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To stick to terms of agreement with friends

265 replies

Bungybungy · 14/03/2024 10:05

Burner account. I’ve been friends with F for decades. She had a large social media presence. I’ve worked hard to establish my business and have been successful. I’m proud of what I’ve achieved. 5 years ago, F came to me with a business idea, wanting to set up herself. She didn’t at that time have the funds to set up by herself so I agreed to invest a not insignificant sum in return for 20% of the business. She was happy with that deal, and because I work in legal services, I got our guy who deals with contracts to draw up an agreement specifying what rights and responsibilities etc. Although this was an area she had worked in before, she had never actually run a business before. I guess that’s why she came to me in part, so it wasn’t just about the money. To her credit, and using my advice, the business has grown quickly and is well known. At the time of the investment I understood that I could just as easily have lost my money completely.

Our relationship is now very difficult as I’ve realised over the last 2 years that she’s been distancing herself from me, which is fine, relationships come and go, but last week I got a letter from her solicitor telling me that she was unhappy with my ownership and that she wanted to buy me out for just over my initial investment. Given the business is now worth several times over my initial investment, I can’t accept that (she put close to no money in herself). For her to pay me off would cost her 5 times my initial investment. AIBU to expect her to honour the agreement? I know she’s contractually bound but she’s been so vile about this, I’m second guessing myself. She keeps threatening to “out” my business via her social media(I have no idea what this means). I’m actually scared about what she could do.

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Riverlee · 17/03/2024 14:33

Isn’t any defamatory comments on sm etc slander (or libel, never remember which is which).

Basically you’ve been a ‘dragon’ (as in Dragons den ) to her and should reap the rewards.

DisabledDemon · 17/03/2024 18:33

Has she not watched Dragons Den? You make an investment, you expect a profit!

Backmarks · 18/03/2024 19:28

Riverlee · 17/03/2024 14:33

Isn’t any defamatory comments on sm etc slander (or libel, never remember which is which).

Basically you’ve been a ‘dragon’ (as in Dragons den ) to her and should reap the rewards.

Off topic, but I used to get these mixed up too, till I figured it out as follows...

"Lib" for libel, and "lib" for library - libel is written.

"S" for slander and "s" for speaking - slander is spoken.

Riverlee · 18/03/2024 20:07

@Backmarks Thank you, a great way of remembering the difference.

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 18:47

On a completely unrelated note: anyone got a Tattle Life invite they can give me? 🤬

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fuzzleberry · 07/04/2024 18:48

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 18:47

On a completely unrelated note: anyone got a Tattle Life invite they can give me? 🤬

You can't just start posting there? I never knew that

HalebiHabibti · 07/04/2024 18:49

Ooh.

<placemarks for further updates>

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 18:49

fuzzleberry · 07/04/2024 18:48

You can't just start posting there? I never knew that

Apparently not.

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LenaLamont · 07/04/2024 18:53

ooooooooooo! What's occurring, OP?

LenaLamont · 07/04/2024 18:58

(I just Googled what Tattle Life is, so CRIKEY!)

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 19:01

LenaLamont · 07/04/2024 18:53

ooooooooooo! What's occurring, OP?

Can’t go into details because it’s getting ridiculous and weird but I’d like to join Tattle as a matter of urgency.

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ThinWomansBrain · 07/04/2024 19:06

Is her business listed?/
If not, who has valued the business/what basis is it valued on?

Dontbeme · 07/04/2024 19:29

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 18:47

On a completely unrelated note: anyone got a Tattle Life invite they can give me? 🤬

Just sent you a message, how much popcorn should I stock up on?

fuzzleberry · 07/04/2024 19:30

@Dontbeme how many can you invite? 👀 I've got huge fomo now!

Bungybungy · 07/04/2024 19:31

Dontbeme · 07/04/2024 19:29

Just sent you a message, how much popcorn should I stock up on?

Thank you!! It’s more so I can actively monitor than post but thank
you xx

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HappiestSleeping · 07/04/2024 19:38

We will be needing a second thread on this soon.

Dontbeme · 07/04/2024 19:40

fuzzleberry · 07/04/2024 19:30

@Dontbeme how many can you invite? 👀 I've got huge fomo now!

I'm actually not sure, it's the first time I have referred anyone. Anyone can read over there and from time to time they allow new accounts to be created without referral. I think they do this to prevent or try to control troll or spam accounts being mass created.

Weezypopsy · 12/06/2024 22:28

What happened here OP? Did it get resolved?

determinedtomakethiswork · 12/06/2024 22:52

I want to know that too! Presumably the other ex friend has been posting on Tattle. I remember this thread and thinking that if the ex friend was relying on her lovely personality for a living then she was making a grave mistake here!

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 06:33

Thanks for asking. Still in negotiations. I’ve left it in the hands of the solicitor who has seen this sort of thing a lot apparently but has reassured me about what my share is worth and it’s much more than was on the table. The friendship is over which has been a tough lesson and hard as I’ve never experienced anything like this before.

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HappiestSleeping · 13/06/2024 06:48

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 06:33

Thanks for asking. Still in negotiations. I’ve left it in the hands of the solicitor who has seen this sort of thing a lot apparently but has reassured me about what my share is worth and it’s much more than was on the table. The friendship is over which has been a tough lesson and hard as I’ve never experienced anything like this before.

Stand firm @Bungybungy is a shame, but you did this with the best intentions. It's not your fault that your former friend has thrown it back at you. Unfortunately, business and friendship are often incompatible bedfellows.

Holypricks · 13/06/2024 07:29

Well more fool the other party.

HappiestSleeping · 13/06/2024 08:13

HappiestSleeping · 13/06/2024 06:48

Stand firm @Bungybungy is a shame, but you did this with the best intentions. It's not your fault that your former friend has thrown it back at you. Unfortunately, business and friendship are often incompatible bedfellows.

*it's a shame.

(Bloody auto correct. There's always one I miss. )

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 10:45

determinedtomakethiswork · 12/06/2024 22:52

I want to know that too! Presumably the other ex friend has been posting on Tattle. I remember this thread and thinking that if the ex friend was relying on her lovely personality for a living then she was making a grave mistake here!

I wanted the tattle life code as I know she slags off other influencers on there and wanted to follow the threads in case things got really nasty. Still could do with a code if anyone has one?

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RadFs · 13/06/2024 10:52

Bungybungy · 13/06/2024 10:45

I wanted the tattle life code as I know she slags off other influencers on there and wanted to follow the threads in case things got really nasty. Still could do with a code if anyone has one?

Sorry I don’t have a code. Just tried checking the website out doesn’t seem very user friendly. I hope once it’s all sorted in your favour you can come and tell us who exactly the person was. These ‘influencers’ are very fake. I tend not to follow them. They tend to block you the minute you say something they don’t like.

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