To think snorers should be banned from society?

[JackSleepskin]

Lighthearted. Ish. On a ferry back from France and a man has been snoring so loudly for the last hour I had to move seats, but I can still hear him!!

AIBU to believe that snorers just don’t give a fuck about anyone else? It is so unbelievably irritating, they must know they do it, but they never seem to care?!

YA(D)NBU!

Currently lying next to my snoring husband after doing the night feed with our 5M/O. I am contemplating new ways to remove his ability to snore. Perhaps decapitation will work? 🤔

I find a good poke in the ribs usually works @CannotBelieveImAskingThis !

I'm a snorer (allegedly) OP, but would hate to find out I had been doing it (loudly) in public. 😳

I doubt he knows.

Do you think people snore intentionally? Or that they enjoy/want/choose to do it? I often snore due to long established and impossible to shift sinus problems, and I am acutely aware of how unpleasant this is. Snarky posts like this are pathetic, and you wouldn’t get away with it about any other health issue.

It really is incredibly loud!! I moved 100 meters away and can still hear him!

I just cannot believe anyone could really not know they were making that level of noise?

@WinterMorn if I knew I did it I wouldn’t choose to lie down across 3 seats and go to sleep. I’d have some respect for the people around me. Not a single other person in the vicinity is asleep, though I’m sure many of them, like me wish they could be.

My DH is currently snoring away at an obscene decibel. Then there’s the cat also snoring. 😳

Information that wasn’t included in your first post and is also an entirely different issue.

Well think about it. If you knew you were doing it, you'd stop, right? But if you didn't know, you wouldn't be able to. Same with him. His larynx is collapsing involuntarily. Pretty sure he isn't doing it to piss you off.

Get a cabin next time. Or deal with it.

@Orbaret but surely people have told him he does it? And if you knew that surely you would choose not to sleep in public and irritate many other people?

I just cannot believe anyone could really not know they were making that level of noise?

Not sure if you are being entirely serious OP? Of course he doesn't he is asleep

It’s annoying, but I don’t think anyone sets out to snore? I sympathise because I spent 8 weeks on an antenatal ward opposite somebody with awful sleep apnoea, and it was absolutely horrendous, like a fucking plane taking off (I was on bedrest so couldn’t escape).

If they have sleep apnoea, they are more likely to have daytime sleepiness, and to fall asleep at the drop of a hat. So not surprising they are asleep on an overnight ferry.

@Mothership4two I meant more that you could get to 40 something by the looks of him without someone having told you!

And if you know, which I maintain all adult snorers will know they do, you shouldn’t sleep in public because it’s horrible for everyone else!

@Orbaret and maybe he could have got a cabin, being as he’s the one with the fucking problem!

There only one person that seems to have a “fucking problem” here……

Yeah you're right op, he should just remove himself from society and throw himself off the fucking boat. Whatever. People snore. Have you never been on a ferry before?

@WinterMorn you are just defensive because I bet you’ve also caused other people to scream inside with it and clearly didn’t care!

You patently don’t appreciate how draining it is when you’re tired and someone is making a noise like a plane taking off from 100 meters away. I didn’t expect to sleep but it would be nice to not have to listen to it for the entire crossing.

It’s a horrible thing to hear and I think OP is right.

Snorers just don’t care about anyone else.
They are often overweight, refuse to go to GP and almost always are the ones who stay in the main bed with the people listening to their crap on camp beds, on the sofa etc

Wow this is opening up a whole new world of snore-culture for me. Beds and camp beds and sofas, oh my.

@Orbaret Not one this late, no. I guess I just imagined most people had some basic respect for other people? It’s not asking a lot really, is it? To not sleep for less than 2 hours of you
know you make a noise that will annoy everyone around you.

It's public transport. Tune it out/lean into it. He's not going to stop. He's not personally disrespecting you, you bizarre person.

I used to snore terribly because I have a cleft palate and had obstructive sleep apnea. It got so bad that I was on a CPAP machine and had to have surgery to realign my septum. I don't find this very lighthearted as I genuinely couldn't help snoring and being unable to breathe properly at night. Imagine waking each night gasping for air and then reading that you should then be banned from society.
Oh, and I used to fall asleep in public if I sat down because I was so tired from lack of sleep.

From my experience (of my DF mostly) snorers don't realise how loud they can be - I have come across a lot of denial. A lot of people snore and I think it's unreasonable to expect every one of them to either pay extra for a cabin or try to force themselves not to fall asleep.

I understand being kept awake makes you cranky!

A couple of years ago we were camping and a man on the next pitch was snoring like a freight train the first night. I know he couldn't help it but I was so happy to see them packing to leave on our first morning there.

They do need to sort themselves out. It’s lack of consideration for others