Dad and the kitchen

[maryanne3]

Me, my DH and our two pre school children have moved in with my parents while we look for a house. We have been there for a few months, and it has all been fine until my Dad got given a piece of freelance work to do ( he is retired, but does occasional bits of writing, but not needed for income). My DH is using the study as he is WFH, so Dad is using the kitchen table. Trouble is the kitchen is also where I make kids lunches etc. Today he stomped off in a huff because DH and I were having a chat there during lunchtime. AIBU that he could use the kitchen in the evenings when the kids are in bed and the kitchen is in use?

Your parents are probably horrified at how self-absorbed you've turned out to be. Your husband should have found a different location to work, outside of the house, and allowed your father to use his own study. Your father is trying to work in the kitchen, and you think it's perfectly fine to blather on to your husband because it's lunchtime? JFC. Unbelievable.

I think you should apologise to your dad for disturbing him when he's trying to work! Did you and your DH really need to be standing around in the kitchen chatting while he is working? You can make sandwiches the night before and put them in the fridge for next day's lunch to avoid disturbing him. Your DH could offer to work in the kitchen and give him his study back? Or find somewhere out of the house to work, coffee shop/workspace. Either way, your dad is not unreasonable to expect to be able to work undisturbed in his own home.

Are you paying your parents rent?

You cannot be serious?! You are massively unreasonable. They have been good enough to put you up, no matter how happy they are to do this, and how much you pay your way, its still an imposition on their day to day routine and you should he mindful of that, fit around them and stop moaning.

His study is being used solidly for your husband to earn his living. I think your DH should vacate the study and use the kitchen himself. Your dad deserves to work or do whatever in his own house. Not surprised he's got the hump. Worst comes to worst DH has to go work in a cafe, library, we work type place etc.

Breathtaking entitlement.

why didn’t you and DH go and have the chat somewhere else since DF is using that as his working space? Imagine if DM and DF went into your DH WFH space and stayed to have a chat and expected him to work after everyone else had gone to bed

Your poor parents.