To think you can't just stop liking someone

[Rightbackwherewestartedfrom]

It's been 6 weeks, and I've respectfully distanced myself, I am fully open to meeting and liking someone new, I am keeping busy, I've massively reduced contact and I'm doing everything 'right'.
We have so much in common, we have a very similar personality, he is exactly my type and I am attracted to him.
We get on very well, I couldn't believe I'd met someone so compatible.
He doesn't want to date me ATM so I've had to respect that. As I say I've reduced contact. He knows I liked him and he looked guilty as hell at first, now he's only a bit red and flustered but he's absolutely fine with me and we're on good terms, however I only speak to him now when I see him around.
I've tried my best to find flaws. Of course there are, but I've just come to accept I can't make myself stop being attracted.
The main thing is I've distanced myself and move on.
Sadly I don't have many close male friends, not through choice. However for me if I'm very close friends with a man, it's usually someone I am not attracted to in that way.
Is anyone here close friends with someone they have a crush on?
It might naturally reduce in time, and likely when I develop feelings for someone else, if and when.

It's weird that everything you post sounds eerily familiar.

I see, well I've not posted before. I posted about this man before Christmas but that was it.

When 'gently' letting me down he said 'I do think you're really attractive '. So it must be my personality lol

I don't think he is a liar.

I think he's definitely not attracted to you but he doesn't date at work anyway even if he was.

The more threads you start about this bloke, the sorrier I feel for the pair of you.

You need to lose the infatuation and you're not going to do that by starting thread after thread about him.

Forget him, and his poxy thought processes. Think about yourself fgs! What do you need and want? Learn where your red lines are and bloody well stick to them. For want of a better phrase, 'man up!'

That's fair, I haven't posted before I'm not sure why some people think I have, fair enough if there's something similar. I posted sometime late Dec about him.

I feel a bit angrier after this thread so that's one thing!

Right. So not under this user name, because you've only used this one for the posts on this thread.

Vote with your feet and your heart will follow……eventually

What user name?
Can you link to the thread?

Why are you angry?

He's allowed to not want to date you for whatever reason he chooses.

And maybe, just maybe he wouldn't be walking his dog with you if he knew how obsessed with him you've become.

No, I'm not linking to a thread from months ago, just leave it please.
Anyway.. the good point is I am hoping to get a promotion so I might not have to see him at all soon!
I might not even tell him I'm going, I highly doubt he'd care.

That's quite rude, saying someone's 'obsessed' because they've had feelings they're trying to stop. That's why I posted for advice, but I think your intention was to be rude.

So you haven't posted before but you have posted before.

You're very much missing the point here. YOU need to take control. Not 'oh, I might get a promotion ' etc. You need to cop yourself on and say, enough now. You are the only one who can do this.

I really don't know why you are so invested as to whether someone's posted before or not. It really doesn't matter either way. I think I've got what I need from the thread now so thanks to all. I'll just hope the scales drop from my eyes and I'll continue trying to move on.

You've had several threads' worth of advice already.

Nothing has changed

You're still obsessed with him.

Scales don't drop from eyes until you make them. You're being very passive.

Ok, you've been reported because you are so heavily invested in someone's posting history. You are deliberately trying to be rude and antagonise.
There's no point trying to reason. Whether someone posted before or not, it doesn't matter. It makes zero difference to your life. Leave it.

Why does it matter to you if OP is still struggling with something she's discussed here before? If you're not interested move on, no need to be unpleasant to someone struggling.

Tbf, why keep asking for advice if you're going to ignore it all? People do take time out of their lives to consider the OPs issue, and post well meant advice. If it's a recurring woe is me, it can be grating.

Okay OP I apologise.

I suspect he's not interested and is using his position as an excuse.

2 runs together and one dog walk doesnt make him a close friend at all.

I had similar, but it had been 7 years and a child before we slept together (my child not his). Now he fucked my head up and completely used be.

Move on.