How do you react when you see/hear nasty things said about you that you weren’t meant to hear?

[StuckInARut40]

Something popped up on my Facebook feed that was basically someone who I thought was a good friend bitching about me. It was on a group that I’m not a member of, and randomly popped up in my feed, and it was blatantly about me. I’m so hurt as I thought they were a friend, but am not sure what to do about it.

YABU- just let it go, it wasn’t meant for you to see
YANBU- say something to the person as you won’t be able to forget what they’ve said

She was sorry you'd seen the FB meme/message but not sorry that she'd bitched about you behind your back? That's no friend.

Hurtful for you and a huge disappointment when you realise a friend isn't a friend after all but you'll have to just shrug it off and move on. As you say, no more need to 'have coffee/chat' anymore. Just do the necessary lifts for the kids and nothing else. If she's done that to you, she'll have done it to others previously.

(My DH is like yours; he has an extra sense where a 'friend' of mine was concerned; I couldn't see it at the time but a few years later, things happened and the scales fell from my eyes and I could see her for what she really was. Funny how he saw it but I didn't.)