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To be so fuming at neighbour!!

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rickandmorts · 15/03/2024 21:26

Where we live we have to park on the road with our 3 other neighbouring houses (can draw a diagram if required but don't think it adds much to the thread). We've lived here for a few years now and generally it's been fine but had a few minor issues with one neighbour (not parking related). But all fine, nothing to fall out over and I always say hi.

This morning DP was just about to go to work when he witnessed said neighbour drive into his car then drive off WTF. He rang her and she admitted it then said she didn't know it was his car. She obviously knows it's his fucking car as we've lived there for 3 years and there's only 5 cars that park there! Plus if she didn't know whose car it was (as she alleged) was she not going to leave a note? It's caused a lot of damage and is just a massive faff we don't need right now. I'm just so glad he saw it happen because if he didn't then we'd have thought someone driving past had done it and would have to fork out ourselves to repair it and we really don't have the money right now. Aibu to be massively MASSIVELY fucked off with her? DP is a lot more chilled than me and is just glad she'll pay for it but I'm fuming!

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Bonniegirlie · 16/03/2024 23:00

Definately report it to the police. She has failed to stop at the scene of an accident and also failed to report it to them, so two offences. Otherwise she might sleep on it and decide not to pay for the repairs. Even if they don't prosecute her you are best to get it logged.

tkwal · 24/04/2024 08:37

puzzledout · 15/03/2024 21:39

Why the police?

YANBU OP

Because you need an incident number to give to your insurance company. Don't try to sort this among yourselves, let your insurance sort it with her insurance....your premiums shouldn't be affected because your car was properly parked at the time. She made the choice to drive on, as OP said it was pure luck she was seen leaving the scene

SinnerBoy · 24/04/2024 09:00

rickandmorts · 15/03/2024 21:43

Yeah she's clearly a shit driver. She has a massive SUV that she clearly cannot drive. I don't even understand how she's caused so much damage by reversing out of a parking space.

The front ends of modern cars have crumple zones, in case they hit a pedestrian. They just collapse, to lessen the impact.

A couple of years ago, I was walking back to my car at a shopping park and there was a woman reversing into a space. She'd lined up badly and was half in two spaces - driving along the dividing line. She hit the two cars behind and devastated them!

She pulled forward and looked over her shoulder, then zoomed off! Hardly any visible damage on her rear end.

rickandmorts · 27/05/2024 20:18

The update that no one asked for but she collared my partner the other day and said she needs his insurance details as she needs to claim for whiplash and concussion. And needs an MRI to check for brain damage. I actually cannot fucking cope with this woman and wish I was trolling 🤣 for starters, why would she need his insurance when he wasn't in the car and the accident was entirely her fault. Secondly does she expect anyone to believe she would cause that much damage to herself by reversing into a parked car. And thirdly she's the one that drove off and tried not to say anything so how does she actually dare have the audacity to try claim off my partners insurance 🤣 I didn't want to fall out with her as this is our forever home but when I next see her I'm just going to have to tell her to fuck off and not talk to us again and that will be me being polite.

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GinandGingerBeer · 27/05/2024 21:29

No way! The audacity of your DH for erm.... parking his car GrinGrinGrin
If she needs an mri for an accident she caused herself, I'd let your insurers know so they can tell her insurance company she's not fit to drive due to a brain injury.

MzHz · 28/05/2024 00:08

Let your boyfriend deal with it. Support him, by all means, but don’t get stressed by it, you’ll end up taking on ALL his mental load and he’s a grown man, he needs to deal with this.

GoneFishingToday · 28/05/2024 00:36

Definitely report to your insurance OP.

I once had a girl hit my car just as I was walking away from it. I heard the bang, and turned around to see her trying to drive away, but she couldn't get out of the space quick enough. I hammered on the window of her car, and told her she'd just hit my vehicle. She got out, together with 2 friends, and told me she was going to take a photo of my car, as she didn't think she'd caused any damage. She told me that she was a nanny and was driving her employer's car, so I said "fine, if you're taking pictures of my car I'll just take a picture of you if that's OK, just in case your employer refutes any claim as it wasn't them driving? She didn't argue, so I took a pic. Just as well I did, as when the insurers found that there was damage to my car, and went after her insurers for payment, her employer denied all knowledge. I wrote to my insurers, enclosing a photograph of the nanny, explaining what she had said at the time, and lo and behold, her employers, suddenly agreed their insurer should pay!

The point I'm trying to make, is that people will almost always try to wriggle out of paying for the damage they've caused to someone else's property, so please don't take what your DH thinks is the 'easy way out', as it won't be. The fact that she drove away without telling you she'd hit your car, and hasn't informed your neighbours that she hit their visitors car, also goes a long way toward going to show she'll wriggle out of paying if she possibly can, so just don't trust her!

rickandmorts · 28/05/2024 09:06

@GoneFishingToday @MzHz it's all been sorted ages ago through the insurance, I just posted a batshit neighbour update last night.

@GinandGingerBeer that's a good point actually! I questioned her ability to drive before but yeah is she even medically able to drive if she's as concussed as she says 🤣

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thevoiceofreasoning · 14/09/2024 23:39

Opp was goi g to comment but just realised it’s sorted

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 03/08/2025 19:35

@rickandmorts definitely go through insurance. You need any repairs to be guaranteed, so that if anything goes wrong, you are covered. Your insurer could cancel your insurance if they find out you haven't reported it, its in the T&Cs - I am from an Insurance background. Once you've had insurance cancelled, you must tell any other insurer you ever quote with that you have had insurance cancelled before and it could be difficult and costly to find another insurer. Aside from that, how many people has she begged and cried to, not to go through official channels, how many cars has she damaged. What if the next thing she does is knock someone down and drive away. Definitely go to insurers and they may actually require you to report it to the police.

Theimpossiblegirl · 04/08/2025 10:52

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 03/08/2025 19:35

@rickandmorts definitely go through insurance. You need any repairs to be guaranteed, so that if anything goes wrong, you are covered. Your insurer could cancel your insurance if they find out you haven't reported it, its in the T&Cs - I am from an Insurance background. Once you've had insurance cancelled, you must tell any other insurer you ever quote with that you have had insurance cancelled before and it could be difficult and costly to find another insurer. Aside from that, how many people has she begged and cried to, not to go through official channels, how many cars has she damaged. What if the next thing she does is knock someone down and drive away. Definitely go to insurers and they may actually require you to report it to the police.

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It was nearly a year ago and sorted by now.

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