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Is there more to life?

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boredinmy30s · 15/03/2024 18:50

It's the weekend and I have no idea what to do.

I have a boyfriend, we both live separately at our respective parent's house. We're trying to buy a home. Both work full time. He's out tonight with the lads. I'm at home. For context we live SE England, I'm 31 he's 34.

It's 6:45 and I've spent almost an hour trying to find something to watch on Netflix, Disney plus even bbc player. It's a Friday night and I'm bored shitless.

What am I supposed to be doing all weekend? Like im so bored. I've scrolled tiktok Instagram etc even making plans for tomorrow we have no plans beside a singular house viewing.

Can anyone suggest anything? Even if it's something to watch online. Pleaaaase what do people do?

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OriginalUsername2 · 15/03/2024 19:21

If you have sky “My brilliant friend” is binge-worthy

SKG231 · 15/03/2024 19:22

i did what you did. Living at home separately from partner to save for a house and I felt how you did sometimes. But just try and think of the end goal. Whilst other people may be out pissing their money up the wall you will have a home you own soon enough.

do you like to read? I find having a shower/bath and getting in some comfy pjs with a glass of wine and a chocolate bar in bed with a book absolute heaven. Try Lisa Jewell books they’re easy and really draw you in.

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boredinmy30s · 15/03/2024 19:23

mynameiscalypso · 15/03/2024 19:15

By living at home, do you mean living with your parents/a parent? Can you hang out with them or go for a meal or something?

Yes I live with both of them with a sibling.

I should probably add that Mum is unable to socialise atm, brother is very dependent and needs a lot of support. Dad works a lot and I have a long term health condition. Whilst it’s ok right now. A lot has happened recently. I’ve just started a new job after been unemployed for some months due to health reasons.

I was in hospital for a long time last year. But I’ve managed to bounce back with lots of positive steps since December. Moving out is a priority. Whilst I was unwell I didnt make too much of a dent in the house deposit savings. We hope to buy and he t out in a few months.

again thanks to those who have suggested things - money wise I’m trying to not spend in order to be out of the house into somewhere of my own.

Very difficult. I’d feel guilty if I but a takeaway etc as it’s money that could have gone to the house.

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SKG231 · 15/03/2024 19:26

You sound like you have your head screwed on and will have a great future.

I know you can get cabin fever living with parents/siblings as an adult but soon you’ll be in the comfort of your own home and there is honestly nothing like that feeling.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 15/03/2024 19:30

Are you always home whilst your boyfriend is out? (Not saying he’s not allowed out without you) but wondering if you are the one sacrificing all the time.

persisted · 15/03/2024 19:31

Bath and book tonight, a good audio book or drama to listen to while sorting general stuff out, folding laundry etc

Nice place to walk tomorrow, ideally one that goes past a cafe or pub for coffee.

Gym and/or swimming pool, Nose about for books in charity shops, find a new recipe to try for dinner, interesting Ted talks on you tube, teach yourself knitting or crochet, what's on at the cinema, clear out that drawer full of junk or pile of paperwork and sort it properly....

Minikievs · 15/03/2024 19:34

I do a gym class on a Friday evening. Even if I'm in for the night once I get home after that, I feel like I've done something productive. And seen people/chatted/had social interaction, which I think makes an evening in alone (especially at the weekend) more bearable.

S72 · 15/03/2024 19:35

Start volunteering? Many local Scout groups would bite your hand off for another helper - even if it was just every other week. I never did it as a child but started helping as an adult. A good way to meet people and give something back.

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boredinmy30s · 15/03/2024 19:36

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 15/03/2024 19:30

Are you always home whilst your boyfriend is out? (Not saying he’s not allowed out without you) but wondering if you are the one sacrificing all the time.

Some good ideas and responses so thank you all.

Yes we are either together all the time when not working or I'm alone at home( my parents house) Yes I'm the one who is often indoors when he is out.

Sadly I don't have any local friends. He often prefers to do things like cinema together - I suppose because we're trying to save money too.

It's a little hard in your 30s I'm not a parent so I haven't made any friends like that, I'm also not sure how to make them now if that makes sense. I have found an exercise I like but there's a waiting list for it and I do have some of them booked but he is also coming along to this class. I don't mind as it made it cheaper to have a second person

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FourLeggedBuckers · 15/03/2024 19:36

Buy a horse, lose all concept of “free time”.

And all hope of financial solvency. So don’t do it, just embrace the mundanity of life! It’s not forever, things change and you’ll have more free money / company in future when you move in together (hopefully). And then it will be worth investing in your life - hobbies or whatever you want to do.

fishfingersandtoes · 15/03/2024 19:39

You could:
Plan new decor for a room
Or plan out a garden or window box
Do some drawing exercises
Reread an old book or read a new one you haven't got round to yet
Go out to your local pub and have a lemonade at the bar (you might get chatting to people)

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 15/03/2024 19:41

I don't really understand boredom. The world is full of films to watch, books to read, languages to learn, music to listen to, places to go, musical instruments to learn, subjects to find out about, food to cook, crafts to do, ways to get fit. I wish I had more time to do more of them.

Helengreggregson · 15/03/2024 19:49

hikes are always good although sometimes it’s hard to get the motivation. I loved a solo hike (before I had my kid never have time now ).

Sockdolager · 15/03/2024 19:55

KnickerlessParsons · 15/03/2024 19:04

"is there more to life?"

Not really, despite what FB, Insta and the like would have you believe.
When it boils down to it, "life" is pretty mundane.

There is definitely more to life than living in your parents’ house watching TV and unable to think of a single thing you can think of to do at the weekend!

OP, see friends? Go to a film/concert/play? For the rest of the weekend, go climb a mountain? Go to the coast? See friends? What’s on locally? Go to a city you don’t know? Learn something? DH is away for work all weekend, and I’m at home with our DS, so nothing wildly exciting, but am doing a stone carving course tomorrow, going to an exhibition with a friend, pick up food at the market, will take my mother for a belated Mother’s Day lunch on Sunday, I have roses to plant, and a stack of unread books, and will bake and hang out with DS.

Honestly, when I got bored in my 30s, I tended to up and move countries! A new language, culture, climate etc.

SomersetTart · 15/03/2024 19:56

How about going through your clothes, books and accessories and having a good sort out. You could make up a bundle of things you no longer need and tomorrow take them to a charity shop. Perhaps ask if they need any volunteers who could give them a couple of hours a week/fortnight/month.

On your way back from the charity shop, call in at the library. If you're not a member, join and take out a few books on arts/crafts/hobbies that might interest or inspire you. Perhaps interior design books so you can plan for the home you will view later. Or a recipe book and plan a meal you can make for your family and partner.

Ask your mum a load of questions about family history (I didn't do this and so wish I had now she's gone and it's too late). Look through old family photos with her. Offer to walk a neighbour's dog or ask your mum if there are any elderly neighbours who might like a visit. Write a love letter to your partner. Call an old school friend. Do something silly that you used to do when you were a teenager but don't do any more. Visit the park.

I'm much older than you and these are golden days. Fill them with stuff you love because they are all you have.

Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think
Enjoy yourself, while you're still in the pink
The years go by, as quickly as a wink
Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it's later than you think

Tootsey11 · 15/03/2024 20:04

Green book as something good to watch. Really good film.

HungryandIknowit · 15/03/2024 20:14

If I had a few spare hours...in the daytime I would go for a hike somewhere nearby. I really fancy watching the old BBC version of Pride and Prejudice again so I'd probably do that in the evening (if I could find it).

HungryandIknowit · 15/03/2024 20:15

I might also make some riz au lait to eat while watching it.

Beacpom · 15/03/2024 20:17

I remember feeling like this before I had kids, now I want to go back and tell myself to do something with my evenings! Take up a hobby. Running is free, get the couch to 5k or strava app and off you go. Or gardening, get some seeds and grow some things. Read! Just find something you’re passionate about and enjoy it.

Gymmum82 · 15/03/2024 20:20

Friday nights I like to stay home and chill after a busy week. Most of my local friends I made at the gym. I have a few mum friends but the ones I see the most are gym friends. I workout with them. Socialise with them.
You don’t actually have to do anything at the weekend. Sometimes it’s nice to just have a chilled quiet one at home

Scousefab · 15/03/2024 20:24

Kin on iplayer is really good! Go for a nice walk!museums are free and yes face pack and some chill out time is a great idea.

Turmerictolly · 15/03/2024 20:52

Maybe gym or a swim or just take yourself out for a walk.

Pompom12 · 15/03/2024 20:53

Go to the garden centre tomorrow and choose a packet of seeds to grow. Plant them and it will be very satisfying. I am starting with cress,a chilli plant and bean sprouts. Have you a grandparent you can call to chat with? They would love it. I wish I could still call my Grandma's. Have a project learning to cook your favourite takeaway dish at home. That will stand you in good stead for when you move out and need the money. Take a bus ride, you can chat at the bus stop and there's always a guaranteed end to the conversation.

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boredinmy30s · 15/03/2024 20:55

Pompom12 · 15/03/2024 20:53

Go to the garden centre tomorrow and choose a packet of seeds to grow. Plant them and it will be very satisfying. I am starting with cress,a chilli plant and bean sprouts. Have you a grandparent you can call to chat with? They would love it. I wish I could still call my Grandma's. Have a project learning to cook your favourite takeaway dish at home. That will stand you in good stead for when you move out and need the money. Take a bus ride, you can chat at the bus stop and there's always a guaranteed end to the conversation.

Touchy subject as I just lost my grandad two weeks ago. I can try the garden centre but again not my property so seeking permission to grow something in someone else's home isn't ideal..

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Noicant · 15/03/2024 20:55

Read a book

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