I am SUCH an oversharer. Anyone else?

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Got the ultimate ICK about myself tonight.

I'm a fairly open person but sometimes I just overshare that bit too far that results in me at 10.30pm sat unable to get the thing I shared out of my head - playing on repeat and CRINGING at myself.

This seems to happen so regularly to me!

Oh yes, and I definitely put it (snd the resulting shame/RSD) down to my ADHD. But fellow over-sharers are my people!

Oh and my over sharing is massively exacerbated when I have a wine. Which is worse, because I over share and then cannot remember what I’ve said, but I know I’ve said it!

🤣🤣🤣🤣, so so true!!!

And did not take long before someone brought this up. Well done for being the first on the thread to mention it.

Yes me. I believe I have undiagnosed ADHD (1 child diagnosed, the other in the process). I have to really stop myself and put brain in gear. It's hard to do but I can't bear the cringing and intrusive thoughts after I've said things that most people wouldn't say out loud. It's bloody horrible.

over sharer and over thinker. Terrible combination for the morning after.

I’m not sure about this.. I’m always a bit dubious when someone I don’t know particularly well gives me their life story or latest woes.

I used to be and as soon as I read this thread a couple of ultimate cringe memories popped into my head. Nowadays I'm a chronic under sharer. I keep my mouth firmly shut when I should probably be talking about certain things.

Haha, me too! I phoned a restaurant recently. Because of local flooding, my friends and I couldn't make a booking. I told them exactly where we were all coming from, which roads were flooded, yadda yadda. The person on the phone simply said (when I stopped talking to draw a breath) 'are you calling to cancel your booking?'. I sheepishly said 'yes'.

I do have ADHD though!

Nope I'm literally the opposite. Feel super awkward talking about myself and hold everything in. Therapist has been working on me for ages but hasn't managed to change me yet! Really you want to be somewhere in the middle I think but hey nobody's perfect

Yes , I have a tendency to overshare, although I'm learning not to .

Why do you do it, to all those who say they are chronic oversharers? What is the context, typically? Do you think you’re entering into someone else’s experience, and that your openness will make them like you? Like someone you meet has a newborn, and suddenly you’re telling a total stranger about the gory details of your third-degree tear and the itchiness of the stitches because you think you’re communicating fellow-feeling? Or is it that you genuinely can’t distinguish between normal chitchat at a work event and giving someone a blow by blow account of how you lost your virginity?

Or what is it exactly you consider ‘oversharing’? I mean, are we talking intimate detail, or just giving someone a 20-minute account of what was wrong with your washing machine?

In this context an over sharer is just annoying in a get to the bloody point way!

Complete oversharer. But not just about my own business. If you tell me an after I'll keep it to my dying day- hit day to say stuff - it just spills out and sometimes I wish it wouldn't. And I cringe when I remember it. I have to remind myself when someone says how are you and how is the family the answer 'fine thanks' is enough.

Tell me a secret not an after My predictive text is trying to stop
Me over sharing.

Yeah was going to say me too but I have ADHD. Shit just flies out of my mouth and people often look at me like 😬👀🤔

My husband will literally write a WhatsApp going into every nook and cranny of our financial situation and then share it with the entire family. I fucking hate it as I know everyone else doesn't do shit like this. He bought me a diamond bracelet years ago and I hate wearing it as he will make a point of telling anyone we speak to how much it cost. I don't mind oversharing but when it's very personal money stuff I fucking hate it

Ha ha ha ha!!! ME TOO!!!
I wake up the morning after and am immediately drenched in cold sweat with a knot in my stomach, as I KNOW I've told someone (everyone) some (all) in-depth details of my life/health/thoughts/feelings, but I can't bloody remember who I said it to or what I said!

Me.
then I’ll regret posting this meme

My dh does this with my health.
I’ve got blood cancer which fortunately is not making much difference to my life atm.
However dh tells everyone via Christmas card, email or out socialising that I’m ill, I get tired and I must be careful about mixing.
Consequently people are scared to invite us anywhere if they have the slightest sniffle and dh is almost basking in the attention.

I really wish he had an off button!

This used to be me. I'm still an open book with regard to the fact that I don't have secrets, but I do now wait for cues that someone wants to read that book, if you see what I mean. There's nothing about my life that's kept in a confidential space in my brain, but I learned that overhsaring isn't approrpiate and is sometimes unwanted

I bet every single person who reads your op (myself included) is immediately reminded of a time they over shared. You've caused the first ever mumsnet mass cringe!

Me too. I am currently agonising about something I know I shouldn't have shared. My brain also warned me several times before I divulged everything. To be fair, I resisted at first, but the other person kept asking, and then I just blurted everything out.

I've given myself a stern talking to and will TRY very hard to listen to my brain next time.

This is 100% me.
I'm finding it easier to reign myself in these days but still have moments when all comes out.
It's worse when I've been drinking so I don't allow myself to get drunk anymore.