worth it. Alot of your past life may manifest in this life. For example, I've wanted to be a cop since I was little. Always feared guns.. have a fear of fire too, died that waybin a previous life

Gowlett · 24/03/2024 02:48

No. I’ve never thought about it.
I get health issues checked more, now I’m a mum.

Seeleyboo · 24/03/2024 02:50

Forgot to say what I thought id die of. I think I'll just keep going but I'll suffer. Obese. Diabetes. Aches. Pains. Dodgy heart. Etc.

LastnightIDreamedofManderley · 24/03/2024 03:29

Olivegardenishome · 24/03/2024 01:49

I’m not sure if this is how I will go - obviously. Since I was about 8, I have had a dream (kind of reoccurring but only about once every 6 years or so), where I’m in my 40’s. I get murdered in an underground car park. Each time the floor of the car park is very smooth and dark grey and my head is tipped to my left side and I see the blood puddle slowly grow, then that’s that.

When I was shopping a few weeks before Christmas, I left a multi-storey car park in south Brisbane. That same morning, not long after I left, a poor lady was stabbed for her car, and unfortunately passed away. Just made me immediately think of the dream and recognise our vulnerability.

Bloody hell, that's so creepy that the poor old lady went almost the same way as you had envisagned yourself.

Trez1510 · 24/03/2024 03:57

I've always 'known' I'll die at 92. That'll be a crabby, contrary 92 riddled with multiple ailments. Just always known that somehow. Family wise there is a smorgasbord of conditions from which to choose but no pattern - brain haemorrhage, prostate cancer, COPD, kidney failure, job-related lung cancer, old age at 99.

bradpittsbathwater · 24/03/2024 04:00

I think I will die of heart attack or stroke. I'm 39 and medicated for high bp, family history of high bp despite being young and slim. My grandad died of a heart attack in his mid 60s and my uncle had a stroke (luckily recovered) in his 50s. Hopefully I'll make it past mid 60s

SadMumSEN · 24/03/2024 04:20

Something falls off a truck on a motorway and hits my car. I’ve dreamt it a few times.
Every time I’m sitting behind one, I wonder if this is it.

thebestinterest · 24/03/2024 04:35

I have a crazy fear that I will
die of either cancer or be murdered… both terrify me.

HelpMeGetThrough · 24/03/2024 05:06

I think I'll be gone within the next 5 years. I've no immune system and the infections I am getting are far more dangerous and regular now, than they were.

I'm not at all worried about it, in fact it will release me from a lot of physical and mental pain that'll never go.

useitorlose · 24/03/2024 05:09

I'm about to turn 56 and still have both my parents (aged 78). The cancer stats are 1 in 2, and both my parents have skin cancer and my DSis got breast cancer aged 49 (now 58) so I feel like I might have had a lucky escape there, but who knows. I'm active, vegetarian, healthy weight, lifelong non-drinker, non-smoker, so by rights I should live a long time, but who knows.

DH is 60 this year, has had a couple of heart procedures for atrial flutter, but still running regularly although he will always say he will go before me and is convinced his heart issues will be the cause, even though his cardiologist says his condition does not affect his life expectancy.

None of us can see the future. I'd like to age disgracefully and keep my cognitive abilities and memory intact.