I have one DD, she's 10 next month, currently in Y5. We live in the south east, not a grammar school area and all the secondary schools around us are really good.
However last year my DMIL passed away, DFIL is in ok health but realistically will need some degree of care soon. DH wants to move close to him (East Midlands).
The exact area we'd want to move to has 2 outstanding but oversubscribed secondary schools, both with a feeder school and catchment area admissions policy. If not both at a feeder school and in catchment you are basically not getting a place.
I've called up the feeder schools and been told by 2 they have 1 singular place in Y5 but I shouldn't expect these to remain until summer and certainly not past summer.
DH has suggested that we dip into savings, DD and I move in with his dad and look for a rental, during Easter holidays. He can focus on selling our house, DD can start at one of the schools, and we'd be living in catchment. I can look for a job while there (shouldn't be too difficult) and once the house is sold, DH can get a job up there too and we can look at buying somewhere there.
It all sounds super stressful and DD doesn't really want to move, she's super happy at her school and thriving. I know realistically though we can't be this far from DFIL and moving during secondary might be harder.
AIBU considering this? Is it a really unfair thing to do to DD?