Not even a text from DD

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AccaDooo · 12/03/2024 09:06

I have 2 DC, both early 20s. DD is in South America for her year abroad at uni. DS lives 30 min away.
For Mother's Day DD hasn't even messaged. I left it for Sunday and yesterday, incase she was busy or time zones. But she has messaged in the family group chat since.
She has been travelling over Father's Day for the last few years and never once forgot to send a gift and give DH a call.
I'm pretty certain she knows it was Mother's Day as her brother posted on Facebook, and her cousins did too, for their grandma and they all tagged her in the posts.
While she's been away we've been texting most days (not directly but in the family group chat) and she FaceTimes once a fortnight, which will be this Thursday.

AIBU to be upset? Should I mention it when we next talk?

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Verv · 12/03/2024 13:26

Wishimaywishimight · 12/03/2024 09:24

If she is on Facebook then she was fully aware that it was Mother's Day in the UK.

People are always so quick to explain and dismiss selfish behaviour in teens / young adults, I don't think this does them any favours at all. Children should be made aware from the beginning that mum and dad are people too and also deserve to be appreciated and celebrated.

I would mention it to her next time you speak - just a "it would have been nice to hear from you on Mother's Day". Surely she is not so delicate that this is going to traumatise her. Let her know that it would mean something to you to hear from her on such occasions.

Dont do this^ OP.

It'll quite rightly make you come across as needy and passive aggressive.

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