To not want ‘big’ holidays until my child is older?

[lilo92]

So my DD is going to be 1 next month. We never got a honeymoon because of Covid and then having her, so my husband is suggesting after her birthday we book a holiday to Mauritius. He’s found an amazing package to be fair, but it’s about 3 times as much as what we’ve looked at for going to Santa Ponsa for a fortnight, both all inclusive.

Even without taking a 1 year old on the plane that far, I’m loathe to spend more money on what is a similar holiday for us with a youngster, but she won’t even remember? Had this conversation with my Mum a few weeks ago too as my cousin lives in Paris just now for work and we were all talking about going to visit, Mum suggested a day at Disneyland for DD and I said I’d rather wait til she’s older, a lot of money for something she won’t get anything out of yet.

Mum and husbands reactions have been similar - am I being horrible not wanting to take her? We have plenty of trips to the beach, and the park and the zoo and we took her to centre parcs for one night when visiting friends when she was really little. I’m not saying no to taking her on holiday, I just think it’s a bit wasted. I messaged my friend group chat and they’ve told me to just go if husbands willing to pay for it and they wish they could - nobody is seeing my point and I feel like a bad Mum because I’m not wanting to take her, but nobody is getting my point.

am I being unreasonable?

Took DD on her first trip at 9 weeks (also Santa Ponsa !) and flew her regularly round the world . Easily more than 15 times a year .
Was never a problem with time zones or sickness etc .
Only once was she unsettled through teething .

I would definitely go to Mauritius , but I will go anywhere so possibly my opinion not worth much !

Enjoy wherever you end up !

Bear in mind that once she’s 2 you have to pay for a child place (which often isn’t very much cheaper than an adults) so it will get significantly more expensive when she past that age.

I’d compromise on a posh holiday but short haul so you’d not have the nightmare journey. At 1, she won’t need a seat on a plane and most holiday companies charge very little to take an under 2 on holiday, so it’s the cheapest way to have the honeymoon style holiday.

At 1, she’s probably going to fall asleep in the buggy in the evening so you can go out for dinner, able to have “date night” evenings with a buggy next to you, whereas in a couple of years, you’ll be eating as a family and trying to find kids friendly menus, or picking hotels with evening kids clubs.

Also Disneyland Paris - do that at 4, IME it’s the most magical age without being too tired to actually do much.