Is there more to life?

[boredinmy30s]

It's the weekend and I have no idea what to do.

I have a boyfriend, we both live separately at our respective parent's house. We're trying to buy a home. Both work full time. He's out tonight with the lads. I'm at home. For context we live SE England, I'm 31 he's 34.

It's 6:45 and I've spent almost an hour trying to find something to watch on Netflix, Disney plus even bbc player. It's a Friday night and I'm bored shitless.

What am I supposed to be doing all weekend? Like im so bored. I've scrolled tiktok Instagram etc even making plans for tomorrow we have no plans beside a singular house viewing.

Can anyone suggest anything? Even if it's something to watch online. Pleaaaase what do people do?

Have a bath and do a spa night by yourself! Glass of wine, paint your nails, face mask etc.

What do your friends do on a Friday night?

Call a friend and meet up for a drink/ meal/ cinema/ gossip?
That's what l used to do.
You still have to have your own life .

Get offline if you want to feel less bored.

You could go out, read, make something, learn something, cook or socialise.

I have several diploma courses to study so pick those up if I have a spare hour or two. Sadly this is rare as my life is swallowed by husband, four kids, eleven dogs, elderly parent caring duties and full time self employment.
Enjoy your relative freedom to have time to be bored. Have a bath, read a book, order a takeaway for one, just do something that isn't scrolling online.

I have always kept myself amused by studying, making things and reading, any of those appeal?

"is there more to life?"

Not really, despite what FB, Insta and the like would have you believe.
When it boils down to it, "life" is pretty mundane.

What kind of things do you like to do? I'm poorly today but if I wasn't I'd be at the gym/swimming (I'm not super fit but I just do a bit of cardio) and I'm in a book club so I've always got something i "need" to read iyswim.

Eleven dogs?

I have three cats and they keep me busy enough

I don't really have local friends I have friends but they're all hours away. The friends I do have either all have children or other halves or busy doing up their homes.

I already do an online course on the side but I've finished what I can access for now until April.

I don't drink alcohol so sadly no wine for me.

I normally stream programmes such as real houses of Beverly Hills but that's finished now, I've watched a lot on Netflix too.

Trying to save money - for the house so find myself in a lot too.

Making friends in your 30s is hard. I'm not at the mum stage or even the planning a wedding stage. I'm living at home 😬😞

Read a book - free from the library

Can you meet a friend for a drink? It's good to keep friendships going and not neglect them because you're always doing something with BF.

Can totally relate because when I get really bored I get stuck in a rut and find it hard to concentrate on books or find anything on tv. What kind of movies are you in to ? Have you watched the documentary lover stalker , killer on Netflix? I watched that recently and enjoyed it it was bizarre. Watched poor things last night , which was strange but enjoyed it. The new Lindsay lohen film on Netflix gets shocking reviews and looks terrible but I meet give it a go over the weekend to see if it’s funny. A nice walk in the morning would pass some time if the weather is good.Will be home alone with my toddler for a lot of the weekend so can relate !

Green book is a good film.

Do you have friends? Hobbies? Interests.

It's a bit dramatic to suggest there's no point to your life because you can't find something to watch on Netflix...

Offer to help one of the friends who is doing up their house?

It’s more than that. I don’t have any local friendships. Trying to save money to move out. I don’t feel like I fit in any circle at the moment because people are in different life stages. Even at work the teams meetings are filled with what they’re doing for the weekend and I can’t add anything.

Choose a foreign language you want to learn. find some online resources like duolingo. Get library books on the language. Watch Netflix with the subtitles or audio in the language you are learning. Go backwards and forwards over the same sentences till they make sense. Scroll through right move and fantasize about buying a house in the country of your language.

Listen to Peggy Lee's 1969 song 'Is that all There Is?'

On the one hand I understand what you mean, but I'm twenty years older than you with health issues and caring responsibilities. When I was early 30s, I had moved in with my exh. We were meeting friends for dinner, renting films from.blockbuster (ha! Imagine !)with a takeaway, visiting friends for the weekend or vice versa.

It is hard if you are still at home. When do you expect to move out?

I was 35 before I afforded to buy but I moved out at 18 and rented. Rents are ridiculous now, I do sympathise.

I can only encourage you to get out and about. Do classes, cinema, meet friends, have weekend breaks... You're living like a teenager which sounds miserable at your age.

By living at home, do you mean living with your parents/a parent? Can you hang out with them or go for a meal or something?

I often used to go to the gym on evenings when I felt restless/bored/couldn’t settle. If it was a Friday night, I’d treat myself to a sauna and steam afterwards too.

I'm older than you but I'm watching Love Rat (Channel 5). It's ludicrous but passing the time. Alternating between Mumsnet and crochet as well.
Dc are older and actually playing videogames nicely together Dh is off out to the pub in a bit. I was invited but my pyjamas were already on and that cannot be undone!

Crochet's a good one actually. Easy to pick up and relatively inexpensive (until you get addicted).

Boring people get bored.

Find some hobbies OP. Google hobbies and work through the list until you find something you enjoy. Life is what you make it ☺️