AIBU to insist on age appropriate TV at dinner time?

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I obviously don't think I am being unreasonable, but the reaction and sulking that followed tonight's request makes me wonder if others feel differently.

Kids 4 and 7. I asked if we could put something more age appropriate on, was told 'no' by husband. So I asked if he could go somewhere else to eat and watch it. Or turn it off.

He did turn the TV off, which is actually my preference anyway - I don't like the TV on during dinner but unfortunately I married a TV addict. He's not happy though.

He was watching Fresh Meat. Lots of 'fuck' language, and obvious sexual themes.

This also isn't an isolated incident, and if the kids are scared by what he's watching or I ask for it to go off/be turned over he gets annoyed and shouty. Then sulks.

The AIBU should be TV at dinnertime full stop. Forget the age appropriate part!

You are unreasonable allowing him to carry on that behaviour, stand up to him and stick up for what is right for your kids

I did. Hence this post.
It's an ongoing issue. He did turn the TV off.

He is absolutely unreasonable on two counts. Having TV on during dinner is like declaring I do not wish to engage with my family, not only is it bad manners but it is damaging to children's language and social development and sets them up for a lifetime of bad eating habits. Then he puts something unsuitable on which should never be on when children are in the room at any time. He is a really shit parent, sorry OP but there is no excusing this.

FWIW Fresh meat is a great show! Just absolutely not for kids.

He watches inappropriate stuff around the children and then shouts and sulks. What an arse. Of course YANBU. Poor kids having such a shit as a father.

He sounds like a TWAT.

Can you lose that piece of dead meat?

Tempted to show him this 😆

As someone previously guessed, this isn't the only issue. But I did actually doubt myself so good to see its almost unanimous. Definitely given me a lot to think about.

It's not "incredibly worrying". Calm down.

But it’s not a one off so just don’t have the tv on at all. Plus if he is acting like that about the tv what is he like the rest of the time?

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Maybe I wasn't clear.
Fresh meat sounds like a terrible programme and shouldn't be watched full stop.

He sounds unfit to be parenting to me.

YADNBU.

Yadnbu! I choose tv dinner appropriate viewing and we are all adults! Not all programmes are suitable whilst eating.

What a selfish dickhead.

Your DH sounds like a prick! Kids absorb everything and my son is easily scared by things he sees on TV. Unless he’s watching kids stuff, or footie is on which he also watches but it’s rare, the TV is turned off.

Does he put the kids’ needs first in any situation, or is it only if what they need suits his wants?

Genuine question - why isn’t he bothered about whether what he’s watching might be scary or overwhelming for his young children?

The amount of kids crap I’ve had to tolerate over the years because I have children. I actually don’t watch any of my own tv until they are in bed, but it’s just what you do as a parent. Unless you’re completely self centred.

Totally inappropriate viewing for kids.
A hard no from me for that. I'd be concerned about what other things he thinks are ok for kids.

Firstly, all these comments about the husband you chose to pick on mine? Why?

Secondly, you don’t think it’s worrying that he chooses to watch programmes with foul language and obvious sexual themes in front of young children? Did you read the comment from OP saying it frightens them?

If it is going to be on, then it should be a documentary or something else suitable for the whole family to watch together. No kids or adults only programmes. Preferably off though.

You appear to have married an oaf.

No shade from me as I married a raging cunt of my own volition. I redeemed myself with excellent husband number two though 👌

He sounds awful. It's obvious to any decent parent that that is totally inappropriate.

It's not really a 😆matter. It's deeply disturbing. I'd consider phoning the nspcc for advice.

While I'm obviously not thrilled at the situation, I think you're being a tad dramatic.

What would I say to the NSPCC? My husband was watching Fresh Meat in front of the kids, I asked him to turn it off and he did (albeit he wasn't happy about it).
The NSPCC aren't there to navigate my marital issues.

The kids should be able to eat dinner without watching TV, especially about shagging students