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To stick to terms of agreement with friends

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Bungybungy · 14/03/2024 10:05

Burner account. I’ve been friends with F for decades. She had a large social media presence. I’ve worked hard to establish my business and have been successful. I’m proud of what I’ve achieved. 5 years ago, F came to me with a business idea, wanting to set up herself. She didn’t at that time have the funds to set up by herself so I agreed to invest a not insignificant sum in return for 20% of the business. She was happy with that deal, and because I work in legal services, I got our guy who deals with contracts to draw up an agreement specifying what rights and responsibilities etc. Although this was an area she had worked in before, she had never actually run a business before. I guess that’s why she came to me in part, so it wasn’t just about the money. To her credit, and using my advice, the business has grown quickly and is well known. At the time of the investment I understood that I could just as easily have lost my money completely.

Our relationship is now very difficult as I’ve realised over the last 2 years that she’s been distancing herself from me, which is fine, relationships come and go, but last week I got a letter from her solicitor telling me that she was unhappy with my ownership and that she wanted to buy me out for just over my initial investment. Given the business is now worth several times over my initial investment, I can’t accept that (she put close to no money in herself). For her to pay me off would cost her 5 times my initial investment. AIBU to expect her to honour the agreement? I know she’s contractually bound but she’s been so vile about this, I’m second guessing myself. She keeps threatening to “out” my business via her social media(I have no idea what this means). I’m actually scared about what she could do.

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Weezypopsy · 13/06/2024 13:00

Shame about the friendship but it really sounds like you are better off out of it anyway! Hope you get a great deal out of it!

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 13/06/2024 15:44

I’ve left it in the hands of the solicitor who has seen this sort of thing a lot apparently but has reassured me about what my share is worth and it’s much more than was on the table.

Hmm, I wonder how often people try to pull this stunt with the Dragons on TV? I'll bet they have the best lawyers around, but they probably still have chancers giving it a go.

It's not uncommon to see people actually negotiating their deal on the show, who seem convinced that the Dragons are only there to help them with a hefty (interest-free) business loan, without expecting anything from their investment at all apart from, at best, their money back and nothing else.

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 17:14

From what I can gather, she’s only recently instructed a solicitor, as she didn’t see the need . Thankfully mine is great and brought her up on her shit very fast. She had some ‘legal advice’ from a friend of her husband (who is having an affair with someone he works with,,whole other story but may explain some of the recent madness) who told her that she could simply give me back my money as she didn’t take legal advice before she agreed to the investment. Never again. We still have a mutual who is chipping away at it on her behalf asking me to ‘be kind’ but that ship has not only sailed, it’s shipwrecked.

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Riverlee · 13/06/2024 17:19

Thank you hope the update. Hope it’s all resolved soon.

pavedwithgoodintentions · 13/06/2024 18:06

Hope she is forced to do the right thing in the end and it's resolved soon.

Some people are just so entitled and greedy. She was happy to take the investment and help, but doesn't want to honor her side of the agreement? Utter user.

Ellie525 · 13/06/2024 18:11

Glad you're standing your ground and just letting solicitors sort it out! Hope it's not been too rough on your daughter too it all sounds unnecessarily nasty 😭 (not your fault obvs!)

TruthorDie · 13/06/2024 18:13

Oh god, the “be kind” nonsense while they are being an arsehole. Thanks for the update

HappiestSleeping · 13/06/2024 18:17

TruthorDie · 13/06/2024 18:13

Oh god, the “be kind” nonsense while they are being an arsehole. Thanks for the update

IKR? One could argue that the OP is being kind by educating the CF in the ways of real business dealings. 😂

TruthorDie · 13/06/2024 18:22

HappiestSleeping · 13/06/2024 18:17

IKR? One could argue that the OP is being kind by educating the CF in the ways of real business dealings. 😂

That’s a good point actually 🤣🤣🤣

Mothership4two · 13/06/2024 18:25

I would tell the 'be kind' friend that she hasn't been very kind to you and has made threats against you. Also you were very kind initially to her by investing your money when, probably, no-one else would and you took a risk and the reasonable/usual thing is to make money on investments. Expecting to pay out what was paid in is nuts and naive and the sort of thing parents do.

Helen1625 · 13/06/2024 19:49

Thank you for keeping us up to date 😊

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/06/2024 15:35

Wha? What sort of utter muppet thinks she could just give back your original investment on the grounds she didn't get proper advice before going ahead...

Honestly, someones left the gate open at the idiot farm there!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 14/06/2024 16:05

Thanks for the updates, OP, and as I said in the first place I think you're doing the right thing leaving this in legal hands

It's a shame about what you thought was a real friendship, but realistically it was never going to recover with the attitude she took, and there's no reason for you to be out of pocket as well

RadFs · 02/12/2025 13:46

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 17:14

From what I can gather, she’s only recently instructed a solicitor, as she didn’t see the need . Thankfully mine is great and brought her up on her shit very fast. She had some ‘legal advice’ from a friend of her husband (who is having an affair with someone he works with,,whole other story but may explain some of the recent madness) who told her that she could simply give me back my money as she didn’t take legal advice before she agreed to the investment. Never again. We still have a mutual who is chipping away at it on her behalf asking me to ‘be kind’ but that ship has not only sailed, it’s shipwrecked.

Hi @Bungybungy i know it’s been a while. What came out of this? Hope you got it all
sorted

Bungybungy · 03/12/2025 18:42

RadFs · 02/12/2025 13:46

Hi @Bungybungy i know it’s been a while. What came out of this? Hope you got it all
sorted

Thanks for checking in. I handed all of it over to my solicitor, who fought her tooth and nail. In the end, I was bought out for what my share was worth, but not without an awful lot of emotional aggro, lies and denial on her part. We are, obviously, no longer friends. She regularly pops up on my SM feeds (largely because she has recently lost a huge amount of weight and is clearly lying about how) but I’m over the hurt and very much the wiser for it.

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