Let's play 'why is my passive-aggressive, emotionally immature MIL giving her son the silent treatment this time'!

[pacificnature]

I have no idea what it could be this time.

Excited to hear some guesses!

(Could potentially be that we haven't been around for a couple of weeks)

Wow thats unbelievable! Missed out on ever seeing or meeting her grandchild over basically nothing. What a weirdo.

Missed this before.

That's really, really bad.

Mine had a massive tantrum because DH didn’t come to visit when he had ‘ all this extra holiday’ and this meant he didn’t care about his family and she was getting a cold and didn’t he care.
The ‘holiday’ was sick leave was because he had been very unwell and had been in hospital for a week, he was still very unwell and it would be a 4 hour drive. No one came to visit him either.
It’s the kinda shit my mother pulled as well.

Unless you live through this you don’t know what it’s like. My BIL is now like this so have decided it’s genetic.

Don't say it's genetic!

I refuse.

Op it's her issue, not yours. You've not done anything intentionally so don't dwell on it and don't allow her to control your emotions. You're giving her too much power.
You're a fully grown adult, no less than her. Stop putting yourselves in 'child' mode.

Did you help her resolve something, but in doing so expose a mistake that she has made? That’s what blew everything up in our lives. It was impossible that they could make a mistake so they did a combination of silent treatment, verbal attacks and basically slandering us to close friends to deflect from their own mistake. They moved on from silent treatment to the other stuff because we didn’t respond to it.
I don’t think I’ll ever get over how quickly and willingly they “pushed me under the bus” as part of their deflection. I know people will say speak to them about it, but it’s never that easy with someone like this as all you do is put them back into the victim position in their narrative.
So sending virtual solidarity and a gentle warning to keep an eye out for escalation x

Having dealt with a friend like this (when we were in our teens, I hope she has grown out of it)

You sneezed wrongly
You looked at her funny
You didnt call quick enough
You called too quickly

And reasons why my cat (whose behaviour I do find similar) has recently stopped talking to me

I was not appreciative of his present
I didnt clean the litter tray quick enough (I was at work)
His food bowl was not filled right to the top
I didnt stroke him enough
I stroked him too much
The sun went behind a cloud
The wind was too loud (this one is a guess)

I hope you and your husband figure the best way for you through this.

Just enjoy the peace and quiet …

The more you think about it and puzzle over it, the more she wins. What a tiresome person. Just get on with your lives.