To have to keep reminding DH to keep his hot drinks out of the way of the kids

[aintthatsomethin]

My goodness gracious me. I have to remind him constantly to keep his drinks at the back of the counter, especially now DD2 stands on about every toy he can to reach the worktop and pull things off.

yesterday DH left his cup of freshly made tea on the edge of the armchair, I told him to be careful.. less than 5 minutes later DD4 bumped into it and burnt her hand. Thankfully not much got on her and mostly went on DH.

but again tonight.. he’s left a cup of fresh tea right on the edge of the worktop?!

It is infuriating, there’s only so many time I can say it nicely before I have to start really being firm and then he’s all “I’m watching it it’s fine” while he’s sat on the other side of the room.

I’ll start pouring it away, and he uses a travel mug
for work so I’ll suggest he only makes his hot drinks in that at home too as he can’t be trusted with a big boy mug yet🥴 probably won’t actually say that..

Men can be are simple creatures

Present him with the travel mug and he'll use it

He'll never get round to buying one

You should say that though OP. Because it's really really serious.

Going against the grain here but my children were taught from an early age about danger and not to climb up in the kitchen or even go in the kitchen.

If left unattended whilst I had to do something they were put in a big wooden playpen.

This was how I grew up and I did the same with my children.

Start pouring them down the sink. I was badly burned as an 8 year old by a scalding hot cup of tea (it was above my head on a mantel piece and a toddler was whacking a teddy around and knocked it onto me). I had 2 weeks off school and still have a scar on my back from it. It was so frightening for myself and my parents, I have a strong memory of being rushed to A&E in my dads arms.
I am still a bit wary of fresh cups of tea etc, I hate taking a cup off somebody, part of the appeal of nespresso coffee is that it doesn’t come out scalding hot! I’m so so cautious around my baby too, just not worth it!

At least he already has one so it shouldn't make any difference using one at home

He'll bang on about wanting to drink out of China

That's when you throw the China mug at him

My sister is still covered in scars from my nan leaving a cup and saucer near to the edge of a ledge and her little fingers wrapped around the ledge and tipped the saucer.
How ridiculous is the poster saying that children should be taught to stay away from hot drinks. The onus is on the (stupid) adult to keep them safe.

With the best will in the world, accidents do happen. Its not always due to stupidity. (Though in the case of the ops dh.. that is stupidity)

I'd pour it down the sink.
DS at not even 2 years old pulled a freshly made coffee onto himself, from not even being in the kitchen, in the time it took me to turn around and get a spoon out the draw. As I turned around to stir it the coffee was tipping over the edge of the counter and I couldn't stop the coffee spilling out. I literally used myself to shield him and stripped his jumper off before it'd gotten through his top. He was screaming his head off and I was an absolute wreck. He didn't get scolded at all, I bloody did, but oh my god, that feeling of seeing that boiling water heading for your toddler. Hes had multiple blue light trips, not breathing, seizures mostly. How I felt it that moment was comparable to how I felt when he wasn't breathing.

I have never had hot drinks anywhere near him, but it takes seconds. I would pour every single one down the drain.

he’s all “I’m watching it it’s fine” while he’s sat on the other side of the room.
nah. Knock the bloody thing over, every single time.

DH just had to get milk & bread. Simple? No, comes home with granary bread (DS hates seeds in his bread, he’s four years old). Every time… “That’s all they had!” In the whole of Tesco.

@TeeBee

i did that as a toddler too, my mum was doing my Nana's hair (perm!!) and one of them had put the cup in a saucer close enough so she (sitting down) could reach it. I reach up and tipped the saucer (that I couldn't see) towards me. My Mum at warp speed grabbed the hem of my (fortunately) thin summer dress and ripped it open & off & put me in the sink under the tap

fortunately I didn't get any burns, & I don't remember it.

shit happens. No need to help it on its way having mugs resting on the arms of the settee.

he's a fucking idiot.

@aintthatsomethin a travel mug will help with this issue, but it won't solve the actual problem which is that he doesn't think about their safety! Next issue could be leaving them in the bath alone or not holding their hand near the road, or or or...

He needs to be woken up to his responsibilities as a parent!!.

Yes you teach your children about kitchen danger but you also keep things that will harm them out of the way.

He is frankly being a danger to your child, I wouldn't be telling him nicely. When why DS was a toddler he got a hold of a long handled duster and used it to knock a scalding cup of tea over, that was actually placed far out of his reach. The force splashed it across the table and onto his little hand. That was bad enough, even when precautions had seemingly been put in place.

Yeah that happened to my sister she'd not long turned one, luckily my nana knocked it away from her face but I was 4 at the time and I remember the skin peeling off her arm as they had her under cold water trying to take her dress off

He's an idiot, pour his drink away

I wonder if your husband thinks it's your responsibility to watching the children, not his. That's why he's not bothered.

He doesn't see it as important

Not totally the same but similar, my ex-husband would always leave his glass right on the edge of the table/surface or even worse he would tuck the empty glass behind a cushion on the sofa.
The more I asked him to stop the more he did it because he could never stand anyone “telling him what to do”.
Eventually I removed all our glasses and bought plastic tumblers so at least I wouldn’t risk sitting against broken glass or a pet walking on it.
Even more eventually he became an ex-husband so now his lazy and arrogant ways are someone else’s problem.

Selective listening?
very irritating. Dh often agrees and nods, sometimes I then ask a question as I know he’s just not listening.. he’s like ‘what did you say again’
ffs

This is exactly that happened to my cousin’s one year old. It was horrendous. This is non negotiable. He puts his hot drink out of reach or he doesn’t have a hot drink.

I agree, tip it away every time. Then he’ll start thinking about where to put it so you don’t get it and that will keep it safe from the children.

Luckily my dp doesnt drink hot drinks as he would be incapable of watching kids/drink.
He - leaves all lights and fans on.
Toddler groups all have hot drinks and people - mums mainly leave the half full cups all around.

My youngest once licked the bleach spray bottle. They are so fast.
Pil have kettle on edge of counter with a towel under it so i used to push it all back.
A friends brother as a child grabbed the kettle chord and burnt badly so thats always been in my mind.

Why you're so concerned over this idiots feelings is beyond me. I would have read him the riot act ages ago.

My grandmother made a cup of tea and my then two year old uncle reached up and grabbed the saucer, pouring boiling water down his chest. He had the scars until he died and my grandmother never forgave herself. It was a momentary lapse in awareness, he was her fifth child, and it haunted her forever.

Start pouring them all away when you've seen he's left one hanging about

Personally I'd be tempted to drop a hot cup of tea on him, see how it feels. You know you tripped right oops