Follow up to my first post…

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Hi, this is a follow up from my first post. I don’t know how to copy the post into this one sorry..

My first post was about my children’s father & how he’s been treating me & how I’ve wanted to end it.

Update, I rang the police tonight because he come to the house kicking the back door in whilst the two children were upstairs.

Now I’m sitting feeling unbelievably guilty on the children & also their dad. I told the police we’ve got two children, they’re in no danger, never have been, never will be & the policewoman seen them herself. Clearly in no danger. She mentioned she’d have to inform SS, which I knew but now I am worried sick I’ll have my children taken away even though, they’re loved, looked after & absolutely doted on by me.

Could someone who has any experience in this scenario tell me what I should expect? I’m going crazy at the thought of SS being involved. It’s just the stigma of them I suppose.

Thank you for reading x

Is this it?:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5021273-i-just-need-someone-to-listen

Your children are in danger, they ate being exposed to domestic violence, emotional harm etc. You are being abused. SS will want to know that you recognise that and can safeguard your children. They aren't going to be removed unless you have him back and there are further instances. He is destroying you as a person and Mother. This needs to stay ended. SS will probably sign you off fairly quickly. You can speak to the DV team in the Poluce. They can give you outside lights, put alarms on your doors and put you on a quick response time.

But your children are definitely in danger.
They shouldn't have to experience this.

I meant to say in no physical danger. Which they’re not. In terms of this happening, this is the first time they’ve been exposed to anything like this. In my last post, it does touch on the subject of how their dad would argue with me when they’d be at school.

Anyway, of course I’ll be an open book to SS I have absolutely nothing at all to hide. Both the children are my life, it’s just the stigma of SS that worries me more than anything. I was hoping to get some advice on that?

I’ve rang the police, I’ve gotten him out of the house. Purely so my children aren’t exposed to any dangers. I’ve done what I thought was best to protect them which was ringing the police.

Not a social worker but I do work alongside them occasionally from another agency.

They are not in the habit of taking away children unless there is a serious threat/harm to them. They are there to support you. They can provide other agencies to support you and point you in the right direction for help.

Like you’ve said be open and honest with them if you get a visit or phone call however you might just be dismissed if it is just one incident. Be aware though that the police will have contacted the children’s school (if they are of school age) to say they have witnessed something. School will then just keep a special eye on them in case they are upset.