To think he shouldn’t have left it all

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My partner is doing night shifts atm, so he is tired which I get. We have two young DC, and I’m working full time so I’m shattered as well. I had a random day off as had leave to take and took the DC out to see my family, he told me we had a supermarket delivery coming today but it was coming when I was out this morning so he was gonna wait for it to come before going bed.

I’ve come home and he’s left it all over the floor behind our front door so I’ve got in and pushed into piles of food, even dairy products which have been sitting out for 6 hours.

i get he’s tired and he wanted to go sleep but seriously….I'm fuming he’s left it for me to do or at least could have left it in a tidy way/away from front door/put dairy products away.

aibu to think it’s not on to just leave a food delivery everywhere or cut him slack because he did a night shift?

YANBU. He should have at least put the fridge stuff away!

I agree ^
He should have left it away from the door too.

YANBU. If our shop comes at bedtime we move all the bags to the kitchen and sort out the fridge/ freezer stuff. Cupboard stuff can wait for the morning but realistically how long would it have taken for him to put it all away?

YANBU. I'd be fuming over that. It would have taken him, what, 10 minutes?
Clearly his time is more valuable than yours, OP.

I actually think it's pretty terrible. One of those little glaring moments in life where you realise someone doesn't give you a second thought.

Frozen and chilled items away. Bare minimum

You don’t need to be so dramatic!

YANBU, he should have at least put the dairy/fridge stuff away. I wouldn’t make a big deal over the cupboard stuff.

If you have a 'should', you must have rules. What rules is he meant to be following, why isn't he following them, and do you always follow them yourself?

Personally, nobody in my house would do this unless there was an emergency of some kind. Shopping may be left out, but fridge/freezer stuff would be put away to stop it going off. Have you asked him about it? Maybe he felt nauseous or faint or something? The fact that you're fuming suggests that this sort of thing wasn't a one off, otherwise you'd just be worried about him.

He should have put fridge stuff away and moved the rest to a better place, it would have taken what? 5 minutes? And wouldn’t have taken much longer to put the whole shop away really, no matter how tired you are.

You both sound exhausted. I’d just sigh and roll my eyes. Exhausted people so silly, selfish things. Not worth having an exhausted, rowdy argument over it.

FFS I did nights and everything else including doing the bloody shopping not just putting it away after delivery.

You don’t just do feck all because you are tired. It’s business as usual regardless of shifts.

Id be annoyed and be voicing this annoyance.

I am exhausted and stressed in general as have a lot going on so I just didn’t appreciate it. I know full well if I did that he’d be mad, he makes digs at me for the way I tidy even tho I do most of it but it’s fine for him to do this. He’s very tired too and I know he’s not unwell, he just couldn’t be bothered as he’s tired. I also onow he hates putting the shopping away and he can be lazy at times, but he decided to do this shop, im probably feeling extra sensitive about it because he could have just quickly text to say so I didn’t come home to more work to do without realising.

Does he ever put the shoppi ng away? Or does the kitchen fairy usually do it?

Pure fucking laziness. Even my children wouldn’t leave a food shop on the floor if the delivery came when I was out. I actually hate putting the food shop away, it’s my worst job, but it’s kind of standard that once you get the shop you put the food away?

Did he not have the stuff in bags? And why not carry those bags in to the kitchen? I just don't understand why he wouldn't at least put the fridge/freezer items away. Bizarre.

He could have at least put the fridge and freezer stuff anyway!

Good lord. We have had a delivery arrive 40 mins early while I was out and DH was in the middle of an important client call. He still managed to shove the chilled stuff in the fridge!

I know full well if I did that he’d be mad, he makes digs at me for the way I tidy even tho I do most of it

There's a backstory here of him being lazy and critical in a more general sense.

Yanbu. Lazy bastard.

I would find it disrespectful too 'oh she'll do it'

It seems odd that he (or you) ordered a supermarket shop to be delivered at a time that was super inconvenient for it to be taken in. Had you/he ordered it with the expectation that you'd be there to take it in and then you had a last minute change of plans, leaving him in the lurch? If that was the case, did you actually check with him that he was OK to stay up and take it in before changing your plans?

In any case, I'd certainly have put any fridge or freezer stuff away as I'd not have wanted it to spoil, but I might well leave the other stuff out for the other person to put away if it was a job they were supposed to have been doing in the first place and it was in the middle of my sleeping time..

no I didn’t leave him in the lurch… i already made plans and he knew. It was his choice to order it then. It wasn’t my “job” to do.

Why on earth would he order it to be delivered at a time that he was tired and you were out. Bizarre.

I work from home and get food delivered, but I take 10 minutes to unload the delivery into bags. The cold things get put away immediately and the rest of it gets put on the pantry floor for unpacking when I've finished work.

Leaving cold stuff out at room temperature for hours is a cardinal sin, in my opinion. Food is too expensive to risk it spoiling because he couldn't be bothered to take 5 minutes to put it away. I would expect a lazy, stroppy teenager to know better than that.

He arranged the delivery?
Bare minimium would be fridge and freezer stuff away in this house.

Lazy arse, hopefully he'll be having sour milk on his cornflakes.

YAnBU - My DH works night shifts and would put it away.