To have to keep reminding DH to keep his hot drinks out of the way of the kids

[aintthatsomethin]

My goodness gracious me. I have to remind him constantly to keep his drinks at the back of the counter, especially now DD2 stands on about every toy he can to reach the worktop and pull things off.

yesterday DH left his cup of freshly made tea on the edge of the armchair, I told him to be careful.. less than 5 minutes later DD4 bumped into it and burnt her hand. Thankfully not much got on her and mostly went on DH.

but again tonight.. he’s left a cup of fresh tea right on the edge of the worktop?!

Ugh my ex burnt my baby (I wrote a post titled this) I have no sympathy for your dh it's just being a stupid idiot and if one of your kids ends up in hospital like mine did it's all in him.

There were some good links on replies to my post perhaps you could sent them onto your DH

He doesn't want to hear stories like that ..he needs to smarting up his thinking or he and your child could be living it.

We just used travel mugs.

also helpful at keeping cats from messing with beverages, so we still use them even though we no longer have young children to worry about.

Yes show him this thread. I'm not even a parent and I know you have to be careful around children.

Ask him if he would leave razor blades or a cleaver within reach of your child. He is an adult.

I also agree with getting a couple of travel mugs and then put your other mugs away in the loft so he has to use one.

How totally ridiculous that this type of intervention is needed.

Will you also tell him he can't use the kettle if you're not at home?

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This. He's already injured his child once. I'd tell him if it happens again, you're reporting him to the police for child neglect. Because it is neglect to put a young child in harm's way.

I actually think he and anyone, who cannot seem to manage to keep not drinks away from children should only drink cold drinks in plastic cups. Forget the travel cup, he’ll forget to close that up and it will stay boiling hot for how long? Perhaps five times as long.

Yanbu of course for a toddler, but I have to say as a parent of a 4 year old that by now I wouldn’t expect people to be moving everything hot out of reach unless there was obviously boisterous play going on. We talk a lot about safety, and obviously I wouldn’t leave him alone right next to a boiling pot or with something else that is a serious danger, but there’s a thin line between child safety and cotton wool padding that doesn’t allow them to learn.

It’s infuriating, not just annoying and more so that he hasn’t learnt from the incident that happened. I have the very same issue with MIL, who in all child raising matters is a fucking know it all, yet I have frequently had to pull my son away from her cup of coffee or tell her to move. I nearly flew across the table one morning when I told her to move it, then son grabbed it and it went flying. Luckily mostly landing on my husband’s lap rather than child. The odd bit of mindless placement is forgivable but not constant occurrences.

When my Dad was a child his father was shaving in the kitchen (a tenement flat with no bathroom) and had a shaving mug of boiling water on the kitchen table. Dad’s 3 yr old little sister stood on her tip toes and pulled the mug of boiling water down on herself. She was so small and directly underneath it that when she pulled it the water engulfed her little face and chest.

She died a few days later in hospital. My Dad lived to age 85 and the horrific memories of that day never left him. Your child has come dangerously close to a possible life changing injury and your husband is carrying on regardless. He’s an utter fuckwit. You need to treat him like one till he gets the message 😡

That is exactly what happened to my uncle as a child. He’s now over 50 and the extensive scarring down his neck and chest/shoulder/back are still obvious to see. I believe it’s uncomfortable to some degree too.
i feel like your husband is a bit beyond help though, he’s already scalded your child, which could’ve been so much worse, and nothing has changed. Does he have any brain at all?!

Thank you for this thread. I know it's not why you posted, OP, but it's been a reminder to me to be extra careful with my DC around boiling water, in particular not just "popping upstairs" when there's something cooking on the back rings (we never use the front ones when the DC are around). It's easy to start bustling about doing stuff when I've got dinner cooking and occasionally go out of the kitchen, but actually from reading these stories it's reminded me that it just isn't worth it even if the risk is small. It just takes one small child to push a chair or stool to have a look at what's going on.

Tell him that when your child’s school/nursery are questioning how a supervised child got a burn it’ll be on him to answer any questions.

So many toddlers are scarred by hot drinks. I know two families at least myself. Weeks and weeks of visits to the burns unit. I would go fucking apeshit at this display of neglect, tell him I loved him less every time I saw it, and the next time he left a drink we’d be talking about whether he could be left with them at all.

No good saying "goodness gracious me", you need to rain down absolute HELL to him.

Scalds can KILL OP. And he needs to change his ways because this is child neglect.

I would accidentally knock it on to his lap and burn him tbh. Men like this will never learn unless they are affected.

@strugglingwithmentalhealth
It's tempting isnt it, to accidently spill a bit of hot cuppa of tea or ☕️ coffee on Arsehole shithead deadbeat partner/husband of @aintthatsomethin
to see how 🤔 he finds it

I think he find it enlightening too hot to handle sore subject to talk about,

Your DH is either painfully cavelier or thick as mince. Regardless of which, I agree with those saying he has to drink out of a sippy cup until he can be trusted.

I would genuinely hide all of the mugs and hand him a travel flask. One more infraction and the kettle would be thrown in a skip.